3rd Man In? HELP! - Love Forum

Haxor · #1 (**permalink**) 12-09-04, 02:15 PM

I have a friend, he was dating this girl and one day he invited me and other friends we know to do something. When I first met my friends gf, I was like "nice to meet you" feeling. I got to know her better while we all played this game and everytime my buddy screws up in the game, she makes fun of him... "Awww.. You suck..." (joking around) and then she smiles at me. Well then I started to joke around everytime my buddy screws up and we (me and her) look at each other with a smile.

From then on, everytime they went out, she would tell him to get his friends to do stuff too, like go bowling, tennis, party blah blah blah. So I was called up quite often after i was introduced to her. Everytime I see her we make this eye contact, she comes towards me and starts talking "How was ur day" and stuff like that. I knew my buddy was dating her but really I dont think she really liked him. Most of the time at parties and stuff she would smile and stare at me and talk. I hardly see them talking together and everytime my buddy touches her, she goes like "stop touching me" with a jokish talk and stares at me and smiles. So then she would talk to me online and stuff like that after I got to know her.

Now their relationship is going bad and they just broke up (3 weeks after I got to know her). They are friends still and we all still hang out and she's talks to me alot of the time I see her. We always make eye contact whenever we see each other but one thing is it is wrong for me to go after her?

Since shes my buddy's ex girlfriend?

I think my buddy still likes her, she dumped him.

Jenrick285 · #2 (**permalink**) 12-09-04, 02:26 PM

I dunno, depends on your friendship, ya know? I mean relationships come and go, but friends tend to stick around, at least from my experiences. Since you know this friend, you should have an idea of how he would feel about it. If you still are unsure, I would 1) put yourself in his shoes, as in how would you you feel if your buddy hooked up with this chick you still have feelings for? 2) Talk to your friend, course then he might lie (in a Braveheart kinda way, which ends up a lot of times like Titanic) so that he doesn't feel like he's trying to keep you two apart, so it gets complicated.

But I think if you still want to pursue her, talk to your friend about it.
Never mix friends with money a women.... it's never pretty.

sfalexi · #3 (**permalink**) 12-09-04, 04:35 PM

Bro's before hoes.

MVPlaya · #4 (**permalink**) 12-09-04, 04:39 PM

Word up.

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Fawn · #5 (**permalink**) 12-09-04, 10:21 PM

ROFL! ummm interesting answers there alexi & mvp. lol

Anyways...
I agree with Jenrick. If you really want to go after her, talk to him about it. If you can tell he's uncomfortable about the whole thing, maybe you should give it up. You never know whats going to happen in the future.... all your decision ....

Ratfish256 · #6 (**permalink**) 13-09-04, 12:34 AM

Bros before hoes, but love conquers all.

Haxor · #7 (**permalink**) 13-09-04, 04:27 PM

Well I can tell she didnt really like my friend, she gave him a chance and he blew it. Shes not a ho and I know more about her than he does when they were dating... Kinda weird eh?

Anyways, yeah really I like her and I can tell she's into me... only setback is a friend in the way. I really want to tell her how I feel about this because my friend will dislike me if I do anything with her.

For 3 of us... I wont be selfish and do this, I care for her and I care for my friend. I rather just have all 3 of us be friends rather than 1 dislike 2.

You support me?