ive never met him - Love Forum

LostAngel · #1 (**permalink**) 12-12-04, 03:24 PM

[font=Comic Sans MS][color=Indigo][b] Ok, so i met this guy online a couple months ago. at the time i was in a long distance relationship that was going bad. i really was trying to not get attached but long story short, i did. of course the other relationship is over and now im feeling major feelings towars this other guy. problem is he lives really far from me and ive put myself out there b4(u know just begging to be hurt) and i was crushed. so obviously im not wanting to go through anymore heartache. he was supposed to come be with me for Xmas, but i found out tonight that those plans fell through and he cant make it. im really upset, but what can i do. he wants me to think about moving to alabama with him, but since weve never met, i cant be sure that our feelings for eachother wont change when we do meet. thing is im feeling so desperate to see him im actually considering risking my heart yet again and just going 4 it. am i nuts? i dont know what to do!

Jenrick285 · #2 (**permalink**) 12-12-04, 07:19 PM

Thats kinda fast paced even if it was in person meeting and if it was a long distance relationship don't you think?
Have you thought about slowing down? I mean if it was meant to be, whats a little longer in the terms of forever mean?
Slow down a little bit and think things through before you jump from one situation to another perhaps

JasonRebel17 · #3 (**permalink**) 13-12-04, 10:24 AM

is maybe worth a shot, if u think he is wat u are looking for go for it, anyways have u ever see how he/she look like? maybe he really 60? or younger or older.......well is ur choice........life is full of surprises.

Cybog · #4 (**permalink**) 16-12-04, 03:31 AM

DON'T DO IT

Next to walking into a cement roller, travelling across the country to live with someone you havent even met in person yet is about the dumbest thing you can do.

Tons of relationships go just like this one and pretty much always fail. About the only other gamble you could take and have a chance with is meeting Jesus in person at the local strip club.

Think about this - It will cost you tons more physically, financially, emotionally, and mentally to move, than it would if you just took a flight for a week or so. At the bare minimum you need to see this guy on his own grounds before moving in. You have absolutely no clue as to who this person really is.

I dont give a shit how wonderful you think this guy is, he isnt like you think he is in person. When he gets mad, when he gets frustrated, when he gets sad, depressed, etc, you have no clue how this person acts. All you see is the fiscad he puts on when he talks to you on the phone and over the internet.

Sure, he might seem like a great guy, but get to know him in person a LOT better before you move out there and wind up ducctaped to a cement block at the bottom of a pond.

Clifton · #5 (**permalink**) 16-12-04, 05:21 AM

WHOAWHOA, you havent met and your already on moving in, back that up! people can be completely different online than real life, think about people youve actually dated that you didnt meet online, now think how many times youve been lied to, now take into consideration, this guy could say ANYTHING to you, and you have no way to be sure hes not lieng, slow that down, id say if your really interested, find ways to start seeing each other, but DO NOT MOVE IN right away, you will regret it, i can gaurantee it.

Prodigal · #6 (**permalink**) 16-12-04, 01:56 PM

Strange how people online can be so intriguing, isn't it?

I'm going to affirm the opinions of the people before me. It isn't a good idea; it's too fast-paced, as Jenrick said. Maybe visit him in person first? Either him come down there or you go up to Alabama? Either way, take a friend. Eases the stress a lot, plus lessens any risk. My only advice is to be careful. Very careful. You don't want to make a hasty decision that you may regret for the rest of your life.