Problems with the ex......

[my_540i]

I have a great relationship with an amazing women. We've been dating for a while now and we are deeply in love. But latley we've been fighting a lot. She has a 2 year old by this other guy. Its important to her for him to be in the babys life. I respect and agree with that. Also he helps her out with money and he will watch the baby for the weekend. Because of that there is consistant contact between them. But latley he has been calling at odd hours of the night. Not wanting to talk about the baby but to her. He wants to get back together real bad but she doesnt. The calls come around and after midnight sometimes. He will ask her what her and I did during the day and where we went. She claims she doesnt like when he asks but answers his questions anyway. I know for a fact theres nothing going on between them because we practicly live together and see each other almost everyday all day. So recently I got mad at her for answering the questions her ex has been asking. I asked her to tell him to stop calling at od hours because they are not a couple anymore. He is crazy and probably wont and she said that but the point is I want to at least see her try to do something about it. I was just wondering if I had the right to be upset and say that or if i started a fight for no good reason.

[Illusional]

you have every right to be mad. honestly your girl is weak. that is the truth. she loves you but why does she give into him? it's probably cause of the previous bond that they did once share. i'm guessing that he was the one that controled more of the relationship but until she steps up and stands up for herself, you're going to have to push her to that level. your support will make her stronger to actually take a stand and tell him off. raverboy

[squirrley]

Of course you have a right to be upset. Youve talked to her about it but shes got to do something. Let her know you dont appreciate what hes doing and it is having an effect on your relationship. You dont have lay ulitmatums down with her YET-youve got to give her a chance to stop it. He will ALWAYS be in the picture because of the baby-but he doesnt have to be your relationship-Id let her know again how important she is to you and youre understanding of their relationship due to the baby-but if you guys want to continue this relationship there has got to be some boundaries set...

Its not your place to tell him-but Id stress to her that it makes you uneasy him calling all hours of the night and you dont feel its right seeing shes involved with you. Somewhere you have to be firm but look to be the good guy here-try a positive approach with her...