Please, please help me out of this! - Love Forum

Pipita · #1 (**permalink**) 20-12-07, 12:29 AM

Okay, so here goes.

I'm 16, and I fell for this 13 year old girl. I didn't know that when I fell for her though. Anyway, I pulled some strings and got someone to introduce me to her, and we got talking and 3 days ago I asked her out. Lucky for me, she said yes. Anyway all was fine and dandy up until today.

She is from a very conservative family, and I could tell she was pretty scared of her parents finding out. Anyway, I told her it would be okay and that she didn't need to worry. I hung up and went to sleep. I wake up 2 hrs later and there's a message from her telling me that her parents found out and that she'd have to stop seeing me. I was mortified.

I called on her sister's phone later on, and she said that the second I hung up, her dad walked in and she threw the phone in panic. He got suspicious and pressured her. She cracked and told the truth and apparently now she's grounded too.

Her sister told me that she really liked me, and that she had cried saying that she didn't even get a chance to go out with me before her parents cracked down on her. I really want her back badly, but I think I'm running out of options.

It'd be great if anyone could help.

Thanks.

vashti · #2 (**permalink**) 20-12-07, 12:52 AM

There doesn't appear to be anything you can do. Her parents said no. If you continue to pursue her, you may get her into more trouble.

I think you should find someone closer to your age to date. Quite honestly, I wouldn't have let my 13 year old daughter date ANY boy, let alone one three years older.

Sorry.

celestina · #3 (**permalink**) 20-12-07, 12:58 AM

I'd tell you to wait 3 years before you try to get with her again, but I know what passion does to people.

Since she can't go out, try to go see her at her school. You could walk her home.

But in my humble opinion, 13 is still so young. If I had children, I would never let my own daughter date at such a young age. She's probably growing so fast, don't rush it for her. Let her finish being a child first.

Pipita · #4 (**permalink**) 20-12-07, 01:16 AM

I don't know, I had a girlfriend when I was 13, and I'm pretty sure most people have too.

As far as my intentions go, they are and always have been honourable. I wouldn never do anything against her wish/if she wasn't ready for it. Do you guys think I would be able to convince her parents about this too?

I'm desperate to make this happen. Please guys, I need a solution

vashti · #5 (**permalink**) 20-12-07, 01:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Pipita

Do you guys think I would be able to convince her parents about this too?

No, I don't. Sorry.

celestina · #6 (**permalink**) 21-12-07, 03:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Pipita

As far as my intentions go, they are and always have been honourable. I wouldn never do anything against her wish/if she wasn't ready for it. Do you guys think I would be able to convince her parents about this too?

It takes courage, but I don't see why you shouldn't give it a try.

If you're able to convince her parents about your honorable feelings towards their daughter, that'll definitely convince me too.

bebi · #7 (**permalink**) 21-12-07, 03:36 AM

i know there isn't really an age restriction as to when teenagers these days can actually find themselves falling in love and starting a relationship, but maybe you should wait it out. after all, she IS only 13! you have a lot more to learn and many more experiences to build off of before you find that one person you want to commit to for the rest of your life. teenagers fall in and out of love very quickly, and maybe that's what happened to you when you first saw this thirteen year old. it is natural that she wanted to hide it from her parents cuz obviously her parents are not gonna approve of a relationship at that age for her. if her parents say no, then deal with it. you can't do anything to change their minds. you aren't financially stable and the trust is going to be hard to find/build especially at such a young age. my advice: don't rush things and take things one day at a time.

nuevo · #8 (**permalink**) 21-12-07, 03:55 AM

She is 13!!!

That's the answer to your problem.!

Get a 16 years old girl and you probably won't be having this problem.

If I was her dad I would do the same!

You are 16! don't be a pervert please

Gigabitch · #9 (**permalink**) 22-12-07, 03:36 AM

Really, you need to listen to sense, here. No means no. Get over it and move on. She's just too young for you.

alidile · #10 (**permalink**) 22-12-07, 03:40 AM

forget her parents. you are clearly not mature enough to deal w/ a girlfriend if you don't understand the problem with you seeing a 13 year old. i wasn't allowed to date then, and none of my friends were openly. just leave it alone. my goodness, she should be reading series books and having celebrity crushes! please leave it alone. this post made me really upset for some reason.

Gigabitch · #11 (**permalink**) 22-12-07, 03:43 AM

Me too. It's hard enough being 13 without some older guy chasing you around, right?

reeba · #12 (**permalink**) 22-12-07, 09:01 AM

I don't blame her dad. He was once 16. He knows you will want to have sex with his 13 year old daughter. He is just protecting his daughter from a predator. You better check out your state's laws, because some states consider what you want to do as illegal, and there is a reason for that. Social norms consider 13 too young to make such decisions.