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outlawstar · #16 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 04:05 AM

Well thank you for that FRASBEE

I appreciate that, and I did want a lot of responses in answer to my problem so I will write correctly from now on. Netspeak as you call it is a bad habit anyway, I just didn't realize how annoying it was to read! Is there anything else I should know about talking in these forums? And by the way, this forum helped me soooo much. I feel sooo much better now after getting advice because like I said i don't have anyone to talk to about all of this. This place is awesome.

artyemi · #17 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 04:07 AM

i must remark that that paragraph is so much easier to read. Ahhh Fras, another great effect you have...

Frasbee · #18 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by artyemi

i must remark that that paragraph is so much easier to read. Ahhh Fras, another great effect you have...

::flexes::

Yeah dude.

I should be a mod.

updraft · #19 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 12:03 PM

So in other words Frasbee, I should use perfect english like you do:

Your quote: "Yeah she's probably a FUGLY rapist murder!"

ahhahaha --- Whatever!!!

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

Okay.

Here at loveforum, there are many people here that will overlook your situation due to your choice to use broken english.

If you want people to read your posts.

1.) use correct spelling, punctuation and grammar

2.) keep it short
3.) use paragraph seperation

I hope you understood all of that despite the fact it's not typed in "netspeak".

updraft · #20 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 12:15 PM

Hi Damien;

You don't sound weak at all, you are just very young and inexperienced! For you to come here to this forum and bare your soul about your problem with this woman tells me you do have maturity but you're unsure of where to go with the relationship.

However, I think you already know the answer to this. Unless she has a total change of heart towards you (how likely is this?) then you should probably move on. What kind of future would you have with her>? She would not be able to have kids with you (at 49, she most likely cant anyway)...at 17-18 you're probably nowhere close to being ready/able to have a family yet anyway...

You know what I would do I f I were you>? Chalk it up to experience and find someone more your own age....heck if you like older women even the 20 or 30 somethings would have alot more to offer than this lady. I know you said you love this woman so much but sometimes you have to let it go...if she is giving you such a hard time now, what's it going to be like in a year>?

You ask: "Should i sit quietly and let her do this or defend myself or what? "
Hell no! Do not sit quietly and take verbal abuse, stand up for yourself. She is acting like a bully and you have to let her know that's unacceptable...

Just me 2 cents :-)

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Originally Posted by outlawstar

Hi all thank you for your replies! UPDRAFT, I think you definately have a point in regards to the menopause thing. She is pre-menopausal and was told that by her doctor. You're right about her remark being hurtful and said to make me feel worthless thank you for that because I wasn't sure if it was me or deserved that or what. Yes I think you're right and that she wants to control me, I'm just starting to realize that. I know I sound like a weak person to everyone who read my post before but its just that i love this woman so much and its so confusing for me. MHUSSAIN, you do have a GREAT point and I will take your advice and stop apologizing. You're right, what have i really done that was so terrible except open my mouth and speak. FYESTEEMA4, actually I have a very confusing past and didnt know i was attracted to girls at all until I met this woman, since meeting her I feel as though yes I am attracted to girls and am considering looking for one my own age because this woman brings up the fact that if i had a younger woman she would probably want to meet my family (this older woman hates my family and cant wait to tell them off) and be friends with my family and have my children in the future.But as she's older and wiser somehow she will not bow down to anyone or play nice because she takes a stand for herself and says what she wants when she wants it , period. But yes I am attracted to girls my age and no my guardians don't know about this older woman, no one does that's why I came to this forum to ask for advice, because I feel so alone in this whole situation. I have decided after reading all the replies that I might stop talking to her because it is only bringing me down now. If I continue to talk to her do you think I should stand firm and how should I respond when I feel she is attacking me or putting me down verbally? She wants me to sit quietly and listen to hear the way SHE feels. She said you tell me to tell you how I feel then you don't want to listen, but isnt telling me how she feels and verbally attacking me two different things? Should i sit quietly and let her do this or defend myself or what? Thank you all again for your advice. - Damien

updraft · #21 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 12:22 PM

Damien, I'm glad to hear you told her how you feel and stood your ground....she must be very surprised! Keep it up and try not to break down and call her even though it may be hard...sounds like she has her issues to deal with before she resumes the relationship (if at all)....dont waste your precious time though....be open to meeting new people....

