whats the point? - Love Forum

zas · #1 (**permalink**) 07-09-04, 06:22 AM

i hate relationships. who the hell moves away to spain and then txts saying "dont ever bother txting me again!" all because of some stupid internet thing?!

IM SO ANGRY, im never going out with anyone EVER AGAIN

rant over

Innova · #2 (**permalink**) 07-09-04, 07:54 AM

Remember that the apple never falls far from the tree. Some seeds are bad, and some grow to the fullest. Its understandable to be angry, but most eventually see the good in things and it helps us to grow.

Never say never.

KirstyM · #3 (**permalink**) 07-09-04, 09:06 AM

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Originally Posted by zas

i hate relationships. who the hell moves away to spain and then txts saying "dont ever bother txting me again!" all because of some stupid internet thing?!

The kind of person who does that is the kind of person who isnt worth your time. There will be others.

Cybog · #4 (**permalink**) 07-09-04, 04:32 PM

Do you remember this thread?

Is this the same guy?

If so, what do you want me to say? That we told you so? That it's your fault for not listening?

Just because you dont like the advice that is given on these boards doesnt mean that it isnt good advice.

And what do you mean by "because of some stupid internet thing" anyhow....?

zas · #5 (**permalink**) 08-09-04, 05:50 AM

****s sake cybog i never said i dont like the advice given on these boards, i DID listen to you guys, but this is something which I had to learn for myself ok?! you go find a bloody quote that says i didnt like the advice. in those words. yes it is the same guy, and the internet thing is too complicated and whatever, ive just got home from work and been in school all day and im tired and snappy so ARGH

Cybog · #6 (**permalink**) 08-09-04, 09:26 AM

You haven't told us what the deal is with "the internet thing".

jakki2903 · #7 (**permalink**) 08-09-04, 03:42 PM

I would say you definitely need to move on. What is the point in waiting for someone that is moving to spain or seriously considering the idea. A man is supposed to treat you like a princess or as near to it as possible and he doesn't sound like he comes close to even wanting the same things. You need to be honest with yourself. You only get one life, why waste it on him? There are so many more people out there that will love you for you and be with you and not in another country. Another thing is why on earth would you move out there to be with him?? Unless he is seriously thinking of marrying you I think you'll be making the biggest mistake of your life. I know this message might sound harsh but I know what it feels like to be in your position (I saw someone from Dublin and was gonna move out there) so don't waste your time.
Please let me know your ok and you'll find someone who is good enough to be with you cos this bloke sincerely doesn't.
Jakki

zas · #8 (**permalink**) 09-09-04, 05:38 AM

i'm not moving with him, i dont intend to because i have my own life. but im just bitter/heartbroken at the moment, spose i'll get over it.

and the internet thing was i added someone to our convo by mistake who i used to talk to years ago. and my guy asked who he was, i said "oh some random internet person, dunno how he got on my list but we used to talk."

my guy obviously added this guy.
i talked to the other guy like a day later and was feeling down, he asked what was up, and i said about my guy moving to spain.
so my guy talked to the other guy maybe a few days later, and the other guy obviously brought it up in light conversation.
next thing i know he's gone to spain without even telling me, so i txt saying "you gone to spain and not bothered telling me?"
he replied saying "im sure the other guy can keep you company" etc etc.

bottom line, he told me to "**** off and dont bother txting me again because i dont enjoy the company of liars, you said you dont know how he got on your list but he knows who i am and that i'm moving to spain"

so i think it was an excuse to get rid of me, im probably right

mark20 · #9 (**permalink**) 09-09-04, 07:05 AM

Yes you are right, it is an excuse. Now get on with your life! This guy is obviously an asshole -

Mark

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Originally Posted by zas

so i think it was an excuse to get rid of me, im probably right

malicia · #10 (**permalink**) 09-09-04, 09:53 AM

"IM SO ANGRY, im never going out with anyone EVER AGAIN"
So, don't!
Only, I don't believe you.

Jenrick285 · #11 (**permalink**) 09-09-04, 03:02 PM

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Originally Posted by zas

and the internet thing was i added someone to our convo by mistake who i used to talk to years ago. and my guy asked who he was, i said "oh some random internet person, dunno how he got on my list but we used to talk."
my guy obviously added this guy.
i talked to the other guy like a day later and was feeling down, he asked what was up, and i said about my guy moving to spain.
so my guy talked to the other guy maybe a few days later, and the other guy obviously brought it up in light conversation.
next thing i know he's gone to spain without even telling me, so i txt saying "you gone to spain and not bothered telling me?"
he replied saying "im sure the other guy can keep you company" etc etc.

Sounds like this guy was insecure about you talking to other people, and wasn't able to over come it or talk to you directly about it. If he doesn't realize that you have a life outside the two you share, and you had friends before you met him, then it's his lost.

And the I won't go out with anyone ever again, I dun believe either. You'll get over it and find some who appreciates you and is worth your time ~

zas · #12 (**permalink**) 09-09-04, 11:03 PM

i believe it =|, i dont trust men anymore =S

PickupMan · #13 (**permalink**) 10-09-04, 03:50 AM

now wait just a cotton picken second, lets not encourage man hating. I have been fighting that my whole life. First of all not all of us are bad, second at some point in your life u will trust men, the best advice i can give you or anyone about dating is this. Look at the parents, how the realationship with there parents is. Do they have a good realationship? Is his dad in the picture, his mom? Does he treat his mom well, or his dad? even if they have been moved out of the house for years u have to know these things. I would not consider dating anyone unless i asked them just simple questoins about there family. Watch there body language, and facial expresions when they talk baout there day or mom. Ask them like what does your dad do? where doed he work? What about your mom ask them what kind of things she likes to do. guess what if he is worth a damn and wants more than a fling he will be so happy that you want to know about his family, he wont even realize your probing to see if hes gonna be unstable or not.

Now your probaly wondering why i brought that up. I would be willing to bet that this guys Mom probably cheated or his dad.. or vice versa, or he has been cheated on himself. perhaps his dad and mom divorced, mabye one was abusive physicaly or verbaly? these are things that have to be found out. before hand. And if anyo f you out there are coming from a situation like that im not telling people not to date you, i am saying that people from a shaky family background are more likly to be terible mates. I will proly catch a lot of flak for this but it is the way it is. Dont hate Men we are not only good for you, but we are 1/2 of baby soup and if you ever want a baby u need one of us...

Hope u get things figured out...

PandaCivic · #14 (**permalink**) 10-09-04, 03:56 AM

tru dat! ya i was recently told that how a guy treats his own mom reflects how he will treat his lady. wat a trip huh?

PickupMan · #15 (**permalink**) 10-09-04, 04:01 AM

yep, goes same for women how they treat there dad is how they gonna treat there Man. If the dad is not in the picture and she resents him, then not only will she never trust anyone she will keep dating guys that will hurt her and then she will wonder why she gets hurt... Kinda dumb aint it....