Don't understand men.. need help please - Love Forum

Jellybelly · #1 (**permalink**) 20-02-05, 10:28 PM

So I met this guy..

I'm female, by the way.

I asked for his number. Something I have never done. This happened a few weeks ago. Three days later, I sent him a text message. I know I'm not supposed to do that - I've read "He's just not that into you" - but I figured, what the hell. He answered immediately and we have been texting back and forth every day since then.

We have met a total of three times. The last time we met, I asked him to kiss me. He did - after hesitating for a ridiculously embarassing amount of time. He's shy.

Later we slept together, with almost no cuddling or pillow talk. He kissed me goodbye the next day - on the cheek. (Note to guys - we hate that!)

Texting continued after that.

Then the unthinkable happened. I told him - via text message - that I liked him. Something I thought was completely obvious. And he abruptly stopped contacting me.

Why? Why? Why? Too much pressure? What the hell?

A very similar thing happened to my friend. What is it with men? Is it wrong to state the obvious, to talk about something that is right in front of everyone, just because it's a risk?

Or is he just not that into me?

Fawn · #2 (**permalink**) 20-02-05, 11:17 PM

hmm... from the sounds of it... I think he was only in it for the sex. Might want to call him up and get the facts straight if you really think he was interested in you.

I've come to the conclusion that women don't understand men. Men don't understand women. Its one big circle of confusion that can bite you in the Ass.

misombra · #3 (**permalink**) 20-02-05, 11:26 PM

once again a fine example of a guy doing and saying anything to get laid.

Innova · #4 (**permalink**) 20-02-05, 11:40 PM

Says the far more manipultive of the human race *rolls eyes*

Haha, im just messin misombra. That being said, both have their faults. Male or female, we are still human beings who have the ability to do the same things.

Anyhoo this guy does sound like he's in it for the sex, or just got scared away. But I would come down hard and find the truth, so you don't have to sit around waiting, or wondering "why?".

misombra · #5 (**permalink**) 20-02-05, 11:58 PM

yeah, call him up and say wtf mf? why you stop talking to me?

but in so many words i'm sure he'd tell you that it was all about the sex.

and i'm not manipulative, i just only have so much faith in humanity. i know that women do it to blah blah blah, i don't discriminate.

Jellybelly · #6 (**permalink**) 21-02-05, 01:00 AM

But if it was just about the sex, then why keep text messaging me? Asking about my day? Telling me about his? Introducing me to his friends?

JimmyHat · #7 (**permalink**) 21-02-05, 02:51 AM

That guy is a bad ass.....anyways maybe he was into you until you gave him what he wanted. Then he was done with you...try not to give in so quickly next time

Laguna · #8 (**permalink**) 21-02-05, 04:23 AM

Misombra - doing anything for sex? The ****ing guy was scared to even kiss her? God your so stupid. Go be a sexist.

Jellybelly · #9 (**permalink**) 21-02-05, 04:58 AM

Aah, thanks Jimmy Hat

So next time, I'm playing hard to get.

... hate playing games though. Oh well.

sfalexi · #10 (**permalink**) 21-02-05, 05:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Jellybelly

But if it was just about the sex, then why keep text messaging me? Asking about my day? Telling me about his? Introducing me to his friends?

So that he can have sex with you again.

Innova · #11 (**permalink**) 21-02-05, 06:51 AM

Like I said, its either for sex, or hes just a little nervous/scared. Don't assume either until your a little more sure.

knightlionheart · #12 (**permalink**) 22-02-05, 10:03 PM

Men don't understand women, women don't understand, and thats one thing they never understand!!! Move on...grab other fishes wherever....he might have been intimidated by u!!! U being bold and all!!

Jellybelly · #13 (**permalink**) 22-02-05, 10:16 PM

hmm.. yeah, that sounds about right. Him being so freakishly shy and all.

Besides, if it were just about the sex, he should know that a woman is much more likley to put out with someone she likes..

So he's missing out. If he were smart, he'd be in my bed right now!

afrosmile · #14 (**permalink**) 22-02-05, 10:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Laguna

The ****ing guy was scared to even kiss her?

thats called acting shy laguna. i think she made her self to easy/desperate and he is just not into having a relationship with someone like that. i am not saying she is easy/desperate but i think a lot of things she did just made her look like that.

sfalexi · #15 (**permalink**) 22-02-05, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Jellybelly

hmm.. yeah, that sounds about right. Him being so freakishly shy and all.

Besides, if it were just about the sex, he should know that a woman is much more likley to put out with someone she likes..

So he's missing out. If he were smart, he'd be in my bed right now!

Hence the reason he keeps texting and asking how your day was. He's got to make sure that this attitude of yours stays that way so that when he's ready for some all he has to do is come-a-knockin' at your door.