Opinion : Friendship Evolving or Straight Date?

[Lipp]

Right, just out of curiosity (and a quick study break, mesoamerican conquest...*yawn*)

...

So, which do you believe in?

1. A longer section of friendship that evolves into a relationship if it turns out that you are mutually attracted to eachother.

Or.

2. A quickly built friendship and early on showing your intentions by going into the dating business, and see where it goes from there.

If you want me to add any further alternatives, let me know, but as far as I know these are the two that usually show up.

---

I've always believed in option #1 since I think that a relationship between two people who already do well as good friends has a stronger foundation to succeed and be cheerful, yet faces difficulties as it takes longer to build up to, can be confusing and disappointing when it's not mutual. I often relate it to Storgē (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Storge)

[Cloud206]

nop...never make the mistake to take friendship to that level...just ruins it...

[Kromat]

Try to get to the relationship section as soon as possible and then build a friendship out of that.
You don't want to be friends long sections of time, because that's all she'll treat you as and will be happy staying in the frame of mind.
Love is an almost instant connection, that happens within a few moments of getting to know a person.
Ask the proper questions and see how comfortable you make each other, and it'll surely work.

[bob-bobby]

It is much better if you know the person before you are actually committed or into a relationship with him / her.,

this can be only possible by staying as friends and know the person in general .

[lesa]

I choose #2. I can build a girlfriend/boyfriend type of friendship while dating.

But not #1. I cannot date my long time friend. He would look like a brother to me. ewww. All of my long time male friends look like a brother to me. Ewww, that is messing with my mind.