Can't tell what this girl wants

[ShawnRez]

Met this girl a couple of months ago and went out together for about a week. During most of that week, she seemed really into me. She called every night, wanting to talk for hours, telling me I was the sweetest guy she'd ever met, etc. We went out to grab dinner and hang out and had a good time. Heck, in the middle of the week, she was talking about doing stuff with me months in advance. Then, suddenly, she canceled everything she had planned for us and basically blew me off. It wasn't a big deal. I didn't really argue or question it. I moved onto a new girl and every once in awhile, we would chat online. She invited me to a party at her place over the holidays which i didn't attend since i was going to be out of town.

Now, I hear from her out of nowhere the other night and she's all apologetic about the way she ended things, saying she was scared of how much she liked me, and I said basically said "its no big deal." and she starts up about how i'm so sweet to her and it makes her feel awful about how she acted. She was involved in a sort of accident at her party that I think shook her up some. She ended the conversation asking me several times to give her a call sometime. I told her if she wanted to do anything, she could call me, but she seemed insistant on it being the other way around. I don't want to read too much into anything, so I'm asking for advice. Does she just want to build a friendship (which would be cool) or does she want to try dating again?

[Tarabell952]

This girl sounds a little crazy to me, but you could always give her one more chance. Maybe she really is sorry. The only thing is I've never heard of someone that likes someone else so much that they just stop talking to that person. When you really like someone all you want is to talk to them.

She might be asking you to call because she's not sure you actually want to talk to her. If you call, then she's sure. She might just want to be friends or she might want more. For now, I would talk to her and hang out with her. However, you should be on guard. You don't know what she wants, and from her previous behavior, she could hurt you again. I hope everything works out.

[Cybog]

My gut tells me that you are the classic "Fallback Guy".

She might not admit it, but theres a good chance that she had "something else" going on and decided to shift gears towards another man. Hence, she blows you off and decides to start paying attention to "something better". Something might have happened with this other dude, and now she decides to go back to you.

The Fallback guy.

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Now, I hear from her out of nowhere the other night and she's all apologetic about the way she ended things, saying she was scared of how much she liked me

Ignore this type of rheteric. It is simply excuses for something else. This situation does not exist in the Real World of grown up, mature adults.

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She was involved in a sort of accident at her party that I think shook her up some

Can you describe the accident?

[misombra]

you were smart to not read too much into it. she probably feels bad about how she handled things. i say stick with the girl you have now. she probably won't like other "conquests" being all up in your life. the ex will just need to stop reading too much into it too.