So confused and don't know wot to do - Love Forum

sashna · #1 (**permalink**) 04-02-05, 04:15 AM

I am so confused right now its unbelievable.
I have liked this guy in my class for about a year but I and my friends have no idea why I like him so much. He isn't particularily good looking, he's a prick to loads of people and he is obsessed with becoming popular. I doubt it if anyone would ever fancy him or date him. I know if I ever did go out with him it would be awful.
Thinking about it I don't want to date him. Its more that I have a lot of passion for him. Anyway I decided I was gonna try and get over him. I don't enjoy fancying someone I know would be an awful boyfriend. Then I discover he's been on a date with this other girl at school. She is so nice and I can't hate her but I feel such jealousy because I didn't think anyone would ever want to date him. But I also want to get over him but feeling how I do now I think my feelings for him might be stronger than I first suspected.
What do you think I should do? Please don't tell me to talk to him because that would make the situation worse and I doubt anything good would come of it.
Thank you for reading (sorry its so long)

#2 (**permalink**) 04-02-05, 05:52 AM

You like him because he is a prick and he's just an all around *******.

Women's attraction is very hard to explain, but guaranteed there is a good deal of logic to it.

Cybog · #3 (**permalink**) 04-02-05, 06:47 AM

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What do you think I should do? Please don't tell me to talk to him because that would make the situation worse and I doubt anything good would come of it.

Holy Christ this has to be about the worst thing I have ever read on these forums. Sadly enough though, this is what most of the lonely pathetic people out there actually think.

What in the hell do you want us to tell you to do? Send some telepathy his way with some "mental signals"?

Does this guy even know your name, first and last? Does he acknowledge you even exist?

What in the hell do you THINK you are supposed to do? GO TALK TO HIM. Who in the hell cares what your friend's think? Who cares what anyone thinks for that matter?

You can either go through life scared to actually get out and talk to/get to know people, or sit on your thumbs as a single woman well into your 30's. It's your decision in life. I will never give any advice to anyone to send PM's or notes in class. This is the cowards way.

And until you actually stand up for what you want in life and be heard as who you really are, you will always walk in the shadows as a lonely person.

sashna · #4 (**permalink**) 05-02-05, 03:19 AM

Thanks Cybog, thats really useful
I can't help how I am or how I feel. Its just how I am, I'm sorry if that's wrong. Ur harsh

petertown · #5 (**permalink**) 05-02-05, 03:37 AM

Yeah, cuz hes the ****ing expert

Cybog · #6 (**permalink**) 05-02-05, 08:01 AM

Well then what do you want us to tell you?

Your entire thread is a complete bundle of indeciveness. You don't even know what you want, let alone how you plan on getting it. You didn't even outline exactly what it is you want us to tell you.

Let me see if I am understanding you right.

You need some sort of coaching with letting some guy know that you like him, but don't want to date/talk to him. You are jealous at a girl who is dating him, but realize he would make a shitty boyfriend. You want to "get over him" but have never even dated/probably even talked to this guy. Your "feelings" for him are now stronger than ever, but before you had no idea why you even like him at all.

Does that pretty much sum it all up? Ohhhh....I get it now.....

Wait. Just kidding.

sashna · #7 (**permalink**) 10-02-05, 03:59 AM

Why don't you understand?
Read the title of my thread.
I am confused about my feelings and I don't understand why I feel like this or what I should do. I'm just looking for a bit of support maybe not a solution. If anyone else can help me please do because Cybog is no help whatsoever.

Cybog · #8 (**permalink**) 10-02-05, 07:28 AM

You are right. I'm sure everyone else here completely understands your situation, since it makes perfectly good sense.

I await the barrage of responses, because I don't have a clue.

LaydeeSarah · #9 (**permalink**) 10-02-05, 01:56 PM

Ok this might sound a bit confusing but its the answer to why you are interested in an uninteresting guy.

first from what ur saying, you dont have a boyfriend, a guyfriend that u like etc... basically - leaving the prick out for a second - u have no interest towards any guy.... women are known to enjoy caring about someone or/and liking somone, showing interest in someone, being attracted to someone (no matter what it is u find attractive). Woman love those feelings, and when u go to bed you're always thinking about that someone and dreaming/imagining going into fantasies of him saving you from evil monsters or god knows what etc etc
when all of a sudden (this happens at some stage of our lives beleive it or not) there is not one guy around u that you have interest in (apart from sexy guys u see on tv) Automatically when a woman has no guy to care about or have a crush on then this sort of becomes unusual and u start having little crushes on random guys. yup its true even pricks.
so in your situation if im right, you dont really have any interest in any guy and this prick is like a temporarily crush perhaps. no matter what dont feel forced into anything because ur feelings sometimes tricks you.
hope this made sense...

Laguna · #10 (**permalink**) 10-02-05, 02:55 PM

Actually...Cybog has said everything right in this situation. I would take his advice.

sashna · #11 (**permalink**) 11-02-05, 01:30 AM

Thank you Laydee Sarah that was actually helpful. Shows the difference between male and female intelligence. Cheers

bluebell · #12 (**permalink**) 11-02-05, 06:32 AM

My guy used to be really annoying and he used to really piss me off. We used to seriously argue all the time and everyone found him annoying. I still kinda liked him, I was curious more than anything! But now he's changed. He still has a bit of an attitude which I like but he's grown up alot and isn't so annoying and such a twat.

Cybog · #13 (**permalink**) 11-02-05, 11:13 AM

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Originally Posted by sashna

Thank you Laydee Sarah that was actually helpful. Shows the difference between male and female intelligence. Cheers

hahahaha

Yeah, because her response was soooo well thought out and intelligent.

It must suck being you.

sashna · #14 (**permalink**) 12-02-05, 03:10 AM

It does knowing there are guys like u in the world
Can u not read or somethin?
Are u actually capable or helping or at least giving someone support. I'm sorry if u didn't understand my problem, but there's no need to get all harsh about it, I'm just having a hard time at the moment about more things than just this.

Laguna · #15 (**permalink**) 12-02-05, 03:35 AM

Your a moron. "I won't talk to the guy even thou I really like him" - WTF is that??!?!?! CYBOG HAS SAID THE RIGHT in this whole situation. I'm still with him on this.