I need some advice - Love Forum

comptonsamurai · #1 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 01:25 AM

I am sixteen and I work with a girl that I really like (we both work at a gun range.) Recently my friends urged me to ask her for her number which worked out sucessfully. Then a couple days after I asked her if she wanted to hang out. She had to decline then a couple more days later she called me and told me that she liked me, but she had a boyfriend. I told her that I liked her too and she said that she hoped if she broke up with her boyfriend that we could still have a thing.

She has been going out with this guy for almost a year and the only thing that I'm really afraid of is that she will lose interest in me before she breaks up with her boyfriend. Does any body have any advice? Should I try going after her or just be friends with her until they break up?

artyemi · #2 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 01:29 AM

or you're going to wait till she breaks up with her bf?

when exactly is she going to do that>?

anyway, go about your life as normal.. see other people. if she breaks up, great, if not, then move on.

Tone · #3 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 01:30 AM

Sure, here's some advice:

She has a boyfriend. Back off.

TAVS · #4 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 01:40 AM

Both good replies. Heed them

NeoSeminole · #5 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 01:58 AM

I swear, some people are morons. She's been going out with her bf for a year. Don't be a prick and ruin a good thing for them.

Girlie19 · #6 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 02:28 AM

Strange thing for a girl to say anyway... I would never say that I might get something with someone when my current relation is over... If she says that, she not entirely sure about her current relation. Or so it seems to me. Either way, leave her until she breaks up.

Prodigal · #7 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 03:18 AM

If she says stuff about being willing to leave a bf of a year for you, then what does that say about her? And if you did get with her, would you trust her not doing this same thing to some other guy?

I don't think she's worth it. She should break up if she's already looking elsewhere.

comptonsamurai · #8 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 04:35 AM

Does any body think that I should go for it? I mean I really like her and I know that she is way out of my league but I think that we would be really happy together. We've also hung out together alone outside of work. Maybe she want to break up with her boyfriend but she just doesn't want to hurt his feelings?

TAVS · #9 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 04:48 AM

Oh good thought. I bet thats it. What were we thinkin?

Asip4u · #10 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 04:53 AM

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Originally Posted by comptonsamurai

Does any body think that I should go for it? I mean I really like her and I know that she is way out of my league but I think that we would be really happy together. We've also hung out together alone outside of work. Maybe she want to break up with her boyfriend but she just doesn't want to hurt his feelings?

You basically came to see whether someone will give you a green light to ruin someone else's relationship. The best advice here was already given. If she feels anything for you, let her make that move. If you end up doing it, it can end up biting you in you know what, sometimes down the road. I'm sure you wouldn't want someone stealing your g/f so be cool and allow her to make that decision.

Only-virgins · #11 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 08:22 AM

Life is competition. Just remember that..so get rid of the guy shes with if you can..I mean if they really love each other then there should be no possible way you could come between. They obviously dont love each other since she is thinking of leaving him for you. If she doesnt leave him for you she will for someone else eventually.

I dont freaking get it. How can you have a boyfriend and like someone else?. To me thats a contradiction. If I have a GF and I like someone else she wont be my GF for long. its as if people date and have relationships just to have them because everyone else is having them rather then to make themselves happy and for love.

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Originally Posted by Tone

She has a boyfriend. Back off.

That would never stop me.

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Originally Posted by NeoSeminole

I swear, some people are morons. She's been going out with her bf for a year. Don't be a prick and ruin a good thing for them.

Shut the hell up. Your the moron. Don't call people morons.

Tone · #12 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 11:04 PM

I have a friend who says "If I can steal her from her boyfriend that means he never really had her anyways"

I don't disagree, but I wouldn't go after someone with a boyfriend. (Yeah I say that now, even though I've done it on more than one occasion...) I guess it's kinda of a different situation if she's showing a lot of interest in you... the only 2 times I went after a girl with a boyfriend she showed interest in me before and during the boyfriend.

I had a friend who went after an ex-girlfriend of mine and it pissed me off... the same friend a year or so later had a girlfriend that was all over me trying to get with me, saying she'd leave him for me, etc but I never acted on it.

NeoSeminole · #13 (**permalink**) 21-07-05, 03:27 AM

Big mistake Only-virgins.

"Shut the hell up. Your the moron. Don't call people morons."

Can you offer more substance to your post besides calling me a moron?