what does my ex g/f want?

[mijas]

I split from a woman last August; it was a nasty split and things were said. I almost went to see a lawyer. But things calmed down and so I left it alone.

Three months later she wanders in to my favorite cafe ( she knows I'm in there every morning at 8am ) and handed back a print I'd bought her. It was of no value and I didn't understand why she hadn't binned it or if she felt I should have it then she could have posted it.

My male buddies all said that this was her closure but all female friends said she was using it as an excuse to see me and that she'd contact me somehow. I forgot the whole episode. She found a new man, fell pregnant, bought a new house with him but he didn't move in. I hear that it's a "on-off" thing"

Then in February the texts started. First text she sent said "I'm angry and want some answers" so I sent an e-mail to cover the loose ends and so we swapped approx 50 texts which were all general pleasantries ( no anger at all! ) She even texted her new house phone number so I could phone and expain a few things ( am I missing the hint ) She also phoned me and we had a half hour chat abou nothing in particular.

It wasn't till a month of texting passed that she mentions her boyfriend. I thought this odd as my thinking was why are you texting an ex when she was in a relationship!

Anyway she's clearly not happy and I told her so. Text rage ensued and all communications have stopped. I've seen her slipping pass "the cafe" a time or two and I just wonder if she is keeping a close eye on me. We last bumped in to each other 10 days ago when I was in for a caffeine fix with my current girlfriend. The atmosphere was electric I can tell you!

So my question is this. Was the print, the texts, the unrequested phone call and her texting her new phone number a means of stirring interest or does she really just need some closure. Being a man, I just don't get it!

[jolovessim]

the phone calls and text were probably just her needing to talk to someone. she was probably just lonely, esp if her and her boyfriend were having problems, and needed to talk to someone who she could just spill to. as for the print, it was possibly an ice breaker

[Only-virgins]

People still sit in cafes? ....wierd...Then again I am not from england or were ever you are. It seems like you cant forget her either. She got pregnant with someone elses kid...just forget her and ignore her messages, comunications, and the fact that she visits the same cafe...or just be friends with her. Some people make the simplest things complicated.

[mhussain]

sometimes the simplest things are the most complicated simply because we like making them so.

dude.. get over her..... its over

Hussain

[Illusional]

not all people are the same but this is what it sounds like to me. she is the type of person who wants to be the first to move on. she wants to be the one who supposedly is the better half of the previous relationships. she might not be competetive, but i dunno, i'm guessing that a part of her is. she "was" checking up on you to see if you were still single and now she is probably comparing your new gf to herself. she probably doesn't want a sexual relationship, but just wants to know how you are doing, and who you're doing things with.

raverboy