I can't get over it...

[purelover]

Hi everybody, i'll do my best to explain you my situation. I met a girl last summer during my trip in florida. She had a boy friend in FL. I've passed 2 week with her, everyday... When I saw her for the first time, I felt so strange...it was love but a bunch of love.. I couldn't even think about another thing except her. I've never felt that way before and this is the same thing exactly 1 year later. I don't know if the "coup-de-foudre" exist... but It was that. At that time, I knew I was in deep shit (pardon me). She lives in florida, i live 30 hours from her in Canada. It was an impossible relation and I knew it. After these 2 weeks, she came to her natal city where i'm living. She stayed with us about 2 months. We passed so much great time each other.

The story begin here. We had sex many times, while she was dating another guy in florida. I couldn't let pass that chance so I did it... even if she was not alone.

I was truly in love, but she didn't felt comfortable in that situation and she leave me 1 times, after that, we came back together, It happened two time, me, and her, after that I told her it was impossible for the 3rd time, she didn't want to leave me...

At that time, the relation was a lot more simple, I offered a ring to her because I wanted a little part of me in her life even in Florida.

She came back to florida, we've talked on the phone every two weeks, after, every months... and now... every 3 months. I don't call her anymore because I feel so shitty every time I talk to her and my feelings hurt me a lot.

We still have a contact and she still think at me but I don't know if it's in a friendship way or a love way.

She leaves her boyfriend a couple of weeks later... she came back with her ex ex boyfriend after that...

They had a lot of bad discussion about me and her... and he said if she came back to quebec, he'll leave her... this was exactly 8 months after she came back to FL. She dumped him a couple of weeks after that. She was supposed to come back here this summer but his family have some money problem. It didn't happen.


I don't know if i'm stupid but she probably still think about me and she probably talked about me a lot with him. Her boyfriend deleted my phone number on her cell phone too...

But the problem is, I can't find another girl like her, I think about her every day... I mean EVERY DAMN DAY... I'm ready to buy an airplane just to see her every week. What should I do ? I'm not that stupid, I'm realistic and I know we can't live together except If i'm moving there...


I've got an email from her today and she want to talk to me........ I don't know If I can do it... I mean, every time I call her, I came back to the same point, I still love her.

She told me last summer I was the type of guy she can pass his entire life. Is it normal to say that ?

What can I do... i'm lost... my heart is broken... , I don't plan my life without her....

[purelover]

If you have any comprehension problem, just ask, i'll do my best. My english isn't perfect... or if you need more details!

[nuttybuddy]

I don't think you really know her. I think you THINK you know her. 2 months or 2 weeks of being together does not mean you know her. You are infatuated with her.

If anything serious is going to happen, you have to get to know her in person. And I don't mean just have more sex. Sex may be great, but you still don't know her.

[purelover]

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Originally Posted by nuttybuddy

I don't think you really know her. I think you THINK you know her. 2 months or 2 weeks of being together does not mean you know her. You are infatuated with her.

If anything serious is going to happen, you have to get to know her in person. And I don't mean just have more sex. Sex may be great, but you still don't know her.

You're right. I don't really know her, but the more I knew her, more I loved her too. This is also a enormous problem. We share so many things this is crazy.. how can we say that... like if we were connected... God knows it's been 365 days, why did I never stop thinking about her ? I mean, I met a lot of girl in my life and I most of the time I get over it 2 weeks later.....

i'm so stupid... I don't even have the control of myself when I was with her. I was doped and for the first time of my life I was happy... how can you forget that if it only happened once in your entire life.

thx nuttybuddy for your point of view.

[vashti]

It's not clear to me if she is even available at this point, but it sounds like if she lives in another country and neither or you plan to relocate, you don't have any options. If you truly want to get over her, she will have to stop contacting you.

[purelover]

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Originally Posted by vashti

It's not clear to me if she is even available at this point, but it sounds like if she lives in another country and neither or you plan to relocate, you don't have any options. If you truly want to get over her, she will have to stop contacting you.

She's born here and her dream is to come back here too. Her heart is in Quebec, because all her family is living over here. She also hates Florida. In December, she called me and she told me she'll move here in an apartment and bla bla bla... It never happened. The problem is her scholarship her French and her parents. She thinks this will stop her at the school. If she's going back, this is not going to be for us, but for her. I don't think she has any other plan with me until we see us again.