How can I tell her I want us to have another relationship later on? - Love Forum

Airborne · #1 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 06:31 PM

Well basically my girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago, and say's she just wants to be friends. This really hurt, and I still ahve strong feelings for her, I wont say love as we are both still only 16. We started dating after about a month after we met, and the relationship only lasted a month. We probably moved to quickly for people who didn't really know eachother that well.

She thinks im a great guy, and mentioned that we may have another shot at a relationship later on, but im not really entirely sure if she said this merely to console me or whether she was being serious.

Could any one tell me the best method with which to tell her that I still deeply care for her, and would like us to have a relationship later on when we know eachother better, and have a better chance of making it long lasting and worthwhile.

Thanks,
Airborne

pxc · #2 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Airborne

Well basically my girlfriend broke up with me about a week ago, and say's she just wants to be friends. This really hurt, and I still ahve strong feelings for her, I wont say love as we are both still only 16. We started dating after about a month after we met, and the relationship only lasted a month. We probably moved to quickly for people who didn't really know eachother that well.

She thinks im a great guy, and mentioned that we may have another shot at a relationship later on, but im not really entirely sure if she said this merely to console me or whether she was being serious.

Could any one tell me the best method with which to tell her that I still deeply care for her, and would like us to have a relationship later on when we know eachother better, and have a better chance of making it long lasting and worthwhile.

Thanks,
Airborne

Ask her exactly what you asked us.

Airborne · #3 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 07:17 PM

Aye I told her that I would like us to have another shot at a relationship when we know each other better.

But she really didn't give me much of a response when I said it, so im not sure whther thats a no, or whther she was just thinking about it.

TenorTwo · #4 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 09:06 PM

Now, this is only my opinion. If you have feelings for someone, you do, and if you don't have feelings for someone, you don't. To me, as another sixteen-year-old, when a girl says there is a chance for a relationship later, that's just the super-weak, nice way to break it off.

I mean, think about it. How can a couple of weeks change the way you feel about someone? It is possible, but with girls our age, I just don't find it very probable.

Really, though, I could be way off. Talk to her about it. Keep your feelings noticeable, but not over the top. Keep strong, and good luck.

Chlorine · #5 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 09:44 PM

Airborne----Be a friend. Get to know her better.

Tone · #6 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Airborne

Could any one tell me the best method with which to tell her that I still deeply care for her, and would like us to have a relationship later on when we know eachother better, and have a better chance of making it long lasting and worthwhile.

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Originally Posted by Airborne

Aye I told her that I would like us to have another shot at a relationship when we know each other better.

But she really didn't give me much of a response when I said it, so im not sure whther thats a no, or whther she was just thinking about it.

Kill me now.

P.S.>> Tenor is right. Move on, you're young, there's still much to experience.

TAVS · #7 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 10:09 PM

Don't tell her anything. If you want to stay friends, then stay friends. Let time determine what happens in the future. Saying what you want to say now will not help the situation.

shh! · #8 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 10:59 PM

You can try to stay friends, but she is very clearly not interested in a relationship with you. Sorry.

whaywardj · #9 (**permalink**) 14-07-05, 11:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Tone

Kill me now.

One's patience does wear thin, doesn't it, Tone? lol.

singularity2006 · #10 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 02:05 AM

I had that difficult conversation w/ her before and it's tough as !@#$ because she's soooo into me and just terrified of the idea of being w/out me. But then again, we're in our 20's so that's a slight bit diff. Between 16 and 22 though (assuming u finish college by 22), u will have shitloads of opportunities. Realistically, people start feeling more solidified after they finish school and settle into a job. In a school environment, things are just way to easy to makeup, breakup, and hookup.

MrDrum · #11 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 03:37 AM

You are only 16. Move on, and forget about it. If you run into her years down the road and things spark again? Great... if not.. doesn't matter. You will meet lots of girls, and feel this way many many many many times.

Airborne · #12 (**permalink**) 15-07-05, 09:29 AM

Ok I think i'll take the route of staying friends with her and get to know eachother better, may give it another shot if the opportunity presents itself. But asides from that I guess its best if we just stay friends.. Guess you guys are right, time to move on.