I "deserve better than her" - Love Forum

lilwing89 · #1 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 02:01 AM

theres this girl i like that is 2 years younger than me(im 16 and shes 14) she looks at me a lot when she sees me and we talk a LOT and we hang out sometimes....we also go to the same school. and well i always ask her if she likes me and she wont tell me. she says that i deserve better than her, but she is one of the best girls i know..i have had 2 gfs in the past and shes had 0 bfs. but i know there is something wrong because every time i ask her if she likes me, shes like i dont wanna talk about this so im gonna go, and i talk her out of going, and ask her whats wrong and she says "nothing", then she says "its me" so i go whats wrong with u and she says its nothing. i asked her if shes lesbian and she says no, i asked her if she just doesnt like me and she said NO, its not that, then shes like "its nothing, really" and im all like if its bugging you enough to prevent you from telling you if you like me or not then it prolly is a problem and i offered to help her and stuff and she still says no.
anyone, do u have any idea what her problem is, or what should i do?

ThisIsSuchAPity · #2 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 03:58 AM

Hmm... that's a toughy. lol

Well I think that it is pretty obvious that she likes you. Hopefully you have realized that too, which I'm sure you have. Anyway, maybe she always says that she doesn't want to talk about it because she is afraid. You say that she has never had a boyfriend before and that you have had girlfriends in the past. Also that you are 16 and she is only 14. I can tell you right now, that as a 14 year old girl which I am, I get pretty scared at the idea of dating the the guy I like right now. And he too is 16 lol. Well 17 almost but that is besides the point. Maybe she is just a little scared of being with someone older or with someone who has more experience with dating. Girls get can get really worked up about little things like these.

I really don't know. I tried to give it my best shot. Maybe just give her some time without the constant questions. Let her warm up to you a little bit more and feel more comfortable around you. I really don't know what else you could do. Maybe someone else could help you out better than I could.
Good luck!

mystee · #3 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 04:05 AM

I think that you should work on being her friend first. It doesn't sound like she's comfortable around you, which might be because you are pushing her to answer questions that she doesn't want to answer. Try to just enjoy the time when you are hanging out with her!

lilwing89 · #4 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 04:19 AM

ok thanks for the advice, yea i was guessing she likes me lol, i dont wanna **** this one up because i havent had a gf in a year, and she is a really cool girl! and she has told me before when she found out that i like her, that shes not into going out with a guy that she doenst know very well.

ThisIsSuchAPity · #5 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 05:13 AM

Well that's good that you don't want to screw this up. I agree with mystee. Take your time getting to know her. Become good friends. Then take it from there.

ALovelyLady86 · #6 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 09:36 AM

Heres what I would do...
Leave her alone
Shell miss your attention and come around

Frasbee · #7 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 09:44 AM

If she says you deserve better.

Than you probably do.

Only-virgins · #8 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 10:46 AM

You asked her if she is a lesbian before asking her (what probably is the real reason) if she likes someone else?. I think she "likes" you and "loves" someone else maybe? Does she look like she has alot on her mind alot?

lilwing89 · #9 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 12:45 PM

no she doesnt seem to have a lot on her mind...i asked her before if she likes anyone else and she doesnt.
she also told me what her problem is today is that she feels worthless and everyone expects wayy too much out of her and i told her i didnt expect anything out of her and she has already earned my respect...but then some dumbass girl that likes me went and told her that i said i want to be with her forever and she lied because i said i barely even know her to begin with...the same girl lied to me about playing guitar just to impress me and i told her that she was lying etc.
i asked her if she wanted to hang out tommorrow, and she was like sure but i might be doing somethin and im like can u ask ur parents what u all are doing, and shes like ok, so later she says her parents are home and im like ok well ask them and shes like ok brb im gonna download the new msn messenger so about 20 minutes later she gets back on and shes like whoohoo i got the new msn messenger im like cool...did u ask ur parents and shes like oo...i think they left again...then im like ok well darn i gotta go because i had a party to go to for my cousin...so i told her i will call her later and we will talk then...so i get back and i call her im like did u ask them and shes like it would be better if i just asked them like right before we hang out....so im like ok then after about 5 minutes of talking about how tired we were she was like im gonna go to bed now...so im like ok night....
what do u all think about that
i think i will just leave her alone for a while and see what she does....

Only-virgins · #10 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 12:57 PM

Oh jeez...high school drama. I dont know. If you guys talk like this comfortably around each other and nothing has happened then I doubt you love each other so my question is...why bother?

#11 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 09:39 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Frasbee

If she says you deserve better.

Than you probably do.

I could not have said it better.

Secondly, if you're her first boyfriend--it's gonna be a PAIN IN THE ASS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! *cough* 1st hand-experience...

lilwing89 · #12 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 03:43 PM

lol prolly but shes really cool and i like her