friend thing

[srow22]

Hey everyone, kinda in a dilema. There this girl right, go to college with her shes 24 and has a kid. Problem I think is im 19. She thinks thats too big of an age difference which I can see, cuz i think shes big in going to bars which i couldnt do. Anyway, i kinda made it known to her a long time ago i was interested but she let me know about the age difference and we're just friends. im sure everyone has something like this question, how can i make it more than just friends. today we had our last class together and we ended up goin on a field trip and she rode with me in my car. we're both increidlby flirty around eachother but today it was like ridiculous lol.. i think i really like her, but seem to run into this issue of liking my friends, which i dont think is a bad thing, the best and strongest relationships are built off of friendship. anyway, i seem to run into this issue quite a bit, then when i try to not date a friend i'm not really interested.. any ideas on how to help thanks!!!

scott

[Cain]

Honestly, I think you should walk away. You're only 19... too young to be a father... and that's what you'd be if you got involved with this girl.

[bluesummer]

The age issue has far more to do with the fact that she can go to bars and you can't. She has a CHILD. At 19, you are in no position to be trying to take on a daddy role, so you're better off as just friends.

Quite frankly, when I was 24 there'd be no way in hell I'd ever date a 19 year old, just to give you some female perspective. Most women will agree with me on that.

[shh!]

I think her flirtiness can be related to her having a child at such a young age... she is probably missing her carefree younger days.

I agree with the others - the developmental stages for the two of you are way too vast. You are nowhere NEAR old enough to be dealing with child issues. Walk away, my friend.