could use a bit of advice - Love Forum

Dude! · #1 (**permalink**) 23-06-04, 08:56 PM

OK i have this problem with girls...like everytime i meet a new girl i always end up getting way too attached way too easily. I dunno really why i just do i guess its just because im pretty lonely and never really been in a serious relationship because they never work out with me. Im 20 years old and ive never been able to date a girl for more then like a month without it getting all sqrewed up somehow which really sucks. But i was wondering if anyone had some advice on how to not get so attached like this.

sorry bout the poor grammar/spelling im not very good at it

KaWaiiSkYe · #2 (**permalink**) 23-06-04, 09:09 PM

It's alright about the spellin' 'n' everythin'. We've got people who's worse than you. Anyway. What do exactly mean by attached? It could mean a lot of things. But I can just say calm down a bit with the girl you're with. Which doesn't help much.

Dude! · #3 (**permalink**) 23-06-04, 09:15 PM

By attached i mean like i cant stop thinking about them and i just want alot of attention you know? Always wondering what they think about me stuff like that if that makes any sence. I fall for girls way too easily and i always end up getting hurt.

blue_moon2 · #4 (**permalink**) 23-06-04, 09:21 PM

awwwwww... you know alot of girls feel like that 2.

the best thing to keep someone off your mind is to pick up a hobby or somthing that you can do to keep busy. it is ok to feel quite attached, especially if your lonely. maybe you should try arranging to meet up with males friends more.. and invite her. maybe you will start seeing them as friends then.

KaWaiiSkYe · #5 (**permalink**) 23-06-04, 09:21 PM

Ahh. I get you. Next time, try calmin' down a bit like I said before. Let girls come to you. Hint it out to them that you wanna go out with em or sumin'. If they're interested too, they would come back to you.

Dude! · #6 (**permalink**) 23-06-04, 09:31 PM

hehe i never really have a problem with getting girls intrested in me its keeping a steady relationship i just dont understand them at all. For some reason im always the rebound guy its pretty lame.

BillyGalbreath · #7 (**permalink**) 23-06-04, 10:19 PM

DUDE !

HAHA Thats so awsome - I say that prolly 500 times a day.

Well dude, get attched. I know I do. Its fun. And if the girl doesnt like how your gettin so attached and she see's you as ****ing up or something, then **** her. DONT CHANGE FOR ANYONE. Be yourself. Do things that make YOU happy. Sooner or later you will find someone that will apreciate you for who you are and they will get attached to you as you do them.

WindyCityLane · #8 (**permalink**) 25-06-04, 07:13 AM

Though I'm impressed with Billy's outlook - the attachment you develop so quickly is probably some underlying issue that needs to be dealt with. I used to get attached so easily and after some therapy, I hope I have achieved a happy medium though I'm still way attached to my husband.

krayzie · #9 (**permalink**) 25-06-04, 10:29 AM

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OK i have this problem with girls...like everytime i meet a new girl i always end up getting way too attached way too easily

HEYYYY ....i thought i was the only one...wow... im glad im not....

but im sorry 2 say that i have found no solution 2 that problem...