Love is so hard!

[GreenTree]

Hi there,

I started to like this girl in the past semestre, but I found out she had a boyfriend, so I quit, since I couldn't ruin her happiness...
However, they broke up now and I started to see her more and more this semestre and I got to like her more and more and now I know I love her! I've dreamed with her countless times, I only think about her... She's so great, that I don't want to let her escape... Also there seems to be at least another guy who likes her... Anyway I've been trying to get the guts to tell her I love her for some weeks, but I couldn't do any more than to write her a letter and mail it. I thought she would probably break my heart, but instead she only told me she wasn't prepared for another relationship, so I told her we would stay friends, like we've always been, because I loved her company and wanted to be by her side when she needed me... And so I've been doing, but it's so hard! I can't take it... I love her more and more everyday and I can't think about anything else, I can't even sleep... She's one in a thousand... I don't know what to do now... Should I give her room, should I continue fighting for her? I always want to tell her I love her, but now I can't, since she told me she wasn't prepared for a relationship... But what can I do? Love hits so hard!

[squirrley]

You need to leave her be for awhile...you'll only push her away. From your post you two never dated right? And you mailed her a letter telling her you love her? I gather you havent dated a lot? I dont say that in a mean way-you were probably frightened. But I wouldve waited until you guys established something-a relationship. But you cant take it back now.

You may have freaked her out Greentree. Honestly-and or she thinks that was really sweet-she could have a lot of different thoughts about it. But she was honest with you and told she didnt want a relationship right now. So back off for right now. I mean say hi and be socialable but dont hound her.

If its that hard for you to deal with you should back off for yourself. This could make you nuts mentally-and its not healthy. When the feelings arent reciprocated in that sense-it becomes harder to deal with everyday. And those feelings you have become negative and or obsessive.

In my opinion I would leave this situation alone for youself. If down the road she comes to you with an interest in dating-great! But let it go for now...love does hurt but you took a chance that many dont...

goodluck...

[Ricky]

You seem to be in the same exact situation I am in. The girl I love also just broke up with her boyfriend but doesn't want to start a new relationship. It's driving me nuts, because I constanty think of her and every now and then I dream about her. It's hard to "move on" when she's the only person in the world you can think about.

[GreenTree]

I guess I just did something pretty stupid... It's time of college party here and I drank a little too much, so I sent her a message telling her I love her repeated like ten times... :/
I just want to apologize to her as soon as possible... And we were just moving on a little bit today!

[bumbum]

u should love her enough to give her some time...can you?

[Illusional]

oh boy, you just fuct up. telling a girl that you love her when she already has stated that she wasn't ready for a relationship... yeah..

well my first suggestion would be to call her and explain to her that you didn't mean what you said. you did tell her that you love her but you don't love her. in honestly you're just falling really hard and way too fast for her but don't tell her that either. just say that you were really drunk and you made the wrong decision. if she's your friend, she'll accpet your mistake. and if things go well, just remain her friend, but don't really hope for anything too soon because she needs time to heal herself. you don't want to be her rebound because that sort of relationship never lasts very long. she still has feelings for her ex being that they just broke up and i know that you don't want to share this feelings with her ex. give her time, lots of it and maybe things will work for you in the future. raverboy

[GreenTree]

Well, I've always been completely honest with her... She seems to appreciate it. And yes, I can give her some time. I'm doing it right now.