Dammit I Wish I'd Known... - Love Forum

bluesummer · #1 (**permalink**) 17-03-05, 11:53 AM

Has anyone ever found out way down the road that someone they had it bad for actually liked them too but they just never put two and two together?

I used to work for this guy.....young, attractive, Australian (love the accent), millionaire......and I was insanely attracted to him. Not cuz of the $, he was actually a really cool guy, and we were actually 'friends' of sorts. He used to take me out for lunch and coffee, and make these 'comments' all the time about how hot he thought I was, or how he would 'totally date someone my age', or just make bad comments about whoever I was dating at the time. I didn't make too much of it, especially since his company had an insanely strict no-dating-anyone-not-on-your-level policy.

So anyways, a close friend of his just told me (2 years after the fact), that he had been actually testing my reactions to his comments, and he wanted to see if I'd try and pursue anything with him (which of course I didn't - he was my BOSS), and that just last month he'd inquired if I was single yet. Which I'm not, and don't intend on being for quite awhile - or ever.

All I can say is - GOD DAMMIT.
I just had to get it off my chest, because if I complain to my bf he'll just be like WTF??!!

Innova · #2 (**permalink**) 17-03-05, 12:09 PM

Seen more and more of these posts as of late...

Although true, sometimes we never know. If ya do, just take the chance or you'll end up regretting it later.

misombra · #3 (**permalink**) 17-03-05, 12:15 PM

yep, timing. it's a *****.

doll69 · #4 (**permalink**) 17-03-05, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by bluesummer

his company had an insanely strict no-dating-anyone-not-on-your-level policy.

What kind of policy is that? Sounds like a caste system

Since he was the boss I thought he'd be the one to make the rules?

yoshikuni · #5 (**permalink**) 17-03-05, 02:06 PM

wow, that totally sux. Maybe it was for the best though, I mean if you HAD pursued a relationship with him, you might never have ended up in the relationship you have now. Count your blessing I suppose...

doll69 · #6 (**permalink**) 17-03-05, 08:25 PM

Of course, the thing to consider is which relationship you'd actually be *happier* in?

bluesummer · #7 (**permalink**) 18-03-05, 12:48 AM

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Originally Posted by doll69

What kind of policy is that? Sounds like a caste system

Since he was the boss I thought he'd be the one to make the rules?

Yeah, he DID make the rules, which is why it was kinda hypocritical.

The strange end to this story, though, is my current bf is one of his former employees, and my fellow co-worker. We've been together 2 and a half years, and I'm quite sure I got the better deal ending up with him rather than 'the boss'.

doll69 · #8 (**permalink**) 19-03-05, 12:04 AM

Then great!

diablo robotico · #9 (**permalink**) 19-03-05, 02:31 AM

Something very similar to this just happened to me, and I'm still depressed over it! That's part of the reason I joined these forums, so's I could try to get over my depression.

Timing sucks.

doll69 · #10 (**permalink**) 20-03-05, 12:15 AM

I think the reason why ANYONE is here is cos they have had some kind of set-back in this area. I think it's really great we all help each other out

Swoon · #11 (**permalink**) 20-03-05, 02:43 AM

i had amassive crush on a guy, and foundout bout a year later that he had really really liked me too, but his best mate liked me so hed backed off otlet his best friend have a shot. I did actually end up seieng his mate, although its wasnt anything worth mentioning, and i wish i could have got with the other guy. damm timings!

cutiekitti16 · #12 (**permalink**) 21-03-05, 09:36 AM

The same EXACT thing JUST happened to me! It totally sucks!!!!!!

yoshikuni · #13 (**permalink**) 21-03-05, 01:30 PM

Actually, I think I'm heading down the same road. But my apathy and callousness are making it more of a numbed experiance. Im getting a little tired of being left in the dark, so I'm going to search for the light instead of waiting around for it...

doll69 · #14 (**permalink**) 21-03-05, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Swoon

but his best mate liked me so hed backed off otlet his best friend have a shot

Is this a common thing guys do?

Syd · #15 (**permalink**) 22-03-05, 12:25 AM

apparently so, doll69...guys can be shits huh?
Ive had the same problem, it just pissed me off that my friends knew he liked me and nobody thought to tell me...they all knew how much i liked him!!
he woz hot too

oh well, whats done is done eh girls?
if it's meant to be, it will be...as somebody once said
x Syd x

p.s. i just found this guy

hehe lok at his 'tash...sexy or what?!
much better than any real man i say!