L.

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Originally Posted by outlawstar

Thank you all again, even you FRASBEE, though very rudely and sarcastically, for teaching me how to use a forum, this being my first time I didnt know the rules. I just wrote the woman and told her in a very nice way that I need to back off from this relationship right now as I'm afraid its going to hurt me very deeply and that I am now aware that she is going through a lot more than i had previously realized (menopause and all) and that i will not apologize anymore or even talk about the previous night sex thing, and that I wont let her talk down to me anymore. I also told her that when she feels better and more in control to write me and we can talk if she wants to continue this relationship. I hope I did the right thing here. It will be hard to not talk to her but I have to be strong.Thanks for all your advice everyone you really helped me out. UPDRAFT, I would love to talk to you sometime you seem like a great person and are in the same kinda relationship I am. Thanks all. D

Frasbee · #22 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 12:29 PM

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Originally Posted by updraft

So in other words Frasbee, I should use perfect english like you do:

Your quote: "Yeah she's probably a FUGLY rapist murder!"

ahhahaha --- Whatever!!!

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Originally Posted by fyesteema4

Don't meet anyone you meet online! It is just DESTINED to be horrible!!! Internet relationship are REDICULOUS. And he could totally not be who he says he is. If you feel like you HAVE to meet him have a friend ready to bail you out if it goes bad or you feel like you may be in danger. I wouldnt worry about you--He could end up being FUGLY.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

Yeah.

All guys that you meet on-line are "fugly" rapist murderers.

Do I need to explain?

Or do you get it now?

Wait...you do know what "fugly" means right?

updraft · #23 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 09:08 PM

No I dont know what the slang term "FUGLY" is although I have a pretty good idea...all I know is I am new to this forum like Damien is and all you can do is cut people to pieces and make us feel unwelcome.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

Do I need to explain?

Or do you get it now?

Wait...you do know what "fugly" means right?

JMark · #24 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 10:19 PM

Fugly = f#cking ugly!

Yeah... I vote Frasbee for mod! At least then people will probably put periods in their posts.

updraft · #25 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 10:59 PM

Why are you and he so concerned about periods and grammar for crying out loud> ?? Are you two english majors or something>?? Its a sex/dating forum not English For Dummies forum....

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Originally Posted by JMark

Fugly = f#cking ugly!

Yeah... I vote Frasbee for mod! At least then people will probably put periods in their posts.

DarkDwarf · #26 (**permalink**) 04-06-05, 11:43 PM

This was fun to read...

Frasbee · #27 (**permalink**) 05-06-05, 12:28 AM

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Originally Posted by updraft

No I dont know what the slang term "FUGLY" is although I have a pretty good idea...all I know is I am new to this forum like Damien is and all you can do is cut people to pieces and make us feel unwelcome.

Admit it.

You tried to get one up on me and it failed miserably.

Prodigal · #28 (**permalink**) 05-06-05, 12:52 AM

Nah, I don't vote Frasbee for moderator. xD

Why? He said to keep posts short, and I have a big problem with that. I usually have a lot to say... I think I may post longer on average than just about anybody on here.

He does have a good point about using proper English, though.

Frasbee · #29 (**permalink**) 05-06-05, 12:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Prodigal

Nah, I don't vote Frasbee for moderator. xD

Haha, to tell the truth.

I'm not really up for bein' a mod.

People treat ya differently when you're in a position of power.

If I insult somebody.

I don't want them to be afraid to do their worst.

updraft · #30 (**permalink**) 05-06-05, 01:06 AM

I don't relish talking to someone like yourself who has en extreme ego problem....sorry Frasbee but I don't feel you have one-upped me at all. I didn't come to this forum to banter with the likes of thread-bullies such as you. I prefer to talk with mature individuals. Good day.

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Originally Posted by Frasbee

Admit it.

You tried to get one up on me and it failed miserably.