plz help this daying soul

[nanousa]

ey first I’m 20 year old girl; very sensitive so romantic crazy in love I live nearby Madrid student in college my love story started 11 month ago. When my first met a boy on the internet I mean in ‘chat rooms’ he is 24 year old, so wonderful kind and cute from Lebanon . he is my truly love .Anyway as I said I met him in chat room first the chat was so normal I mean surface conversation and then we started to know each other close and closer ,deep and deeper all that just in chat . I knew all things about him and also he did. But the Important thing is that we started to love each other day by day hour by hour second by second till he became my life my breath my soul also the same thing to him . Really u can‘t imagine how we loved each other to a way I can’t describe. The problem is my truly love is from Lebanon even he is there and all this story has built up on chat rooms “ of course we see each other just through webcams and pictures’’ and we talked every day even when I went to college out from my town (5 days away from home ) he calls me everyday . We decided to get married after he comes to my town to see me and my family and get engaged. we planned he will come this summer, but the grief and what broke my heart is that yesterday at night he called me and told me that he talked with his parent about me, that he will come to Madrid and he will marry me and bring me to Lebanon and live there with him .But the disaster is that his parent refused and argued with him and he was telling me this and he is crying and sobbing very loudly in a way I have never seen in my life. And I was too crying. Moreover, we spent the whole night crying .It was really a very big shock to me and then he suggested that I should leave my home and my family and travelled to Lebanon and study there and then we get married and this solution is too hard to me. it is so impossible, no way I can’t at all, then he said we should end this relation cuz it will never be successful. Then he said to me forget my email my number and my face all thing about me. But I really can’t When he said that I really thought about suicide cuz life without him has no meaning. I can‘t forget him he means every thing to me he is my breath that am leaving for but after this long night with crying and arguing he called me in the early morning crying oh saying my love I can’t forget u too or live without u we started to cry and sobbing again cuz we know that it is hard to meet if the thing still like that(the miss that is going on now in Lebanon and the problems that face his country , his parent disagreement ). Now
Please I want u to help me please by anything what should I do? I must forget him but how? U should know that I can’t leave my home and go to him also he does o what can I do? If I want to forget him. Or maybe he no longer loving me and if he was like that why he cried and called me back telling me that he can’t live with out me. so Please provide me with anything advises, suggestion .Or shall I continue this relation with him. I really don’t know what to do. cuz he is really suffering like me. Lastly I wish I could read ur answers sooooooon
The broken heart
niss

[Ratfish256]

Hmm, I am sorry if this comes across as pretty blunt. If I were him I would tell my perants to f-off. They have no business telling me who I can or cannot be with. Thats I my choice as it is both yours and his.

[Chlorine]

Nanousa-----Too much effort and sacrifice is required on your part. Date guys in Madrid.

[mhussain]

lebanon? eh. i have lke a good many people from lebanon and if his parents had agreed to the proposal, i wouldhave been mighty surprised!!! chlorine is right try datin gguys in madrid but if u feel that this guy is ur true love, then wait and have faith in God. that which is urs wil never pass u and that which passes u is never urs.

but u dont have to goto lebanon. havent heard too much good about lebanon. personally of all the arab countries, if given a choice, i wouldnt go there at all.

Hussain

[Mermaid]

how old is he? is he is 20 like you he shoud do what his heart tells him and not his parents, the problem with Arabic countries is that theyre so attached to their religion and traditions it doesnt surprise me they didnt agreed with him marrying you, have u met in person yet? I would suggest you both to meet before deciding or not deciding to get married, perhaps in person you wont feel the same you do on the net, or maybe then if you meet him in person THEN youre fully convinced he is the love of your life, then its time for hard choices, try to think what would you sacrifice for the love of your life and then think if its worth it..dont end up things like that..try to talk to him
there should be a way you can be face to face and then test this love that has grown between you too.
one piece of advice here, as a girl I must tell you that in the arabic countries women arent always treated as equal as men..even if his parents agreed and you married him in Lebanon..could you stand that?
when we are in love we think the world will end if we arent with our loved one anymore..heh, trust me the world doesnt end, there are always more surprises to come to our lives, I know you dont believe this or want to believe it in this moment, but what Im telling you is true, theres life after love.. and please dont think about suicide, its not worth it, try to picture all people around you that would be hurt by a decision like that, life is precious and theres always a solution for everything, calm down and think things over
when Im so desperated and I think theres no solution to my problems, and I cant do more to solve them, I leave a part of them to fate..if he is the true love of your life and you are meant to be together life will find the way and will show you what the solution is.
Good luck I wish you the best!