Ever been told you were not attractive?

[daehehtnidekcuF]

Ever been told you were not attractive?

Ever been told that by more than one girl?

Pretty much knocks all the wind out of your sails I can tell you.

I harbor no illusions, I know I’m not handsome by any stretch of the imagination and I guess I’m not very attractive either.

On a scale of 1 to 10 with 5 being normal/plain looking I have always said that I was somewhere between 4 and 5.

Trying to be realistic

I’m 601 and weigh about 185; I’m kind of wiry build not athletic but not a beanpole either. I inherited the family curse for all the guys and began loosing my hair around age 21 but as it went I elected to just go military with it and now my hair is very short, almost high n tight.


Regards,

Signed,
Depressed

so what if ur not attractive?! it doesn't matter worth shit. girls prefer PERSONALITY not LOOKS and a girl will find you attractive if you have the right personality.

dude, send me a picture of you please.

[Illusional]

you could always date a blind girl. that way looks will never matter. raverboy

[abercromqt20]

oh that's just silly.

anyways...... to answer you question, yes i have been told by someone that they didn't think i was good looking. and the thing is i know i'm not ugly. what u need to learn is that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. it truely is. i mean there are people out there who are like "Heidi Klum does nothing for me." i think most people would consider her gorgeous, but not all! you will meet someone eventually that likes you for who you are, and she will think ur cute. everyone knows those people, ya know the ones that ur like "his personality makes him cute". so don't give up. and please don't get down on urself. be confident. that is such an attractive quality in a man!

[sfalexi]

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Ever been told you were not attractive?

Not directly, but yes.

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Ever been told that by more than one girl?

Yup.

Although I don't really see why this is in "dating talk".

Rod Steele

[Jenrick285]

I wouldn't let those women get to you, but although if you're looking like you're about to deliver, then you should consider working out.
And woman don't always weigh so heavily into the physical appearance of a guy, some take count of how this guy carries himself... The list goes on =)

[kanzaki]

lts is right, they will naturally find u very handsome / attractive after ur personality atrract them

[Illusional]

well yes, that was a stupid answer that i gave but in all honestly, if someone doesn't think that you're attractive, there are always others that will. you shouldn't be so disappointed because ONE person thinks you're ugly. raverboy

[bluesummer]

Umm yeah, i think every guy I liked from the time I was 12 until 16 told me I was nasty. Hurts the ego pretty badly.

But you know what, when you get your own sense of self esteem and realize that everybody else's idea of attractive is totally different, you will feel attractive. And when you feel attractive, you are attractive.

I thank god I found some self esteem. A change of attitude changed my life. Granted, i'm not the gawky teenager I once was (guys that mocked me back then have actually called me 'hot'), but seriously, its half attitude. I've met some physically not-so-amazing people with incredible personalities that make them irresistible. Get it? Just think "I AM SEXY!"

[kanzaki]

YES u are baby! Now come over and lets have lesbian SEX!

[abercromqt20]

whoa..... where did that come from???

[Buotro]

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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO

so what if ur not attractive?! it doesn't matter worth shit. girls prefer PERSONALITY not LOOKS and a girl will find you attractive if you have the right personality.

dude, send me a picture of you please.

Depends on what type of girl you want. The attractive ones are very much into looks. They're the ones that usually go tanning and spend their free time in the gym sculpting an awesome body for us guys to drool at. If she's that much into her looks, then chances are she's going to look for a guy that's the same way. Average girls, go for average guys and so on. You get my drift.

[abercromqt20]

hey i resemble that remark. i go tanning and i run everyday, but i in no way like pretty boys. i guess i'm the odd ball in that scenario

[Fayebelle]

Dae- I don't mean to be condesending- but how old are you? I'm guessing you are either young yourself or asking out seriously immature girls. 1st of all- a little tact please- even if I thought a guy was deformed- I'd never tell him outright that he was unattractive. That is rude and you should be glad you didn't find out what a bitch these girls were AFTER you were committed to them. Hang in there pal- Before you know it you will find a wonderful girl hanging on your every word b/c she thinks you are amazing.

BTW- #1 sexiest turn on for me= intelligence. Gotta have some smarts. #2 humor -gotta make me laugh Actual physical appearance prob ranks somewhere around #8 or 9 on my importance scale- so even if you are COMPLETELY unfortunate looking (I'm talking Sloth from the Goonies) then you still have a chance to have the 7 things I find even more attractive than a pretty face.

[Nameless18]

Dude.. if you have the wits and charms, girls will come looking for you. Not the other way round. I have seen countless average guys out there with hot sassy babes and it so happens one of them is my good friend. He doesnt have the looks to be frank and looks slightly better than don king going for extreme makeover but he DOES scores with girls. The reason? Brains to go with his tongue to make females swoop down on him. ps. working out your body does help increase your own confidence. try it. hope it helps~