- | THE ART OF KINO | - From the moment we are born, all of us crave human touch. Just the thought of someone touching us can send chills up and down our spines or, under worse circumstances, make us very uncomfortable. Yet
kino, touching, is one of the
most powerful tools at our disposal for attracting members of the opposite sex.
Kino can break barriers and stimulate attraction.
Kino can signal confidence and act as an invitation.
Kino is the magic little wand that can bring you great happiness. Yet -
It - is something too many people are afraid to use.
So, What is Kino? Kino, shorthand for kinesthetics, is the art of touching someone. This does not mean sexual, although its uses in
that realm are infinite. Instead,
kino is touching someone in a social situation, hereby breaking the ice and paving the way for something different from your ordinary "Hi." Think about it, how often do you meet someone and say a simple Hi, maybe shake hands, and then forget all about that person? During the time you met that person, you just went through your usual "Hi, my name is" repertoire and the other person obliged and stayed to the "tried and true." Resultingly, nothing about the whole encounter was exciting enough to leave an imprint in either of your memories. Sadly, sometimes you
wanted to leave an imprint in the other's memory. But you didn't know how... didn't know what... and ended up being as boring and predictable as a campaign speech at a fundraiser. If there is
anything you should have learned by now its that:
Boring and
Predictable will
NEVER help you make attract
anyone, and I state that unequivocally. To attract that girl you've set your sights on you need to
STAND OUT FROM THE MOLD. You need to be different, show that you're attractive, confident, and
NOT like
everyone else. Thats where
kino comes in. By
kinoing someone, you're doing something no one else in this day and age is doing, you're initiating contact. When you
kino someone, you signal to them that its okay to touch, and the other person is at ease. Think about it, how often do you
kino your close friends? With my friends,
kino is constant. We high-five each other, we have the manly hug. When we joke, we punch eachother in jest, we touch eachother on the upperarm to get their attention, we wrestle, mess up the others hair a little, the list is boundless. Now rewind to the time when you were sitting down, you were at a party, at a friend's place, in class before the teacher arrived, and your -(
TARGET )- was on your left, right, front, back, soon to be on top, wherever! While you were talking, you could have made a humorous jab and then give the "we're just playing" look, hitting her on the shoulder. You could've noted an earring she was wearing, touching her gently on the ear with one finger before retracting it while making a comment. You see,
kino is like sweet magic, if you learn to master it, you can break the ice and get amazing results with them. So lets break Kino down into three categories:
Casual Kino
Casual Kino is just that, casual. Casual kino does not draw intention to itself, it does not make the other wonder why you touched them, it does not register itself consciously in the other's mind; yet, despite
all that, it heightens the attraction between you and that other person. So, "how" you ask? By breaking barriers.
Scenario One:
You met this Kathryn at a party and talked to her a for a couple minutes, its the day after and she's walking your way, on her way to class/work/the store/etc. You say "oh... eehh... Hi!" She obliges with a courtly smile, looking about as genuine as Pamela Anderson's breasts. She stays on course, walking towards her destination, away from you.
Lets
REWIND...
Kathryn is walking, you make eyecontact with her and you flaunt a friendly, wide smile. You wait untill she is within talking distance and say Hi, once again your smile opens up and you give her a friendly hug
Now... what have you done?
- You showed her you're a friendly guy. (NB: Friendly =/= nice)
- You showed her you're confident (not all guys have the balls to hug someone.)
- You've broken the ice and can now have a quick convo.
The magic three. All that with a hug... now, plenty of people hug... but, and a big but, most people are afraid to hug until x amount of conversations have gone by.
You, on the other hand, consider name recognition enough to allow for a hug. Now, there is nothing magical about a hug, but I bring it up to illustrate a point: body contact breaks barriers, shows confidence, and is friendly. Unfortuntately, too many people don't hug enough. (Note: Hugging girls also signals a bit of popularity. When I go to clubs, I'm always sure to collect hugs from the girls I already know, they then introduce me to their friends, I say hi, then continue my rounds, and in the mean while all the cute chicks notice me and that I'm a huggable, popular guy... consequently their interest in me doubles. This applies at school and parties too.) Moving on.
Scenario Two:
You're at the mall/store/campus and your friend Judy introduces you to the callipygian Gloria. Judy then has something to do and you have a few minutes to talk. Now, without focusing too much on the conversation dynamics, kino is important when speaking. Imagine you're making a point or have something serious to say, as you're doing this, place your hand on her upperarm for a second without looking at your hand, or making any facial expressions that signal anything has changed. Your face should be just as
cool and confident as if you were standing still, you must draw ZERO attention to your hand. Now, your hand should have touched her for a half-second before falling away. If you do this right, she pays greater attention to what you said, but you also accomplished the Magic 3 (break barriers, show confidence, be friendly). Now, if you do it wrong or she's an icequeen, she might act a little queasy because of the touch, in that case don't kino her for a while (but DO NOT BE FAZED, if you act scared or taken aback things get awkwards, once again, if she does act queasy, you don't notice, nothing changed). However, 98% of the time women respond favorably to kino. She might look a tad happier, her pupils might
dilate (signalling interest... or too much sunlight), or she might not give any noticeable clue at all, your most likely response. Odds are, however, she might kino you in return (after all, its okay now). After doing that kino, I usually stay off the kino for about a half-minute or so, then I kino again, maybe I hold her hand loosely and softly as I'm making a point, maybe I place my hand above her thighs; there's so many places, use your imagination. After that, I don't kino, and as I leave I give her a hug. All in all, I
kinoed her 3 times and she is now much warmer to me in the future.
Playful Kino
This one is more fun. When girls are attracted to you give you a variety of opportunities for touching them. The other day this one girl was trying to prove to me that she was strong so she jokingly wanted to arm-wrestle me while we were both standing. I pretended to oblige but after a second of arm-wrestling I used my favorite wrestling move (minus the forcefulness & grip) and pulled her around and into me, with my right arm across her stomach and my left hand on her thigh. I then let go after a couple seconds but, as I was doing this, I let my hand
linger on her body as it was turning around again. The linger is key, its sensual, it sends chills up and down their spines, and it makes them want more. The girl laughed and joked back at me and kinoed me by playfully punching me. Throughout the rest of our convo she found some 20 excuses to touch me and I found aplenty to return the favor. Playful kino is great in building
sexual tension.
Flirty Kino
I hope you've noticed by now that
all kino is flirty kino. But this category is different in that you can't do this as easily as casual kino or playful kino, this kino requires a little more acquaintance with the target because if the other is not receptive it can make them a little uncomfortable. But thats no problem because you don't care and you can always try it again later or with someone else. I do flirty kino with girls who I've already kinoed before and who I know are attracted to me. I might be talking to her and we could both be flirting a little and I might place my hand on her thighs, she might have a sexy shirt thats showing a little midriff and I can use that to stimulate the skin's nervous cells as I kino her. I'll let it linger there for a while and then take my hand away, not instantaneously, but making friction as my fingers glide off her tingling skin. Flirty kino is
damn sensuous if done right. Another great flirty kino strategy is caressing her hair. I always find some excuse to touch their hair. Sometimes we're at a party and she's sitting next to me, we're on a bed "doing homework," or maybe just standing someplace out in public, and I'll comment on her hair and touch it. I'll then do it again, slowly... sensually. And I can see the girl just teeming with desire. Another kino strategy is parting her hair if its covering a part of her face, and then moving your index and middle fingers over her face, slowly. I might take a detour and leave my finger
on her lips for a second while making eye contact and then kiss her. Of course, there are countless other kino techniques I use, but I won't give them all away.
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