what do i do? - Love Forum

mhussain · #1 (**permalink**) 23-02-05, 09:14 AM

hey friends

i have a problem. i came to australia in last august and met a girl from middle east. i was in head over heels in love with her and so was she. the only problem was she was 3 years elder to me. that wasnt a problem with me or her(we both are muslim) but her parents apparently want to get her married soon. now she has gone back home and will come back in july. i.e. 6 months . she told me that she might not come back single.
also she told me that " dont waste ur life waiting for me. find a good girl and move on".
now comes the crazy part.
1. i dont want to move on
2. even if i want to move on, i dont know why but i want it to be an arabic girl.

there are a few arabic girls where i study but the problem is, i just dont have the guts to go uto them and approach them.

friends, any ideas will be welcome.

thanks

hussain

Cybog · #2 (**permalink**) 23-02-05, 04:29 PM

No offense - But that name is creepy to us Republican / Marine / NRA member / Gun toating / cigar smoking Americans. No offense!

And in answer to your question, I would do just what she asked and move on. You know she will, especially after giving you that line.

As far as the kind of girl you really want to meet, do yourself a favor and don't limit yourself nearly so much. As much as I would love to bang an asian girl and a mexican girl (at the same time), it doesn't mean I can't go out and enjoy a good lay from a white girl.

What I am trying to say is this - Unless you have some sort of moral/ethical/religious beliefs that detour you from dating outside of Arabic girls, don't sell yourself short with one single race.

Now, with that aside, the issue becomes approaching and meeting these fine young facially shrouded flowers of the desert. There are half a million threads on this forum talking about how to meet/what to say/how to approach/how to perform falatio - you get the idea. Just read up and you might find what you are looking for. Or, if you don't feel like searching, feel free to repost here.

Everyone else does it......

mhussain · #3 (**permalink**) 23-02-05, 08:04 PM

hey mates, need help here plz, could anyone else plz pitch in with advice.
no offence mate cyborg

Hussain

james_b10 · #4 (**permalink**) 23-02-05, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by mhussain

hey mates, need help here plz, could anyone else plz pitch in with advice.
no offence mate cyborg

Hussain

thanks for your reply to my previous thread. (i too am from the land of oz) anyway, i have a friend who is also muslim and his sister was in the same situation as you.. however she ended up shuning her parents wishes for an arranged marriage and found a boyfriend in an australian - i guess what im trying to say is that follow your heart mate! you gotta tell her exactly how you feel, even though she said go and find yourself a good girl, she may be saying that in response to the fact that her parents want her married and she may feel she has no option. i think that regardless you have nothing to lose and may as well speak up before its too late. as for arab girls at uni, you may find it hard but hey, at least yuo got something in common with them- thats gotta be a start. you just gotta step up - when u leave uni one of the biggest regrets you will face is not the mistakes you made with ppl but the times u didnt take the chance of finding out what could have been.

mhussain · #5 (**permalink**) 23-02-05, 08:24 PM

thanks a lot mate, appreciate it.
btw in the land of oz which pat do u belong to

hussain

james_b10 · #6 (**permalink**) 23-02-05, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by mhussain

thanks a lot mate, appreciate it.
btw in the land of oz which pat do u belong to

hussain

i think it may say NT on my profile thingy (did it by accident) but im actually from bris in QLD - you sound like a nice guy whos in a pretty big dillemma! ill have a think about it whilst im at work tomorrow and not so tired and come up with something a bit better. take it easy

Frasbee · #7 (**permalink**) 24-02-05, 04:12 AM

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Originally Posted by Cybog

No offense - But that name is creepy to us Republican / Marine / NRA member / Gun toating / cigar smoking Americans.

Okay, I was hoping I wasn't the only who noticed that too.

mhussain · #8 (**permalink**) 24-02-05, 07:28 PM

hey guys
the problem is that there is a high probability of her getting married but what if she comes back in july and is still single? what then . what do i do and how do i face her if i have moved on and she hasnt?
also guys , my heart simply refuses to move on!!!!!

HELP

Hussain

indie68 · #9 (**permalink**) 25-02-05, 01:59 AM

I know if I'm telling someone to move on, I mean it. She may not want to remain single, therefore, she doesn't have a strong desire to be with you, my opinion. You can't do that "what if" thing, you are going to drive yourself nuts with that. Make a decision that you are comfortable with. If you want to wait for her, than do it, but understand you could be making a mistake. If I were you I would date around, nothing serious until she comes back, but if something better arrives, then don't turn it down. You can't control her decision, all you can do is control yours. And you will be able to get over it, it may take time, but it will happen.

mhussain · #10 (**permalink**) 25-02-05, 05:32 AM

thanx indie68
but no, the fact is she is in Jordan trying to refuse marriage right now. thats what is driving me nuts and thts why moving on is such a big probllem.
also the fact that she is being watched closely there and hence cant mail or call is also driving me crazy !!!!!

Hussain