I dated a guy exclusively last year for about 9 months. It ended bcuz I didn't trust he was or wanted to be monog based on some questionable stuff he did/said. I contacted him months after the breakup and he told me he was missing me like crazy. We discussed dating again but he said he didn't want to be exclusive since "that's what screwed us up before". I agreed to date non-exclusively partly bcuz I wanted to see him again so badly but also hoping we might become exclusive again. So we've been seeing each other about once a week since April.
We were supposed to go to a movie a few weeks ago but he turned around and told me he was going away that week. I let the disappointment I felt show in my voice. When he got back from his trip he called me and sounded different and asked if I would meet him for dinenr. We met for dinner and he seemed weird.. I couldn't put my finger on it. I didn't invite him to stay the night at my place (like I usually do).
He asked to see me a few nights later and he stayed over. He told me the next day he was going camping the coming weekend. I asked who he was going with. He said 2 women friends and that it's a sexually alternative event. I was crushed. He went to give me a kiss when we were leaving and I declined. He asked what was wrong. I said "I feel like I'm just... why don't you ever ask me to go away with you?" (we used to all the time when we dated). He said "You never ask me either I don't see what the big deal is. If you want to go away sometime just ask me!". Then he said "And I've been feeling funny about you lately. When we had dinner the other night I got weird." "I noticed", I said. "I started feeling sensitive (vulnerable) about you.. and I don't want to. I don't want to be on an emotional rollercoaster again". We didn't have time to talk more and he didn't say he wanted to later either.
I didn't think I'd hear from him much anymore. The day he got back from the camping trip he sent me an email saying he had a crazy week coming up but wanted to let me know he was thinking of me. I was shocked. He hadn't said anything like that since we were dating again. Then he called later that night, but I didn't pick up adn he left a quick message that he was just calling to say hi. He emailed a funny general email the next day and again I didn't respond. Just before the coming weekend he called me and left a message. He said he was bummed he hadn't got a chance to talk with me all week and was going to be out of town for more than a week camping in a remote area of ME. He said he'd miss me and had been all week and that if I got the message with a 1/2 hour and wanted to call him to go ahead.. but other than that he would be hard to reach. I didn't call him. That was on Aug 6. I did see him online the next 2 days though (i.e., appears he was more reachable than he let on)
He hasn't tried to contact me since he's been back. I broke down and called him 2 nights ago. He picked up and said he was out with a friend and couldn't talk... could he call me in a day or two.
Anyone have a clue what's up with this guy?????
Linear Mode
