This Will Surpise You - Page 2 - Love Forum

ALovelyLady86 · #16 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 01:33 AM

look up chinese zodiac... its hard to find them the further back the years go... but its pretty interesting stuff...
heres a good link http://www.c-c-c.org/chineseculture/zodiac/tiger.htm
This ones pretty easy to use... and describes them short and sweet...

Innova · #17 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 01:56 AM

You must be very careful though, people in serious relationships can be very wiry of the past. Sometime's it''s really not good to bring up such things unless it is brought into the conversation.

ALovelyLady86 · #18 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 02:04 AM

Well at this point no ones in a serious relationship.... Chris and I are still separated... its just the emotional part I guess thats getting to me... I do care very very deeply for Chris... he was my first love, and he is really a quality person. He and I grew up on the same morals and values so we connect in that way. He and I just never worked out as a couple because I like attention, and he couldnt provide it. Other than that he and I get along very well, we have the same kind of dry humor... its all really awesome. Our day normally consists of lounging around, maybe seeing a movie, going to get some fast food and during all that poking fun with each other... The only thing I really dont like about Chris is thats all he ever wants to do. I on the other hand would like to go out more, maybe go to a museum, see a play, something like that. Hmm there is just something about the way he kisses me...

jolovessim · #19 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 03:47 AM

i think you should tell him. it WILL come out eventually, and hes going to be crushed if he knew you kept it from him. you have to be up front. how would you feel if hed slept with a girl and hadnt told you? Explain that it was a mistake and didnt mean anything.
as for being pregnant just try and relax. i got myself so stressed in a situation like that before i didnt have a period for 3 months, i wasnt pregnant, just stressed so try and relax.

Kiechi · #20 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 03:47 AM

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Originally Posted by ALovelyLady86

ok Keichi I dont know what I did to you but I would appreciate the smart comments being kept to yourself...

I mean you might as well vent your hatred towards me somewhere else cause I'm no longer going to respond to ya...

Anyhoo yes the people who know me would be quite suprised if they found out..

I believe this a liberated forum and people possess the power of free speech. Also, you haven't done anything to me, it's just you get wound up far too easily and I'm poking fun at you. "Hatred" is a very strong word... I don't you know you well enough to "hate" you. Hell, I don't know you at all. Stop taking everything so seriously. Why don't you be a sport and try poking some fun back. You need to realise that this is the internet and everything I say is not serious. So if I make any future references towards you in any future posts that are serious, I will say. But until then, chill dudette...

Don't take everything to heart.

ALovelyLady86 · #21 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 04:00 AM

Keichi... sweet heart... baby... I'm done now

Go take your free speach and stand in front of a courthouse or something k?

Cause... oh why am I even doing this...

Kiechi · #22 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 04:12 AM

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Originally Posted by ALovelyLady86

Keichi... sweet heart... baby... I'm done now

Go take your free speach and stand in front of a courthouse or something k?

Cause... oh why am I even doing this...

Hey! didn't you say?

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mean you might as well vent your hatred towards me somewhere else cause I'm no longer going to respond to ya...

...and yes I do get your sarcasm. Also no I didn't contradict myself, you just wasn't reading properly

cu_tigers90 · #23 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 04:42 AM

Tell him. If something you did in the past bothers him, then he ain't worth the time. If he really cares about you, it won't get in the way of yall's relationship. It sounds like yall are really good friends and that you trust each other. Don't risk ruining that trust by keeping this from him.

I don't think it's that big of a deal, but if it's something that's bothering you, then go ahead and tell him.

Only-virgins · #24 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 05:21 AM

Well, he said he didn't care right?

ALovelyLady86 · #25 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 05:35 AM

Right... but he does care. I know Chris like the back of my hand... ok bad analogy since I dont know my hand that well...

equazcion · #26 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 06:18 AM

Things like this are always a tough call. Guys tend to be very hurt when they hear about a girl doing anything with anyone other than them.

Based on what you've said, I have to disagree with most of the advice you're getting here.

Telling Chris about something that happened while you weren't even seeing him accomplishes nothing as far as Chris is concerned. All it does is eases your own conscience, and that makes it a selfish thing to do. I know it might seem more honorable to tell him, to foster honesty in your relationship, but it really can not help anything. I'm sure you don't want to hear about the other girls he has been with. Make no mistake, he does not want to hear about the other guys you've been with either.

You should accept the fact that people are always going to have pasts, and that certain things about your past might hurt Chris if he knew about them. That doesn't mean you should tell him about them. The same goes for you and his past. You said, "Chris did tell me that he didnt care what Josh and I did." I say, beautiful. That means he recognizes that something may have happened, and he's taking it like a man, but he doesn't want to think about it. And you shouldn't remind him of it.

You and Chris are already in the healthiest place you can be as far as the Josh issue goes. Leave it alone.

When I start going out with a girl, I don't want a resume of the people she was with before me. I don't want to know, and hopefully she has the sense not to tell me. What you did was (as far as I can interpret from your post) not wrong in any way, and you should just forget about it. And you will, eventually, I have no doubt about that.

ALovelyLady86 · #27 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 06:38 AM

Ok... ya I agree with you. He and I had been separated completely for 6 months when I met Josh... it was merely coincidence (I dont even believe in coincidence) that Chris texted me right after Josh and I separated.
I really would give anything to start things over with Chris...its just so hard to do remembering how we used to be.
He's back in that routine though lol calling me all the time and calling me his SarahBear.. its nice to hear actually. Comforting..

Frasbee · #28 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 07:21 AM

Hmm...no, my opinion of you hasn't changed.

It's only been reinforced.

Fawn · #29 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 07:23 AM

Overall our opinion doesn't matter that much. You are the one thats going to make the decision and I have a feeling your probably just going to tell him anyways. Soooo.... do what you feel is right. If it ends up being wrong, thats okay too. We have to learn from our mistakes sometimes.

AND... about the unprotected sex thing... the "first response" pregnancy test can be taken 4 days before your period without any problems. If you don't have that brand of test, then buy one the day your supposed to get your period and take it. Works just as well. Plus being stressed over these things may make your period late, plus stress can cause unusual symptoms as well.

ALovelyLady86 · #30 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 08:59 AM

Actually I wasnt going to tell him...
Really I guess this post was more for me to vent than anything... advice is always good though. I dont think he needs to know what I did with Josh in the past. It feels good now that I've got it all out.. I think I'll be alright.

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I have a feeling your probably just going to tell him anyways

Amazing how everyone knows me so well