So I've been living under a bit of a rock dating-wise up until now. I had a boyfriend until a few weeks ago, but he was the first guy I had ever been with and I never went on any dates before that either. But I've changed quite a bit since my high school days where I wasn't the most popular or confident girl, I'm available again, and I'm moving to a big city soon and planning to meet lots of new people, so who knows what might happen.
Now, I always thought the 'normal' thing to do was to date one person at a time. I don't mean relationship-type of dating where you already know you two are great together and want to take it further; I'm talking about 'doing different things together to see how we click'. But I've come to realise that a lot of people have this concept of non-exclusive dating, where it's fine to see different people as long there's no fixed commitment, and once both people realise they like it each other very much etc they discuss this and decide to be exclusive. This used to be completely alien to me, but I'm beginning to understand it, as in If two interesting guys asked me out tomorrow, sure, I might say yes to both of them for now and see what happens.
But now again I wonder how you go about these things. How common is this non-exclusive dating? Is that something I ask the person I'm dating about? I could not imagine how I could bring up the question of 'hey are you dating other people also, because I am (not)' and not sound weird, but then again it might be good to know if the two people have totally different views. And where do you draw the line anyway, what sort of behaviour is still considered acceptable for a non-exclusive date, i.e. Do I have a right to be annoyed if my date spends his Friday night making out with his other date and then does the same thing with me Saturday?
I don't know, the whole thing makes a certain amount of sense I guess, but I get the impression it also has the potential to create a lot of problems and confusion. I'd love to hear your input.