how to ask girl out - Love Forum

joe45 · #1 (**permalink**) 10-07-05, 04:05 AM

ok with u guys do u usually make small talk about the course u both are taking togther and then maybe after a while of just being casual aquintances and nothing more-just the girl u see in class and , ask the girl you like out , or do u guys be freinds first with the girl and then ask her out.
the last time i asked a gal out was the first method made small talk and guess what it blew in my face, i asked her out right after our class to go have a cup of coffee with me and she said no maybe anpother time, 3 days later she told everyone in my class-college i got these smirks and smiles -it was embarassing too considereing the college i go to is small. everyone nows everyone-pretty much. and guess what i didn't even say anyhthing sexual or unappropriate -jsut cas converstions about her courses she was taking
my freind said i scared the girl off by going too fast and asking the girl out right away, as i should have gotten to now her more first as a person.
any thoughts guys what do u guys do if u like a girl in one of ur classes. funny thing is the same girl had 1 class with me in the previous semester and also in other semesters too was always looking at me , she never went up to me and talked to me. i took the glances and looks as interested motions-yea but then why would she say NO then funny hey.

boobaa · #2 (**permalink**) 10-07-05, 04:12 AM

Umm, I recently saw a thread like this, but I am not goint to track it down for you!

Nooze · #3 (**permalink**) 10-07-05, 07:35 AM

dude, first of all... u'd be very lucky to get a yes from a girl u hardly know. U should've talked to her and got to know her a little better... see what kinda person she is and let her see what kinda guy you are. this process will take awhile but u just have to be patient about it.... chicks are just too complicated.

Tone · #4 (**permalink**) 10-07-05, 09:48 AM

If you girls were at the park sunbathing in a bikini (by yourself, reading a book) and someone approached you, do you think that's appropriate? Being as you're very exposed. Would you think the guy is just a scumbag?

Discuss.

shh! · #5 (**permalink**) 10-07-05, 10:00 AM

Do people sunbathe in parks in Nebraska? Wow - that is sad.

Anyway, to answer your question - I guess it would depend on the circumstances. I don't think I would automatically assume he was a scumbag, but I would definitely be guarded.

Tone · #6 (**permalink**) 10-07-05, 10:13 AM

haha yeah, we are a sad people.

Well I really wanted to but I didn't think it would look good. Here I was after a long walk, no shirt on (yeah I'm hot), and there she is laying down in her bikini and she gave me a smile, but I just felt wrong.

Oh well. I think next time I'll go for it. Especially if she gives me a smile, I think I should have went for it after that.

shh! · #7 (**permalink**) 10-07-05, 10:17 AM

Well, if she SMILED at you, then of course you can say hi, silly boy! Just don't invite her to stay at your house.
:-D

Tone · #8 (**permalink**) 10-07-05, 10:37 AM

Yeah yeah I know I know. Hope I see her again :(