Help.... - Love Forum

headCrab · #1 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 04:27 AM

Ill try to put my situation in as few words as possible with as much detail as possible.

Basically Im a 19 year old guy and really like this 23 year old lady at work, she is everything I could want. The only problem is im finding it hard to show her im interested in her.

I can't really flirt with her too much at work because the only times I see her at work is break and sometimes for short periods (2mins a time) during the shift, and other people are always around, and as everyone knows gossip can kill things before they start.

I used to find it hard to speak to her but that has improved recently and I can talk to her but never for very long. I really want to show her im interested in her but without other people being able to easily spot this.

What would you suggest?

#2 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 07:20 AM

tip: be a funny and cocky SMARTASS to her when you see her, and don't be weak and insecure about ANYTHING, like, don't be afraid to just turn around and walk away from her. here's a link:
http://www.loveforum.net/t4252-how-t...om-a-girl.html

follow that and your wildest dreams will come true

but don't be a smartass when you guys get into a relationship.

jb5k1 · #3 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 07:51 AM

How bout you ask her to go to lunch and then you'll have more time to talk? Little things just to hit it off. I dunno about that cocky shit, it's just not how I roll. I'm a prick sometimes but when it comes down to it I can show I really care and shit.

Maybe in the funny cocky shit, she won't liek you after you show you really aren't a smartass so I dunno, do what you want in that situation

sfalexi · #4 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 08:08 AM

My advice is don't date someone that you work with. It just leads to trouble and everyone else wanting to be in your business and is just generally more of a hassle than it's worth.

Rod Steele

#5 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 09:25 AM

sfalexi, how old are you? your wisdom shows ur about a hundred n somethin'..

ur right, dating somebody in the work business leads to trouble. i think they're for a '**** for 10 minutes in the office' type thing and then keep it at a friendship.

poopie

abercromqt20 · #6 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 01:01 PM

hey don't mock sfalexi. i totally agree with him! in general i just don't think it's a good idea to get involved with someone you work with.

headCrab · #7 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 02:38 PM

I agree that it can lead to trouble but I like her a lot and I have many things in common with her, Id change jobs if that was ever a problem.

I personally don't think anything can stand in the way of love if it was meant to be... She had a relationship with a guy at work before, which diddnt last and they split up but they remained good friends since and I would be willing to take the same risk.

I have to do it or I know I will regret leaving the oppurtunity...

sfalexi · #8 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 03:36 PM

You might regret leaving the opportunity. But what happens if you go out with her, find out that things aren't going right and so you have to break up with her? Everyone at the job finds out, and now you're the bad guy who dumped poor 'ol Betsy (or whatever her name is). Or what happens if she breaks up with you and now you are forced to run into her at the job which makes your heartache DAILY because you still cared for her when she broke up with you? Sure months down the road you might be able to live with it, but for the first few months it would, well, suck.

What happens if you ARE dating and you get into a fight and you have to see her the next day. Or she ends up being so friendly that you can't get any work done cause she's constantly calling you over the company lines to say hi or just to talk?

Hell, this is all assuming that she is interested enough to date you to begin with? Lets say she doesn't feel the same way and tells her best friend at work. Who tells another, who tells another, and pretty soon you are known as the guy who was rejected. Try livin' THAT one down at the office.

From mine and others experiences, it's really not worth it. Learn from other's mistakes and DON'T REPEAT THEM!

Rod Steele

PS - to skater, I'm 22.

kanzaki · #9 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 04:20 PM

trouble trouble and more trouble

headCrab · #10 (**permalink**) 08-11-04, 09:00 PM

Life is about taking risks in my eyes. As for the best friend etc, her best friend is my best friends mum (strange I know) and I also know as long as I told her it would not get around. Even if it did I could live with it anyhow.

The phoning over company lines and stuff is not an option as it's a warehouse, she works in the office and I work on the MHEs. Mainly male dominated environment as you can guess. (Like 5-6 women, mostly old.)

Ive spoke to her a lot and spent a little time with her outside work to know what she is like, and really want to try it. Like I said id change jobs if I have to. (Planning on doing so next year anyway.)

I really need some more advice like LTsK8eR2gO's or jb5k1's.