Meeting girls outside the usual places?

[Nairou]

This is something that has been bugging me for quite some time now, and I haven't thought of any very good solutions, so if anyone here has some advice I'd love to hear it.

Obviously, before you can have a relationship you have to meet people you like. That's where my problem is right now. Other than the women in my apartment building, or the people I pass on walks, I don't have a lot of contact with women to strike up a conversation. I know the usual places people do, and say to, meet people, but none of them seem to apply to me, which is very frustrating. I don't drink and am not much of a partier, so I don't go to bars or clubs (I've been a few times but felt like a fish out of water, it's not my scene). I'm not currently in school or college, so there's no school friends to get to know. I work from home, so I have no co-workers. And I dont' really have any friends that live around here, they're all online in other states or countries.

Goddamn, whats left?? I basically feel alone in this city, I go for walks and such but otherwise feel isolated from everyone. How can I meet people (other than online) without a setting to meet them in? What options are left to me?

[Dzeni]

I thought I was the only one who did not like clubs / bars etc. Have you tried going to the Gym? OK. Very cliched. Seriously, what about joining a club of some sort. For example, if you are into photography, join a photography club.

You can also do the Volunteer thing where you volunteer and get to meet people. You could volunteer at an Old Folks home and hope they introduce you to their grand children

If you are religious, why not go to religious services in your city. This is the two for the price of one deal where you get to pray and possibly meet people. If the meeting people thing does not work out, at least you did not totally waste your time.

Have you tried hanging around in art galleries / museums? That could work if you are into the culture thing.

And if all else fails, there is always cyberspace.

Best of luck.

Dzeni

[afrosmile]

i think the right person for you could be in another country do not limit yourself to a city. i would not advice going places you don't like because you may just find girls that are really not your type just keep walking you may just bump into her. then again she may be in another country so travelling is an idea if you can't be bothered to go to another country then online is you best bet.

[Nairou]

Thanks, yeah that's the only ideas I've had left, meeting someone online or joining a group of some sort. Either way seems like a shot in the dark, but I suppose that's just the way it is. I've been trying the online approach, with no response so far (I must be bad luck or something). A group or interesting scene may be something to try, just depends on the sort.

Some people have said to just not worry about it, live your life, do what you like to do, and you'll eventually run into someone who feels the same way. While I believe that to be true, I certainly don't want to wait 10 years or so to just be happy doing what I enjoy and eventually meet someone. I'm ready now! Have been a long time now...

[nomas]

My suggestions would be close to Zeni's...find stuff you're interested in (being in a big city there should be no shortage of events), surely you can find something that interests you in your events calendar and in specific interests usually the same kind of people will show up time and time again..so there you'll have someone who shares some interests with you and you can meet candidates in this way.

Freds