I'm So LOST n ConFuzzeled :S

[xplodinjohnno]

Hey, Sorry if this ends up too long or somthing like that.

To start off, I've been dating this gurl for about 3 weeks now, She's in her final year of highschool (year 12).

OK first of all one thing that annoys me is when she talks about her ex. At least once per time we speak. I'm sick of it. I've told her before and she just says "you wanted me to be open so I am arent I?" I also asked her if she still had feelings for her ex, She answered NO. But some how i recon this isnt true.

Second, I dont know if its just me, but when ever we see each other she doesnt seem like she shows much affection. The only thing i get is when i drop her off somewhere i get a kiss. But then some times she's like full on into it and send's me SMS's saying "I Luv you" etc. I know it might still be early but Still alittle more affection wouldnt hurt?

so yeah thats my story and i sort of need help on where i'm going with this gurl. I'm lost and i'm getting mixed feelings about this girl.

[hopelesromantic]

Johnno, a couple of things.

What kind of things is she mentioning about the ex? It's likely that she's frustrated with what happened in the past relationship and she needs to vent, and feels secure enough to talk to you about it.

It could be that she still doesn't know how to act around you. After 3 weeks I'm not so surprised - just give it some time.

Your confusion is warranted. But be patient, if you really like her then you'll take a little time to see what happens. She's with you now, so don't sorry too much about the ex.

[xplodinjohnno]

WOW Hopeles,
INSPIRATIONAL!
Its things like me and my ex use to hang out and blah blah. we use to do this and that. I dont know it drives me up the wall sometimes. I dont really get to see her much as she lives about 1hr and a half away drive. Not that that stops me. But thanks for the reply.

[Ratfish256]

Start giving her things to talk about besides her ex. Maybe she is dropping hints as to what she likes to do even though she doesnt realize how sucky that is for you.

[xplodinjohnno]

I'm not to sure, To let you know she was ment to come to my mates 21st birthday party tonite. She couldnt make it and this is wat we had our convo on msn this arvo.

Her:
hey rnt u suppose to be gettn ready for u mates 21st
good luck wif it babe

Me:
yeah i'm sorta readii

Her:
im so sorri i crnt cum i lub u sexy munchkin

Me:
thanks hun

Her:
ur hair styel is hotness
if a grl grabz u
im gonna cry

Me:
dont worry no chiks gonna touch ur boi

Her:
make sure

Me:
Dey wont, I love u, n u onlii mwah

Her:
betta
or ill cry

and it ended there. Tell me wat you think. I dunno if its me but i think all chicks driver their man crazy, either one way or another.

[Only-virgins]

Just letting you know that she probably had hot sweaty sex with her ex before you. Thats all.

P.S. Learn how to spell. Betta, boi, and chiks for example are not words. Unless you are from the ghetto or something.

P.S. #2. I really like the car in your avatar.

[siamesekiwi]

well, I tend to agree with the not having things to talk about thing, when I first started dating my current girlfriend she used to talk about her ex quite a bit, but after a few months she slowly toned it down and now she rarely talk about it anymore.

[Chlorine]

XplodinJohnno----Her Ex is the benchmark. Do you come up to scratch?

Sounds horrible eh? But that's probably what she's thinking. If you like her enough, put up with it. If not, go in search of another girl who doesn't come with excess baggage.

[xplodinjohnno]

Only-Virgins - Just to let you know its like teenage slag or short hand off the net. Incase u didnt read the conversation took place on MSN. 2nd of all, You always make people feel better with your post dont you , and 3rd, thanks I'm gettin that car very soon by the look of things.

I tend to agree with waiting for her, I know that she's pretty open about things and i guess i'm gald about that. Also some of my mates have been telling me about the whole benchmark thing, and to be honest with you she wouldnt say the stuff that she said in the msn conversation if she didnt have feelings for me. Well i'm gonna wait and see wat comes out from it. I'll let u's know.

[zas]

Odd. I've just started a new relationship, and I tend to talk about my (ex)es a fair bit, I think a lot of girls do ?

[blue]

i mean if it comes up it comes up i think that sometimes we all tend to do that a bit, we did have previous lives before we me our recent partners and sometimes you just wanna share what happned or what you did. The convo dosent exactly have to be about the ex itself.

[RelationShit]

dude, u gotta do shit to spark her attention or w/e... go bungi jumping or do some crazy ass shit that she'll love and she'll forget about the other prick asap

[stardust]

I'm seeing someone new and i find we often talk about my ex. I do believe that this situation is common. As for affection youve only been together for three weeks. As you get to know eachother even better you'll establish this more, and if you dont, then shes not the lady for you!

[mhussain]

why do girls have to talk about their ex..... dont they get the vibe that it might hurt or make their current relationshsip isecure for i have noticed that girls talk a lot about their ex in the beginning of a relationship.

Hussain

[LightOn]

They will talk about past relationships when they are building a new one.