I'm I Paranoid? - Love Forum

Commendable · #1 (**permalink**) 18-05-05, 07:41 AM

I"m in my first real realationship, so bear with me.

I"ve been seeing my bf for about three months now, and most of the times things are great.
We've seen each other every day since our first date.

Only three weeks into it he tried telling me he was falling in love with me. Which of course kinda freaked me out(I'm sooo the guy in the relationship.) And he's alway's cuddly and treats me good. Only ocassionly pays for me, but I'm poor as well so I understand that.

But, I seem to notice that he never calls me, rarely anyway. One day I was going to wait and see if he called and of course he never did, so I gave up and called around 9pm and he was like, ' Where've you been?" Well, duh, dumby, you have to call and invite me over. I think he expects me to just show up.

He's wierd for a guy, I thought they wanted sex all the time(I know I do) but like once a week seems to be enough for him, no matter how many times I hint it isn't for me. I'm home evey day alone after work for three hours, but he'd rather be with his dirtbike I think.

Is his behaviour weird or am I just Paranoid?

Like right now, he told me he was going to mow the lawn and then go to bed, so apparently I won't see him tonight. Also said he'd call me back in a few minutes and it's been two hours. I"m sure he's really doing that but I'm paranoid

I'd like to think if he just wanted some time alone he could just tell me.

I reallly care about him, and want this to work, but he just drives me nuts sometimes.

He even invited be to go up north with him and his parents. I'm sure he just dosen't realize these things bother me, and I should just tell him. Realtionships are confusing.

Am I being completely clingy?

mhussain · #2 (**permalink**) 18-05-05, 08:35 AM

nope....he is weird

but as long as u like him

Hussain

BlackRose · #3 (**permalink**) 18-05-05, 10:51 AM

Are you sure he isn't about to come out of the closet? lol... No offence....

confusedsoul · #4 (**permalink**) 18-05-05, 10:01 PM

why? is he hiding somewhere..
oho u mean like New Jersey governors come out of closet

..lol
no offense dear rose!!

confusedsoul · #5 (**permalink**) 18-05-05, 10:06 PM

Hey but on serious note.. I think although its lil weird.. its ok too... Why do u have to expect the same standard behavior from guys.. that they should ask for sex every other day and so on.. (well not calling u is stupid of him, but still its weird but not that he is fooling around anywhere else)..
but anyway its ur choice..as someone said, we have to accept ppl as they are

..so good luck

PS: Now I know what happens to good guys..we all end up mowing lawns.. while the others mow elsewhere

Commendable · #6 (**permalink**) 19-05-05, 05:36 AM

Well, if he wasn't a complete homophobe I'd start to think he is gay.

I think really, the lack of sex is what's bothering me. It makes me think, heck he must not feel that strongly about me if he isn't willing to have sex all the time with a girl that's wiling to and even willing to do ANYTHING. HE's such a prude.

We were going to rent movies once, and I said 'dirty movies?' and he was like " no way, you don't need any incouragement"

Now most guys would love it if their girl like porn.

I think I'm just sexually fustrated. Heck I don't even orgasm half the time, but I still want to do it all the time.

hmmmm.........maybe this should be in the sex talk folder.

jay12 · #7 (**permalink**) 19-05-05, 08:01 AM

There are infinite reasons why he may not be calling you ... if it was me, and id told someone id loved them and they were freaked out .. id probly be not calling them to get a reaction - trying to make them like me more if you know what i mean. But thats just one of many reasons.

BlackRose · #8 (**permalink**) 20-05-05, 11:21 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by confusedsoul

why? is he hiding somewhere..
oho u mean like New Jersey governors come out of closet

..lol
no offense dear rose!!

Silly Parag.

*smoooooch* lol

Tone · #9 (**permalink**) 21-05-05, 02:22 AM

How old are you 2?

Commendable · #10 (**permalink**) 02-06-05, 05:40 AM

I'm 22 he's 21.

Still only getting it once a week.

But he's gotten a little better abou thte whole calling and letting me know what he's doing thing.

mhussain · #11 (**permalink**) 02-06-05, 01:01 PM

patience commendable ... patience ... but remember when to draw the line ... ask him once again straight up ...

best of luck ....

Hussain

Frasbee · #12 (**permalink**) 02-06-05, 01:09 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Commendable

Well, if he wasn't a complete homophobe I'd start to think he is gay.

You do know the most homophobic people are gay right?

adam4564 · #13 (**permalink**) 08-06-05, 08:51 PM

Nah, you aren't parinoid.

But he could be acting like that because he thinks it is what you want.

I bet he thinks:
1) you're the girl so you have to call him
2) you're a girl so you want to hear that he loves you etc

you know, either that or he is gay (HA HA HA, i'm sure he isn't)

The best thing you can do is tell him how you are feeling, he'll then realise what he is an idiot and then he'll change.

You two have only been dating a short time, be patient, it'll get better.