i need advice !!!! please!!! is this guy dicking me!! - Love Forum

sophie21 · #1 (**permalink**) 24-05-05, 07:25 AM

so here it goes....i like this guy a whole lot and he stopped having sex with me but yet he still kisses me. he went back with his ex and didn't tell me, i had to overhear him then when i causally brought up his gf he didn't deny it or accept it. we never had a title....we never talked about it really....if anything we just said we were friends cause i didn't have feelings for him at that point. but then i did start to and i didn't want to scare him so i didn't say anything to him. i told him i wanted to know what was going on and he kind of avoided answering it. he said he didn't want to be clear about things. i confronted him and told him t hat he must like me as more than a friend because he im's me all the time, talks to me, invites me over, makes the attempt to talk about our fights. it sounds to me that if he didnm't like me why would he put himself in this situation?
i need to know if he still likes me of his gf. he would talk to me all the time on im. when we fight he makes the attempt to make it better, he invites me over to hang out. he seems like he still likes me the only problem is we don't have sex anymore and i'm fine with that i just want to know why he would stop cause he cheated on his gf with me i think. he stares at me all the time and seems hurt were not talking any longer and he tries to make me jeolous.
i mean we literally know one another so well and were so much alike. were both stubborn and i'm a challenge and so is he. i think this might have something to do with it to as to why he choose his gf over me. he said i was to much drama and conflict yet he said i like the way he acts. i'm am so damned confused by him. i mean if he is playing me he is doing a real good job of it. i need to know if he has any feelings for what so ever. HELP PLEASE....

shh! · #2 (**permalink**) 24-05-05, 09:12 AM

Let me consult my crystal ball... Oh, yes! There he is.... Ahh, yes, he is definitley interested in keeping you around so as to ensure his steady access to sex should his girlfriend decide to cut him off. Clever boy, really. So, my advise is to keep on letting him string you along vene though he likes the other girl more, because desperate girls are SO attractive to members of the opposite sex.

(rolling eyes)

shh! · #3 (**permalink**) 24-05-05, 09:13 AM

ALovelyLady86 · #4 (**permalink**) 24-05-05, 09:28 AM

Ok let me make one thing clear... murky isnt good.
You say that it was never official that you guys were a couple... well hunny in a boys world.. if its not made official.. its not official. You cant just say well he kisses me so were a couple. A guy will let you know if he wants to be with you some way or another.
If he didnt make that clear somehow, you cant say that you are, cause thats only in your head you see?
Sounds like from what youve posted he thinks youre a really good friend and doesnt really want you for anything more than a f*ck buddy...really.

If I were you, I would drop all emotions and show him what a real friend is. Stop being so lovey and oh I love him. Love is something gained over time... lots and lots of time and understanding. If you had something real, he would be with you and not this other chick right?
Hunny youll know when youve found something real. Number one you need to be patient. Dont go looking for it just wait for it to happen. Number two just be yourself and always always follow your gut. Three, learn to love yourself first

sophie21 · #5 (**permalink**) 24-05-05, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by shh!

Let me consult my crystal ball... Oh, yes! There he is.... Ahh, yes, he is definitley interested in keeping you around so as to ensure his steady access to sex should his girlfriend decide to cut him off. Clever boy, really. So, my advise is to keep on letting him string you along vene though he likes the other girl more, because desperate girls are SO attractive to members of the opposite sex.

(rolling eyes)

ahhh can i just say that we are not having sex. we haven't for 2 months. but we have only kissed once and that was three weeks ago and he isn't keeping me on the side because he hasn't tried anything else. this is why i'm confused because he still acts like he cares for me and still does little things that say he still likes me like staring at me or touching my hair. is that not weird.

shh! · #6 (**permalink**) 24-05-05, 10:04 AM

Yeah, I got that part about the no sex. You are around in case his girlfriend cuts him off. You are basically an ego booster. Move on, I say. Aren't there plenty of available boys out there?

sophie21 · #7 (**permalink**) 24-05-05, 10:37 AM

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Originally Posted by shh!

Yeah, I got that part about the no sex. You are around in case his girlfriend cuts him off. You are basically an ego booster. Move on, I say. Aren't there plenty of available boys out there?

yes....but i want him....i don't boost his ego in anyway. i'm mean to him and tell him to quit talking to me and he still talks to me and he says"i wish things didn't have to all ways be this way". i'm not around to do anything with him. so u see why i;im confused. he still seems like he wants me

sophie21 · #8 (**permalink**) 24-05-05, 10:49 AM

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Originally Posted by ALovelyLady86

Ok let me make one thing clear... murky isnt good.
You say that it was never official that you guys were a couple... well hunny in a boys world.. if its not made official.. its not official. You cant just say well he kisses me so were a couple. A guy will let you know if he wants to be with you some way or another.
If he didnt make that clear somehow, you cant say that you are, cause thats only in your head you see?
Sounds like from what youve posted he thinks youre a really good friend and doesnt really want you for anything more than a f*ck buddy...really.

If I were you, I would drop all emotions and show him what a real friend is. Stop being so lovey and oh I love him. Love is something gained over time... lots and lots of time and understanding. If you had something real, he would be with you and not this other chick right?
Hunny youll know when youve found something real. Number one you need to be patient. Dont go looking for it just wait for it to happen. Number two just be yourself and always always follow your gut. Three, learn to love yourself first

i think he is still likest me though and won't mess with me anymore because i had called him out on it a while ago then he started dating his ex again, but see he tells me things that one would tell his gf. he acts like a bf to me. all caring and concerned and we fight, but its like game with us because neither one us likes to let the other win. its just odd because he says he wishes things all ways didn't have to be this way. can u tell me why someone who claims to want nothing to do with you would say this and be concerned were not talking anylonger. and he stares at me like all the time.

Fyesteema4 · #9 (**permalink**) 25-05-05, 11:28 AM

HEY. If a guy is in love with you or likes you a lot he will not do pull this shit, EVER, I promise. Have you ever seen a guy who really likes a girl? He will do almost anything to get her or impress her, and he doesn't have a girlfriend, and he is probably posting a thread online asking for advice on how to get her. This guy is NOT asking for advice on how to get you. He has you where he wants you, and he even STOPPED having sex with you. Guys who are enamored with a certain girl of course want to jump their bones. SO SHUTUP SHUTUP with the excuses. He is just not that into you.

mhussain · #10 (**permalink**) 25-05-05, 11:41 AM

sophie ....

ur life is not worth wasting on a guy who is using you and please wke up to that ...

there are plenty of other guys out there who will be worth ur concern ... leave this *******

Hussain

ALovelyLady86 · #11 (**permalink**) 25-05-05, 10:24 PM

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he stares at me all the time

So? Guys stare at me every time I go out.... isnt that normal for an average looking chick?

Look. If this guy wanted to be with you, he would be with you. All these things you say are his way of sugercoating everything. He might care for ya, but theres so much more to a relationship than caring for someone. If he wanted to be with you he would... its really that simple! When a guy is interested in you and only you, you'll know it! For example, my ex Chris, he and I still see each other all the time. We arent together because we know that as soon as we get back together things will go awry again, but I know he loves me and wants to be with me someday because he refuses to date anyone else. Any amount of spare time he has, he comes over here.
Wait for a guy like that