Am I imagining things?

[alexi]

Hi Everyone.
I am new to the forum and looking for some advice if you can or opinions at least.I was on a trip before Christmas to Boston for a few weeks.I met the most wonderful lady ever and we fell head over heals for each other.I cancelled going back to La to spend more time with her and we had a wonderful 1 and a half months together before I had to go over seas for two months.
I am in no doubt she loved me and all the time I was away we spoke every day the feelings from her side stronger than mine even and I do love her so much.She was telling me how she was waiting and waiting for me to get home to start off properly,even insisting she come get me at the airport.Everything was good at first but she became a little distant and I asked her about it.She said that sometimes when things get serious it scares her,I replied fair enough take everything one day at a time.
Everything still seemed fine but now two weeks home saw her four or five times she is becoming even more withdrawn.
She always makes a point to tell me how much she loves me on the phone but even that has stopped unless i say it first.She keeps in touch but is always busy a lot of the week?????
Am I imagining things or does it seem that maybe she is in love with someone else or all of a sudden now I am back that the whole thing is real and she is scared of dealing with it?
I hope there is enough detail here for you guys to help me figure this out as it is getting to the stage where if I withdraw interest as well that I lose by default,but I don't want to be stupid either.
Thanks in advance for any help or opinions you can give.

[mhussain]

it can be two things

1. she is pulling u in
2. she is scared of a serious relationship

i hope for ur sake that it is the 2nd one. mate i seriously do

Hussain

[Dymondgirl]

i think ur upset over nothing...if you truely feel that she loves you dont worry so much. you havent been together for that long yet and she might just be busy like u said. How often do u call her?

[skybeam]

I say she found someone else. Im like that, when i find someone else in my life i tend to act indifferent with the other person, especially if i havnt seen him in so long..

[LightOn]

I think you are imagining that she loves someone else....I don't get why people always think there is someone else. Sometimes a person just loses interest, I think this is what is happening. In reality, no one backs off when they are really in to someone but they just use the "I'm scared" as an excuse.

Make yourself rare, contact her less, keep yourself busy with other things, convince yourself that you are not in love and just in over your head because isn't that what is really going on?