I thought that it was gonna be easy...sigh

[blackiesharley]

It's taken me a long time after my divorce to get into shape emotionally and physically to start dating again. Through-out my 'recovery' period, I felt that I had a lot going for me. Not bragging, but I'm a great guy. I'll be 50 next month but still have my looks, all my hair, abiet salt and pepper, work out every other day, an interesting life (published author/former agent for rock bands), know a number of celebs, and even have a bit (not rich) of money.

I thought that now that I'm older, it should be fairly easy to meet a lady, older as well, that would want to be with me and explore possibilities and appreciate a guy like me.

Wrong. The older (30's - 40's) women that I'm meeting all seem to have been alone for so long or through the romantic battles that they are emotionally unavailable. Yes, bitter for lack of a better term. Going out with most of them is like going out with my sister or a buddy. It seems that they have walls up and are content to sit alone in their apartments with their cats and order in Chinesse food. There just seems to be a strange 'vibe' going on, lot's of sparks but no fires. I don't have problems meeting women now that I've gotten off my lazy butt and started socializing, but they all seem to be so set in their ways, again, emotionally unavailable.

Perhaps, I'm not in a great mood this morning after a highly anticipated date last night that was a disaster. (I refused to drive her to her drug dealer and pay for her damn pot), but it appears to be a pattern. When I got home there was a message from another cute girl I met recently, called her back and had a nice chat, she wanted to know when we could get together but it was obvious that she was drunk. Drugs, alcohol, emotional baggage, it's sad out there.

Maybe I should become a 'dirty old man' and look for younger women.


Thoughts?

[Nooze]

oh man... just from reading your story i can tell that you're really down right now... i'm not so good on giving out great and wise advice as i'm only 18 and i dont have enough dating experience and i'm a guy, so i dont really want to sound too "soft"

My step dad is in the same position as you as he's in a divorce process with my mom and i can tell that he's so lonely at the moment.

I think that you should keep being positive in all the things that you do right now, whether it's work or waiting for the right woman... becoz being positive will lead to a happier you and that'll make your life a little better. Be patient, women are sensitive people... they tend to keep their old memories with them... trust me, my mom has divorced twice and she still think about her previous husbands and how she had so many good times with them so go slowy with them.

You will find the right person sooner or later... so be patient. I know what i said is not much but that's all i can think of at the moment so good luck!

[blackiesharley]

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Originally Posted by Nooze

I know what i said is not much but that's all i can think of at the moment so good luck!

Actually Nooze, you DID say a lot. Thanks. I WAS down this morning when I posted that. I had another chat with girl number two (the one who called me last night, a bit drunk) just now and we've made some nice plans for tommorrow night, (Xmas) after we each finish hanging out with our families during the day. She's just gonna come over, bring a bottle of wine and we'll order a pizza or something, watch a DVD, really casual.

I learned more about her tonight and we have a LOT in common. Could be a good thing. I'll give it a chance.

Have a great Holiday!