Hey guys..

[Nameless18]

I just met a new chick recently and we've went out, kissed and lil stuffs. Somehow over the weeks we chatted, met up, got closer together but i'm a little worried. She has alot of guy friends than girls and i'm afraid that she would become attracted to one of em. Its not that i don't trust her but a few times after we met we've kissed. I really really really like her and i think she feels the same way for me too. Can y'all help me out here.. should i get closer to her or stay away so i won't get hurt so badly later? though i find that its very hard to leave her. i know that shes the type to stay loyal but i cant stop myself from being worried..

[britishchick]

I grew up with a large group of friends in our area..and 75% of them were guys...we were all like brothers and sisters and we still are to this day. Jusr because she has a lot of male friends it doesnt mean shes going to cheat behind your back. If she was attracted to any of them she would be dating them and not you so calm down and dont worry. Thats certainly no reason to finish it with her and if it worries you that much then talk to her about it, Honesty is the best thing and to be honest she will kinda love u and dig u more for the fact u care so much ur jealous. us women are like that!

[Nameless18]

lol. hey you have a point there. Yeah i know i should trust her more cause i know that it won't end up good if we don't trust each other. yeah and she keeps saying that she likes to make me jealous and miss her.. and i'll always be like.. wth? mad girl she is. btw we always laugh, have fun and i like being with her but i know she likes another guy a few months back before i knew her.. they're still keeping in contact. I've been thinking and realized that thinking alot wont do me good.. just depressed. I guess i'll just leave it up to fate then. Just hope it won't be cruel to me this time..

[Metalhead6six6]

The girl I just broke up with had a lot of guy friends, one of which she spent every waking moment with. Which royally pissed me off, but I kind of let it slide. If you feel that one of them is a particular threat, ask her to not spend so much time with him. It's what I did, and it worked. But yes, you should definitely try trusting her more, too.

[squirrley]

Oh you cant ask that person to NOT see their friends...wow thats controlling them. What youre experiencing is lack of confidence. Have some trust and faith in yourself.
She may be more comfortable with males as friends doesnt necessarily mean shes attracted to them physcially in any way...dont let that get the best of you-if youre into this girl then go with the flow-get to know her friends. But I have to say her telling you she likes to make you jealous and make you miss her-thats nuts. Why would she WANT to make you jealous? Shes also showing her insecurities and or playin some damn game. Watch for some signs here on this gal!

[britishchick]

i agree squirrley...i get on a lot better with male friends than i do with females.

[Nameless18]

Squirrley i dont have a clue to what shes thinking.. one moment we can talk just about anything and then she suddenly said some stuffs that can piss me off. Example, just recently, few days ago i had asked her beforehand to make this sat free to go out together with a bunch of friends. Then today(day before sat), she said that shes goin out with her other bunch of friends. I got pissed and told her off sayin she doesnt make time for me and this has happened not once but alot of times. She just kept quiet and later i told her i wanna go sleep and just hang up.

I somehow dont feel like asking her out or contacting her or anything. Just happened a few hours ago and im really frustrated. Ahhhhhh~~~!!!

[squirrley]

Damnn-ok shes obviously more interested in hanging out with her friends right now which might not be a good sign. BUT if you've made plans with her and shes agreed to those plans and now has changed her mind-well umph to ya gal-what is the girls deal anyway? I dont understand some of things she's doing-the games and stuff here-and this maybe another one-and or to test your limits.

Honestly-I wouldnt deal with this much longer-because if her actions continue on this path shes not respecting you-and you deserve better than that-dont allow her to walk on you-it sounds like shes been doing this more often here nameless-man Im usually an optimist when it comes to certain things but shes showing all of the signs of not wanting a serious relationship-more of will you be around when I want you to-

Ya know what? Heres my suggestion-you can take it or leave it and someone else may have better ideas, but I think you should totally not talk to her and or deal with her-yes youre pissed off to the max and yes you do need some cooling off time before dealing directly with her-but when you get your wits back-THEN you should talk to her and lay it on the line-NO MORE F*CKN BULLSHIT! Youve had enough and you need to express to her what it is you see in this relationship that is lacking-and what you want out of it. DONT scrutinize the hell out of her-ty to point out if any positive things about her-( from what you've said doesnt sound like shes stable right now) anyway find something and try NOT to attack her. Come from YOUR standpoint in this relationship. Let her know youre not the kind of person that wants this kind of relationship and youd like to be with someone who WANTS to share their time together, etc you get the idea!

If you pay attention to her body contact and her eyes and listen to her you'll know if you want to stay in this or say "F*CK IT" and move in...but dont let her walk on you! Be the person you are and dont change that just to keep her or anything cause its not worth this mental anguish she's putting you through right now-

Best of Luck and keep us posted!!

[Nameless18]

Thanks fer ya advices well now i'm not so hot headed as yesterday and i had a chatted with her just now over the phone. I've thought this over though i know that shes also at fault for not trying to spend time with me, i should not expect too much outta her. i dont wanna always asking and forcing her to meet me. Instead maybe i should just slow down my horses and let her hint of wanting to meet me. I didnt wanna be angry and lose her over some small matter cause after cooling down.. i know she meant something to me though i dont really know how she feels about me. Well.. i'll let keep ya updated on whats happening soon

[squirrley]

See what a little cooling off will do? Good for you..hope it all works out!

[Nameless18]

Hie i'm back again. So far things seem to get more complicated for me. It turns out the reason shes been like on and off with me is that she has bf. They've been together for awhile and she decided to let me know yesterday. It was a shock to me and i spent some time thinking things through. I really like her and have already put my feelings into her so it will be almost impossible to just forget her like that. She loves her bf alot but she also has feelings for me. I don't know if those kisses and closeness meant nothing or something to her.. i'm really lost for words now.

[Exodus]

Hey sounds like the same thing that happened to me man. I know how you're feeling right now. And there is no easy solution out of this because you do like her. The only real solution would be to forget about her, because even if she has feelings for you, she still has feeling for him. Thats not what you want, trust me. Unless she breaks up with her boyfriend, I'd try to just move on, that would be the safest route.

If you decide to try and get her, then be ready for what might happen.

[Nameless18]

Hmm.. now is i could either go after her or try to keep away. I wanna go after her but do you think she would stay away from me or keep her distance?