Ignoring her makes her want me?

[xris]

I posted here before about my girlfriend of three years, who left me after I spent a night of drinking with not one but two x's. She said she wanted me to grow up and be more mature before she could trust me again, and for the most part, that's what I've done.

Recently, it seemed as though she was moving on, so I was going to try and do the same, so I tried. I stopped calling her, and when she called me, I would always make some excuse to not talk, if I answered at all.

Well, yesterday, she called and I said I was going out to Dallas (I live in San Antonio, ~300 miles away) to go to some club. She got really sad and called me a few hours later to tell me that she still loves me.

The more I push her away, the more she seems to come around. I love her, and I do want her back desperately, but I'm wondering how long this could last. I'm afraid, that if I do return her sentiment she'll stop wanting me, but at the same time I don't want to push her away. I love her.

[bohemiandonut]

Ouch...

This is a tuffy. I think all you can do is just evaluate if you really want her in your life again. If you do, then accept her, try to start over. If you don't... I guess you should probably tell her that instead.

Try not to fear that whole "but what if she changes her mind?" thing. Before you make your decision, you should try to reach an independent state of mind, where if she did stop wanting you, it wouldn't matter. Just make sure you are comfortable enough with your own presence that nothing she could would hurt you, since getting hurt is what you probably want to avoid.

Could you go back without reliving the past? Could she? If so, and you love eachother, than I say go for it.

Peace.