Beginning of relationships suck

[skybeam]

I've been seeing this man/colleague for about 3 weeks, he recently separated (6 months ago) from his 3 years of marriage wife. Now he lives alone. I am moving out of my appartment in june and separating from my 5 year husband, I signed the new lease and all's good. I am in no way read for a steady confined relationship AT ALL.. well nor is he. But over the course of the past 3 weeks we have grown mutual emotional attachment and feelings which we do speak about.. He says I was a blessing in his life and he even drew tears.
At first we had crushes on each other and we asked each other out. Then I started passing some time over at his place sometimes during the week after work..

Well the point is, when im not with him i truly miss him. But I dont think he misses me because i called him last friday and asked him if he was free on saturday and he hesitated, he told me he had a hell of a week and he needed some psychological space and time to be on his own, he did want to be with me but from his mood on that friday he said he thought he wouldnt be in that mind frame.. he wanted me to call him the next day so he can confirm, well I just told him never mind that i understood and that we will see each other at work on monday.. ( i was a little hurt that he refused wanting to see me however i do understand him wanting some space, he hasnt been alone all week)

Judging from both our situations i do understand him wanting to be alone.
However does it mean that i am pushing things too fast? What am i doing wrong?
He cant call me because i dont have a private phone so im always the one calling him and sometimes i feel like im overimposing..

what should i do..

p.s. i called him 5 minutes ago and it was his answering machine, but i blocked my number so he doesnt know who called..
Oh well
I feel like he constantly has the ball in his hands..
I should get a cell phone but i have no money..

[Illusional]

the beginning of relationships suck?? i think that it's the best part because it's filled with so much interest and getting to know the other person.

anyhow, alright, i think that you're in way over your head over this guy. you've just met him 3 weeks ago or you've only been dating for 3 weeks so lay off. take a cold shower, and go out and see other people. you shouldn't keep yourself bounded to this guy like he is your husband, which is why he was hesitant to go out. he doesn't want to be suffocated and that is what you're doing.

raverboy

[skybeam]

I am not the type to have more than one present interest..

If I like someone and I spend time with that person it's not to go out and spend time with other people too..

but he is pushing me mentally to do that.. oh well.. his loss.

[Illusional]

alright, you might not be the type to be with more than one person, i dunno about that topic.

however, HE IS PUSHING YOU MENTALLY TO DO THAT?? if you read what i said, then he is pushing you to suffocate him?? he is pushing you to crowd him in the little time that you have known eachother?? he is pushing you to choose bewteen his job and yours?? no right?? i think that you because you have gotten together for a few weeks and things have gotten better than your inital attaction you might have actually began to count your chickens before they hatched. and if you're are either in complete denial or complete opposition to my answer, then maybe you should restate your post. but get back to me, cause that's the way that i interpreted your thread.

raverboy

[skybeam]

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Originally Posted by Illusional

alright, you might not be the type to be with more than one person, i dunno about that topic.

however, HE IS PUSHING YOU MENTALLY TO DO THAT?? if you read what i said, then he is pushing you to suffocate him?? he is pushing you to crowd him in the little time that you have known eachother?? he is pushing you to choose bewteen his job and yours?? no right?? i think that you because you have gotten together for a few weeks and things have gotten better than your inital attaction you might have actually began to count your chickens before they hatched. and if you're are either in complete denial or complete opposition to my answer, then maybe you should restate your post. but get back to me, cause that's the way that i interpreted your thread.

raverboy

No I meant he is pushing me mentally to date other people.

[Illusional]

well then maybe you should date other people.

raverboy