when to say 3 special words - Love Forum

Darkace · #1 (**permalink**) 02-11-04, 11:36 AM

i bet u guessed those words b4 the page loaded unless u have higher than 56k witch then i still bet that u guessed it but when is good to tell sum1 that u love them i dont wanna scare them away plz help oh and check this out i cant get enough http://www.funnyjunk.com/pages/ice_cream.htm

abercromqt20 · #2 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 12:45 AM

i really don't know if there is a certain time frame ur supposed to follow. i mean if you for sure feel it than say it. me, i would never say it to someone i was only with for like a month or two. we were just talking about this at work the other day. i'm sure there are special circumstances, like you started dating a good friend and stuff. but for me unless there is a circumstance i can't see saying it that early. but that's just me. i have found that those 3 words usually enter the picture somewhere around 6 months. by then i usually know for sure. but its all up to you, just be sure of how you feel. b/c it's something that you really can't take back once it's out there.

kronos51 · #3 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 02:13 AM

Yeah, I agree with abercrom, I said it after about 3 months, but I had been good friends with the girl for almost a year before dating her, and had known her casually for about 3 or 4 years before that. Just make sure that you truly feel it, and then t will be the right thing to say

Nameless18 · #4 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 04:21 AM

When the thought of you two separated and you have deep feelings for her then its time to finally say those words. BUT you must be sure she feels the same way back to you too.

#5 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 06:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Nameless18

When the thought of you two separated and you have deep feelings for her then its time to finally say those words. BUT you must be sure she feels the same way back to you too.

this is true. another thing, the girl usually will come and tell you, then you say "i love you too"

unfortunately, i told my g/f i was in love with her 3 times and each time i failed to get anything back

it hurt like a ****ing bitch!! then a few months ago she told me she had been in love w/ me for a few weeks but she didn't want to tell me because she was scared i'd get pissed @ her. we now are in a very happy relationship, 8 months and counting

Arshuah · #6 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 08:03 AM

Most likely the girl will either say it first, or she will give a hint as to what shes thinking. If you ever get into a conversation about love be like "You have no idea how much I care for you" and depending on her response, keep insisting that you care more. If she says back "you'd be suprised" or "No, I defenately win this one" or something along those lines, be like "theres a fine line between loving someone, and being in love with them..." and continue from there.

GOOD LUCK!

Darkace · #7 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 10:48 AM

ty for all your help i am very pleased at what u guys have said i think i know when to say those words now

#8 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 11:24 AM

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abercromqt20 · #9 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 11:37 AM

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sfalexi · #10 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 12:22 PM

As for me, my belief is never to say it unless they say it first. And ladies, don't believe it if it's either directly before, during, or after sex.

Rod Steele

Darkace · #11 (**permalink**) 03-11-04, 01:16 PM

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abercromqt20 · #12 (**permalink**) 04-11-04, 01:09 AM

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Originally Posted by sfalexi

As for me, my belief is never to say it unless they say it first.

i totally agree with you. i have been in love twice b4 and i have always made it a point to wait for the guy to say it to me first.

abercromqt20 · #13 (**permalink**) 04-11-04, 01:11 AM

ok but here's a question to the guys in here that have been in love b4...... how long does it usually take you to realize that it's love and to say it?!? b/c as a girl i always feel that i feel it b4 my guy, and i think i'm extremely caustious when it comes to this. so i was jw

nomas · #14 (**permalink**) 04-11-04, 01:28 AM

I think the way I messed up with the girl I've liked the most is precisely showing too much interest while she wasn't reciprocating it. This is why I would agree that it's a good strategy not to tell someone you love them, even if you do, until they reach that level...but if the other person is also doing the same thing?? Imagine Flexi and Amber together..they'd never ever say it!! Nah, I think eventually someone would have the presence of mind to read the signs and take the chance...but it's always a risk because you never know how the other feels...you can only increase your degree of certainty, but never reach 100%.

Freddie

abercromqt20 · #15 (**permalink**) 04-11-04, 12:13 PM

i see ur point..... being a girl tho i would have to give in eventually, but i would probably hold out for as long as humanly possible b4 i took the chance.