How often do you see or think of your (new) g/f or b/f

[Danog]

So I've been goin out with a girl for the past 3 weeks now and I used to
pretty much see her every time I was at work (yes I'm dating a co-worker).

However she recently quit and the last time I saw her was about 2 days ago
(her last day at work - we went out that night). As well she is moving to
another place (about 30min away - also a long distance phonecall).

Normally we would try and see each other almost every day since dating,
even when we both weren't at work.

Well today it's been 2-days since I had seen her and I call her up and we
were talking and she had to put phone down for her mom to use. Well I said
I'd call her back. I did call back, about 30min later, just to find out she had
gone out.

So what's the big deal? Well it's a lazy afternoon today and I had a few hours
to kill before I had to go somewhere and she (g/f) mentioned on the phone
that she wants to see me so in these few hours, I was planning to drive there
to see her.

But now I won't get to today, or next few days becase of work and other
stuff. It gave me a sick feeling to the stomach knowing I won't be seeing her
for a few days.

Any of you go through this early on in your dating life? The sickening feeling
that leaves you totally bummed out? What do you do to overcome it?

I ended up taking a nap for a few hours and I'm feeling a bit better now.

[SpaZz]

Me... I run the dog, exercise = endorphins, It helps, its when you sit around with nothing to do, that it really can get to you. But yeah keep busy when shes not around and call her after work or something... Just hearing that voice can do wonders you know

[Danog]

Yea for sure. Just hearing her voice is great and the last time this happened I made
her laugh so much on the phone that it made it all worth it. Hell, even got her family
involved into the laughter. It was great.

But sometimes you just want to see each other, especially when you are bored.

But how do some of you deal with that sickening feeling you get when you long for
the person? Like it's such a bad feeling that you don't want to eat or drink or sleep or whatever.

[SpaZz]

ahhhhhh THAT feeling... yeah I know the one... Its like being very depressed... But its not really negative. (hard to explain) When you just feel
Can't help you there... on those days... I just wait it out, I always wake up heaps better... but note: my g/f lives 8 hrs away.

If I were you man... 30mins aint nothing, drive over just to say hi, even if its a ten min chat on the porch, take her a rose or something

Cause if I were you, I would have jumped into that car a few times now he he he.

[jfett85]

Not that I don't feel for you, but I honestly wish I was in your shoes. I met a girl and we got to spend an entire week together and now it'll be at least a month before I get to see her again. I talk to her every other day if not every day, but that's only good for so much.

So, my advice to you is, cherish the time you do have together. And, when you are apart, just remember how great it is to be with her and keep in mind that there may be a time when you get to wake up next to her everyday.

~JFett

[squirrley]

SORRY cant feel sorry for you either! How about being 6 hours away and only seeing your sweetie once a month? NOW thats tuff!

Enjoy the time you do have when youre together...YOURE LUCKY!!!

[Illusional]

pretty much every free second that is on your mind. raverboy

[Danog]

I normally get this feeling when I want to see her the most or especially when I come
really close to getting a chance to seeing her but then not getting to (as in recently).

But usually I get this really good feeling after either talking with her or knowing that I
will be seeing her very soon (like in a day or two).

I did call her later tonight to tell her that I will be coming over the next day.

[swimmingNreverie]

Its completely normal to get that feeling, especially early into a relationship, because you already care so much for this person, but you know that its not secure yet.

And its normal to miss and want to be with a person.

Although I do have to agree with everyone on the 30 minutes thing. haha, my last boyfriend was 3 hours away, although the distance wasn't too bad--we just saw each other every weekend

[Canibus]

Well this is kind of the feelings i'm having at the minute although i've been going out a year now. But the girl is away for 2 weeks on a music course which sucks!! I can't even work at the minute - had to take off two days - today and tomorrow - cos its too stressing at the minute. I know how your feeling. You feel dead depressed don't you and can't sleep or work as in my case. I've bought st johns wort that apparentlys helps with anxiety and depression. Its a herb in tablet form. Hopefully it will work.

[Danog]

I don't get depressed. Usually the feeling lasts for a couple hours and afterwards
I feel a little better.

If I know I will be seeing the g/f at a certain time, then I feel relived and better.

I just got back from spending a few hours together with the g/f. It was good.

I wouldn't go as far to take depression pills or anything but then again, I guess our
situation is somewhat different.

Find some hobbies, go out with other friends is probablly the best thing to do.

[jfett85]

It's definitely a good idea to find other hobbies or people to take your mind off of your relationship. But, it's also a bad idea to try to forget about it for long periods of time. Love is about wanting to be with someone for the sake of being with them, not some sort of dependency that you can't live without. I think about my girlfriend all the time, but I understand why our situation is what it is and I have faith that it will work out. Personally, I think that if you can't stop thinking about them to the point where you can't function you should reconsider your relationship with them. Separation from your mate isn't ever going to be fun, but it shouldn't be anguish. Just my point of view.

~JFett

[peachie]

I totally understand how you feel. I wish that I could see my boyfriend more. And when we first started dating, I really spazzed about it...but you realize that you have to be calm about it, realize that people have busy schedules now days, and that when you two both have mutual "freetime" that you will spend some of it together. Calling her frequently and obsessing over it, will not only push her away, but it will also waste time you could be spending doing something constructive!

[DuckyWucky]

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