confused - Love Forum

SingleGuy20 · #1 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 03:14 PM

why are girls completely devoid of all logic and rationale?(sorry but you dont know how frustrating you can be)

anyways i work at home depot and this girl ive been attracted too the last few months got fired about a week ago. a lot of the stuff she did rly made it seem like she was attracted to me. so i asked her out now that i was no longer workign with her. she didnt answer her phone so i left her a message. asked her if she wanted to go out and do something. she sent me a message saying ok and to give her a call when i get a chance. so i call her and she doesnt answer so i leave her a message, just said hi and told her call me back when she gets a chance. 2 days go by so i give her another call, no answer again this time i leave no message.

if she didnt want to go out with me and was just going to avoid my calls why did she even bother responding to the first one? much less with a yes and not some reason why she cant.

seriously i dont think i will ever understand the mentality of a woman.

Only-virgins · #2 (**permalink**) 22-05-05, 03:17 PM

They are not all like that.....even though it does seem like it sometimes.

SingleGuy20 · #3 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 03:23 AM

any thoughts?

LightOn · #4 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 03:29 AM

Umm a yes then doesn't mean a yes today.

How long after you got her text did you call her?

NoSignOfIT · #5 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 04:40 AM

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Originally Posted by SingleGuy20

any thoughts?

This guy was attracted to me so bad and he was going crazy about me..He was trying to reach me at my cell phone all the time. I just wouldn't want to answer, just because i didnt know how to handle telling him that i didnt actually want to be with him. So i chose not to answer his calls. He was going to stop calling one day anyway,which he did. Don't call me "hard-hearted". Im NOT. i just didnt want him to feel rejected,is all. Most girls do this. I have! it means they dont want to be with you, but on the other hand they dont want to loose you as a friend.
i dont know maybe your girl has a different reason.

SingleGuy20 · #6 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 07:24 AM

she msged me around noon, i called her in the early evening.

nosignofit we werent rly friends tho, so theres nothing to lose. and its not like i was obsessing over her, calling and paging her 24 7. we rarely even talked when we worked together.

ALovelyLady86 · #7 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 08:33 AM

Ya it sounds like to me she just didnt want to be mean... which is a bad idea of course...but you cant control what she does so eh.... not a big deal right? lots of other chicks to date. At least you guys werent attached or anything.

mhussain · #8 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 08:35 AM

stop messaging her and texting her ... and dont judge her ... u dont know yet the reasons she hasnt replied ..

Hussain

SingleGuy20 · #9 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 08:51 AM

mhussain did u even read what i typed? i called her a total of 3 times. 1 of which she asked me to do.

its obvious why she didnt reply, because she doesnt want to go out....and im not judging her.

lovelylady im not caught up at all, the fact that she doesnt want to go out doesnt bother me at all. it just annoys me that she said yes and ASKED me to call her in the first place.

mhussain · #10 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 09:02 AM

thats what i am saying my friend that u dont know whether she did want to go out with u in the first place or not ... calm down mate ...

" text me if u can " doesnt always mean please do text me .

and calm down .....

best of luck for the future

Hussain

SingleGuy20 · #11 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 09:08 AM

she asked me to give her a call when i get a chance.

hussain i dont know how else to explain it so u understand

mhussain · #12 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 09:11 AM

i do understand it mate .....

sorry there isnt much else i can say

Hussain

ALovelyLady86 · #13 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 09:15 AM

i guess it does bother you or you wouldnt have taken the time to write this

LightOn · #14 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 09:44 AM

SingleGuy,
You will have to excuse the nature of this site, we're used to overly obsessive people asking why why why why. So some people will jump to the conclusion that you're lonely, depressed and insecure due to your question.

Alovelylady,

You don't have to "guess" it bothers him, I think he made it clear in his first post in this thread what botherd him.

SingleGuy20 · #15 (**permalink**) 23-05-05, 09:54 AM

if she had just said no, or never responded in the first place it wouldnt have been an issue. is aid earlier my issue isnt "why doesnt she like me", my issue is why did she ask me to call her if she wasnt going to answer. it makes ABSOLUTLY ZERO SENSE. i a very logic and sense driven person. irrational acts that completely defy logic and sense are very annoying.

its like having someone asking your opinion on something when they have already decided and dont rly care about your opinion anyway. its diesrespectful and wasting a persons time.