Are girls just too complicated or isit just me? - Love Forum

Nameless18 · #1 (**permalink**) 03-04-05, 02:02 PM

Hie all. Theres this little i'd like to share with everyone and hope you guys can give me your opinions if possible.

I'm in 3rd year of college now. Time seems to fly really fast and i'll be graduating very soon. Now theres this girl called Ann. Ann is in my course of study and shes the kinda of dream girl everyone would like to have. I've kinda admired her for almost 3 years and i thought that i wouldnt get a chance to know her. Guess what? I was wrong!

Now, in our last semester, she happens to be in the same class as i am! My attendance suddenly rose since i'm looking forward to class everyday with her. We didnt really talk but i guess she noticed me. I took the next step in adding her at friendster, msn and later i got her no. Though we didnt really talk on the phone, we do sms quite often. Shes attached but i decided to just go slow and get to know each other. Then, i finally got a chance to ask her out about a month ago.

We went to watch the movies, had some drinks at starbucks, played billiard and had fun till late into the night. Soon after, i sent Ann home and thought that i'm the luckiest guy in the world. However, few days later, i called her but she sounded different. Shes drunk and was on her way back in a cab. I told her to take care and few days later, found out that she broke up with her boyfriend. I messaged her occasionally and three weeks later, we went out again.

This time, Ann and i watched a show, had dinner and talked about alot of stuffs and secrets. It was more indepth and we talked on why she broke up and that her boyfriend dumped her. We went back home and few days later, i asked her out for a walk. We had drinks along the way, i fed her some cake, brushed her hair and theres a few times our hands "bumped" each other as we're walking.

I really wanted to hold her hand as we took a walk. But i didnt dare to because i'm not confident if Ann felt the same way for me as i felt for her. I'm not sure if i'm rushing it or going too slow. In the end i didnt do it. Guess i'm kinda afraid.. The next day, i messaged her how i really wanted to hold her hand yesterday. However, Ann didnt reply me. Did i just say the wrong thing out?

Thanks for reading this. Hope u guys could give me your thoughts on this matter

bball_1523 · #2 (**permalink**) 03-04-05, 03:10 PM

I wish I could be more help, but I'm struggling with the a similar concept, in that I'm just lost when it comes to things like what you said happen. I had been im'ing a girl from school, and sometimes she just doesn't respond, and most of the time I think she's just not interested. I don't even know what to do anymore, I feel like giving up, but it's so hard to let go.

I say do not give up though, maybe she's going through something, or really busy. It's very ambiguous, and you don't know for sure what's going on until you ask her or find out someway. Has she not responded to you like this before? If not, then I'd probably just chill out and talk to her next time and not worry about it.

Nameless18 · #3 (**permalink**) 03-04-05, 03:34 PM

Well shes never responded to me like that before bball. A friend of mine just told me to act as if nothing has happened and carry things on smoothly. I'm seeing her soon cause we're working together. Just hope it wont be ackward.

bball_1523 · #4 (**permalink**) 03-04-05, 04:21 PM

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Originally Posted by Nameless18

Well shes never responded to me like that before bball. A friend of mine just told me to act as if nothing has happened and carry things on smoothly. I'm seeing her soon cause we're working together. Just hope it wont be ackward.

I think you should let it go, and follow what your friend said. Just talk to her normally and if you feel that you want to tell about the holding hands thing again, then find the best time and do it physically, rather than on instant messenger. Definitely be cool with it.

Nameless18 · #5 (**permalink**) 03-04-05, 04:30 PM

Haha. K thanks man. I'll keep that in mind

diesel on air · #6 (**permalink**) 03-04-05, 06:16 PM

Forget about situation and next time be more confident!
Women love man that can take control ! It make us feel safe and more comfortable... Sure you cant overuse your power, but still DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO and DONT THINK TOO MUCH!
hope that helps

bluestrattos · #7 (**permalink**) 03-04-05, 06:43 PM

i agree with waht was said above and what your friend told you, forget that message about "how i would like to hold your hand" i keep doing what you've been doing, be patience, don't rush things, seems that you're on the good way.
btw, next you go to the see a movie, see if her hand is "asking " to be hold, an "enemie" (a girl)

told me that it's usual the girls use that trick

Just be prepared for the day when you see her again in work, and she ask you about the "holding hand" message.

Good luck

Nameless18 · #8 (**permalink**) 04-04-05, 01:16 AM

*Updates*

Ok guys. I've went out with her, had a walk and i asked her about the message which she didnt reply and she blushed. I thought i had to take this opportunity up somewhere so when im sending her home just now, i reached out for her hands but she pulled em away. It was the most ackward moment in my life and i need to do something about it. We work at the same place and there will be a chance when we'll meet up. Need some help~!

bball_1523 · #9 (**permalink**) 04-04-05, 01:19 AM

I say don't try to take her hand, take things a bit more slower. If you feel comfortable around her and you feel that you two know each other well enough, I say ask her what she thinks of you to see if she really likes you. Then takes things from there.

Nameless18 · #10 (**permalink**) 04-04-05, 01:24 AM

Man.. now im afraid i'll scare her away. I know i should have waited but i needed to know. At least where i stand. It was such a sad case.. but i would wanna know if i still stand a chance..

bball_1523 · #11 (**permalink**) 04-04-05, 01:27 AM

don't let it take you down!!!1 I believe you have many chances with her, you just gotta find the right time. I think you should not force yourself to take her hand, and not even worry about ever again until it naturally comes between the *both* of you. I think you should just lay back a little and hang out with her more. Find a comfort between you two and develop a healthy relationship with each other, then take the next steps. Do you think you could ask her what she thinks about you?

Nameless18 · #12 (**permalink**) 04-04-05, 01:35 AM

Hmm.. thanks fer ya optimism man. I'm feeling kinda down now.. but i guess that doesnt help. Meanwhile, ill see how it goes and just pray for the best.

diesel on air · #13 (**permalink**) 04-04-05, 01:49 AM

Wow she's strange!
and defenately not ready for a relationship with you!
hold on, ignore her for few days!
cant believe it's me saying that,cause i hate when men do that - but frankly i respect them more afterwards and they seem more sexy and not that easy-to-get as well.

Nameless18 · #14 (**permalink**) 04-04-05, 02:02 AM

Hmm.. i see. well i am planning to do that now. Wait a few days for all this to settle down. But i wonder why she did that.. hmm..

RelationShit · #15 (**permalink**) 04-04-05, 02:46 AM

i say just lay it all on the line, girls want you to be upfront and honest, if she isn't ready for a relationship, then that should be ok for now, till you really get to know her...