Age - Love Forum

SeXehBloNde · #1 (**permalink**) 24-06-04, 12:25 PM

How old are you? And if you were attracted to someone, what's the youngest/oldest they could be before you would draw the line?

I'm 16, and there's a 22 yr. old guy who I'm good friends with and there's a slight attraction there for both of us. Also, the other day at Target, the hottest guy in the world, who happens to be 23, asked for my number.

Now I'm not looking for replies about how they're too old, just answer the top part.

Nice Lover Boy · #2 (**permalink**) 24-06-04, 12:51 PM

Umm...I think this topic has been posted up so many times already, but I'll be a sport and cooperate with yah.

I'm in my early 20's. I have known to be a magnet to older women. I do date them, but about a 32 year old would be my limit, or if they seem older, I don't date them because I know she won't feel comfertible and vice versa.
Young girls play games honey, I don't dig them.

m0by · #3 (**permalink**) 24-06-04, 01:28 PM

If your parents trust'em, then date'em.

SeXehBloNde · #4 (**permalink**) 24-06-04, 02:11 PM

Are you talking directly to me or just in general? Well if you're talking to me, my parents don't know about either one of 'em. They'd freak....

Nice Lover Boy · #5 (**permalink**) 25-06-04, 06:52 AM

Well, 16 and 22 is kind of a difference. For one thing, since your barely a teenager, your parents wouldn't feel safe with an "adult" because he is one. They could be afraid that he may snap and "oops" he did it again then take full advantage of you. But talk to your parents about it, ask your mom, "mom, what if like I like this guy who is really cute, funny, tall, etc....but he is 22, but mom, he is respectful and stuff..." something like that. Try it out, what you got to loose?

SeXehBloNde · #6 (**permalink**) 25-06-04, 07:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Nice Lover Boy

Try it out, what you got to loose?

My life. I mean, yea my parents trust me, but if they knew I was hanging out with a 22 year old guy, they'd think I was going to hang out with him every time I go out, thus they wouldn't lemme leave the house. In other words, house arrest.

Nice Lover Boy · #7 (**permalink**) 25-06-04, 12:24 PM

I see, you got some strict parent, egh!

SeXehBloNde · #8 (**permalink**) 25-06-04, 12:30 PM

Eh...they're not too bad. They just wouldn't want me hangin' out with guys that are 6 or 7 years older than I am...so I can understand where they would be coming from if they knew. But that's the great part, they don't know, so its all good.

m0by · #9 (**permalink**) 25-06-04, 11:59 PM

Why don't you date people your own age? You're asking for a trouble, that is what you're doing.

Bonovox40 · #10 (**permalink**) 26-06-04, 12:23 AM

There's also a little known legal issue called "jailbait". Another thing is that at your age, any older guy approaching you is going to make you feel like you're the center of the world. "An older guy likes ME over someone his own age? I must be better than I thought!"

Basically, someone his age going after you is all about either sex, attention, or lack of maturity on both sides. That whole age and gap in between is worlds apart in terms of knowledge, education, social status, careers etc. There is a reason that someone his age having a sexual relationship with you is illegal. It's not just because the government says so, it's maturity and respect. Sure it's fun to have the attention of an older guy, but do you really think he wants a "relationship" with you because he feels you could be an equal in his eyes? Look at it from his standpoint, what does he have to gain from being with you that he can't from someone who has lived life and had the same growth experiences he has? Not much really. Sounds like a booty call waiting to happen, so if you're prepared to just be used for that and won't wonder why he doesn't want to deal with your parents/high school drama/teenager issues after you give him a part of you, then by all means enjoy. It's you life, your choice. But some of us members see the sides you haven't had the opportunity to see yet. We look out for one another here if you ask.

MisINdpndT · #11 (**permalink**) 26-06-04, 01:47 AM

Well I know everyone called me a cradle robber but it wasnt as bad as 16 and 22. I was 18 and My Ex was 16. And we just recently parted being 20 and 18. His mom hated the idea and called me an old woman. (that lady has probs if you have read my topic on here). I never had a problem with it. To me. 16 and 22 or 23 is a big difference when your young. When your onled and more mautre and BOTH of age i dotn see that as a prob. Just for the fact that i know people that are married that are 10 yrs apart. But as of right now DONT.. They could be come nasty pedifiles. sp?

hallanole · #12 (**permalink**) 27-06-04, 02:22 AM

well you want an age difference. i dated a guy my senior year of highschool. we knew each other a year prior, he worked with my brother. so he waited till i turned 18 before asking me out. he was 27.

he was a great guy. but i broke it off with him three months later cause i wasn't ready.

SeXehBloNde · #13 (**permalink**) 28-06-04, 09:24 AM

Don't get me wrong, its not like I want a relationship with these guys anyways....at all. It's more of a fun kinda thing, we talk a lot and hang out. I don't wanna sound dirty, but he's clean and so am I, so when it feels right, we'll mess around, so its no big deal...

m0by · #14 (**permalink**) 28-06-04, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by SeXehBloNde

Don't get me wrong, its not like I want a relationship with these guys anyways....at all. It's more of a fun kinda thing, we talk a lot and hang out. I don't wanna sound dirty, but he's clean and so am I, so when it feels right, we'll mess around, so its no big deal...

Sure. Fun is good. Just make sure what you're doing is not regrettable.