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Old 06-06-05, 01:03 PM
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Question on what to do...
Alright, new to the forums so got a question.

I started to date this girl about 3 or so months before summer started...Everything was great, I had no complaints nor did she. This summer, she left school, and is working at a camp for kids with disabilities in Arizona.

I have barely talked to her the last 4 weeks since shes left. She claims her cell phone does not have serivce, which it may not. So when she calls me she has to walk to the other side of the camp or something...

We knew things were sour, we talked about it, and she basically told me that she still cares for me dearly, thinks im the one, but right now she needs to devote herself entirely to what she is doing.

Its been 7 days, still havent gotten a call. Sent her a package, got a reply 2 days later that was a sentence long.

I feel that I am the only one who is even trying to maintain this relationship. I have tried to have some patience, but I just cant anymore...I dont feel like I am in a relationship or anything cause she obviously isnt showing she cares for me.

I dont want her to think its gonna be like this all summer and then in two months when she comes back to school things are gonna be how they are before.

What is the best way to have a final approach to this situation to figure out what to do.

I really care for this girl and want to be with her, however at the same time I need to think that I am being cared for too..

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I really care for this girl and want to be with her, however at the same time I need to think that I am being cared for too..

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No you don't need to think you're being cared for in return.

You need to know it, feel it.

Other than that I have not real advice so just wait, somebody else will have a better response.
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Hello BlackTA2000,

Welcome to the forum, and I hope my advice can aid in your final resolve.

No matter the circumstance, however difficult it may be, there can always be time made to communicate and make feelings known, especially in a relationship that involves love this intimate. Whether her cell phone doesn't recieve signals or not, there has to be a time of the day where she can make dispensable to you, and allow you to call, or her to call you. Unfortunately, she doesn't realize that right now, and many people don't. Know that she probably doesn't intend it to be this way, but is just oblivious to the fact. I'm sure we've all have fallen victim to this though, and it's okay.

Just be patient with the situation. If she's really passionate about this relationship, and cares then she'll find time to reach you, and stay in contact with you. She'll come to realize that no matter the circumstance, there's always time to talk, and that no work, especially this shortermed, is too important to disperse a relationship. You've done all you can do, and have made your feelings known. If I'm wrong, then please do so, and continue to be patient with this situation.

In all, just try to be reasonable and understanding, even though irrationalities is a common occurance. Try to stay positive, as a lot of us don't know where our priorities are half the time, and the only time we really do come to realize is when we have time to sit alone within our own confines, and no other devices but our own. She probably doesn't have that right now, as work can get people caught up.

I hope you the best. I'll respect whatever decision you make, and hold you to it, as nobody understands the circumstances better than you, for you are witnessing it.
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u say that her cell phone may recieve signal ... or it may not ? do u have reason to believe that she may not be telling the truth?

do not suspect ... it hurts a lot if what u suspect was wrong .. so dont suspect ..

she says that she has to devote her self entirely to what she is doing right now ... that is her choice ...what is ur choice ?

u feel that yu are putting everything into the relationship yet u say at the start that u knew things had soured ....

mate .. stop worrying about it .... till she comes back ... u say that u wont let it be like that this phase never happened ... as u wish my friend .. remember that u have to choose what u want to do ...

relationships should not be forced ... i am not saying that u are ... just a remark ...

bets of luck ... and i hope things work out for u

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Yeah I'm with Hussain (he's the man btw) - stop tryin to force it. She says she wants to focus on her work at the summer camp, so respect her decision and back off. You guys only been dating for 3 months and if you really like her stop freakin her out by tryin to talk to her 24/7 while she's tryin to do her thing at the camp.

Give her a chance to miss you, she can't miss you if you're tryin to contact her every day and everytime you talk you're complaining about her not bein able to spend enough time with you.

Good luck. =/
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