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01-01-05, 09:46 AM
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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO Answer me this:
What is the most desirable end result? This is a good question.
The most desirable end result is for she and I to get back together and be able to communicate better - just better, more often than not, is all it would take...can't always expect it to be ideal - so we can have that and everything else that was so unusually good with us. For her to trust my intentions without suspecting me of doing things that her mother did or previous boyfriends did, for me to continue understanding how my tone of voice affects her (as she seems to see those other people in it - she spent half her life dealing with an oppressive mother, having to avoid conflict, having to meet demanding expectations), and for us to empathize. (I think these things contributed to her reaction to my approach - and maybe her dad's death when she was 14 even affects her fear of being hurt; I can't really know.) To let her be her and for her to know I truly appreciate her, though sometimes need to talk through some things if they affect me without her thinking I'm thinking she is generally a bad person, and for her to feel comfortable with doing the same. And, maybe, to look at her beautiful face as we sit somewhere in the warm, late afternoon sunlight sometime many years down the road and silently, vaguely feel her and the years, like a birds' view of us within this short life.  | |
01-01-05, 10:13 AM
| | | | Now, I want you to call her up and say THIS:
"hey, i was tellin a close friend of mine about our problem, and he asked me what i wanted--what the most desirable end result was for me. and this is what i said, maybe we can figure somethin out--but you need to know this..
The most desirable end result is for she and I to get back together and be able to communicate better - just better, more often than not, is all it would take...can't always expect it to be ideal - so we can have that and everything else that was so unusually good with us. For her to trust my intentions without suspecting me of doing things that her mother did or previous boyfriends did, for me to continue understanding how my tone of voice affects her (as she seems to see those other people in it - she spent half her life dealing with an oppressive mother, having to avoid conflict, having to meet demanding expectations), and for us to empathize. (I think these things contributed to her reaction to my approach - and maybe her dad's death when she was 14 even affects her fear of being hurt; I can't really know.) To let her be her and for her to know I truly appreciate her, though sometimes need to talk through some things if they affect me without her thinking I'm thinking she is generally a bad person, and for her to feel comfortable with doing the same. And, maybe, to look at her beautiful face as we sit somewhere in the warm, late afternoon sunlight sometime many years down the road and silently, vaguely feel her and the years, like a birds' view of us within this short life." | |
01-01-05, 10:26 AM
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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO Now, I want you to call her up and say THIS:
"hey, i was tellin a close friend of mine about our problem, and he asked me what i wanted--what the most desirable end result was for me. and this is what i said, maybe we can figure somethin out--but you need to know this..
The most desirable end result is for she and I to get back together and be able to communicate better - just better, more often than not, is all it would take...can't always expect it to be ideal - so we can have that and everything else that was so unusually good with us. For her to trust my intentions without suspecting me of doing things that her mother did or previous boyfriends did, for me to continue understanding how my tone of voice affects her (as she seems to see those other people in it - she spent half her life dealing with an oppressive mother, having to avoid conflict, having to meet demanding expectations), and for us to empathize. (I think these things contributed to her reaction to my approach - and maybe her dad's death when she was 14 even affects her fear of being hurt; I can't really know.) To let her be her and for her to know I truly appreciate her, though sometimes need to talk through some things if they affect me without her thinking I'm thinking she is generally a bad person, and for her to feel comfortable with doing the same. And, maybe, to look at her beautiful face as we sit somewhere in the warm, late afternoon sunlight sometime many years down the road and silently, vaguely feel her and the years, like a birds' view of us within this short life."
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01-01-05, 10:27 AM
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Originally Posted by emanresu Thanks dude No problem. It's about damn time you start to loosen up and bit and say "dude"
Originally Posted by emanresu -- SomeLameAss HAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
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01-01-05, 10:31 AM
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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO No problem. It's about damn time you start to loosen up and bit and say "dude" whatEVer.
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01-01-05, 10:45 AM
| | | | HAHAHAHAHAH~!
How old are you again? | |
01-01-05, 10:48 AM
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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO HAHAHAHAHAH~!
How old are you again? Old enough to be your father. How scarey is that? | |
01-01-05, 10:49 AM
| | | Maybe you're old enough to be my father, but either your spelling sucks or mine is good.
*****scary
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01-01-05, 10:55 AM
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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO Maybe you're old enough to be my father, but either your spelling sucks or mine is good.
*****scary
!! !! That must be the only possibility 
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01-01-05, 10:59 AM
| | | | Heh.. thanks, you too. But seriously, how old are you. A hundred and what? | |
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01-01-05, 11:08 AM
| | | | wow.. you're almost as much of a smartass as I am!
somebody asked me how old i was and i said 4 and a half. no seriously how old. you know i'm 14 so tell me it's ur turn. | |
01-01-05, 11:12 AM
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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO wow.. you're almost as much of a smartass as I am!
somebody asked me how old i was and i said 4 and a half. no seriously how old. you know i'm 14 so tell me it's ur turn. = 32 
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01-01-05, 11:12 AM
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You're A Senior!!! | |
01-01-05, 11:16 AM
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Originally Posted by LTsK8eR2gO Oh My God!
You're A Senior!!! It gets me discounts at participating Denny's. | | Loveforum Breaktime | | |  | Loveforum also recommend - Green tea - Help in weight loss and decrease rate of getting cancer.
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