What's with him? - Love Forum

Usoup12 · #1 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 12:19 PM

I used to have a crush on one of friends about a year ago, but it's ended very badly and felt that he lead me on. I had to move back home because money issues. Before I lefted I told him that I never wanted to speak to him again and acted like he didn't care. I moved back six months afterward and didn't speak to him. After a week and a half, he approached me and asked why I didn't talk to him. I brushed him off and went on my way.. It's very akward because I had no attention of being friends with him again and somehow with the combinition of being mutal friends with my friend and him really wanting to be my friend and now he's acting like this and is getting weirder and weirder towards me. I've decided to be his friend again, because he really wanted to be friends and there's no point of hating him. Now, he won't say hello to me anymore and acts all uncomfortable and depressed around me.But he stares at me constanly and always find a reason to come up to my room. Eventhough it was summerbreak, he almost comes over everyday and almost everyone I hang out or talk to now, he hangs out with, too. And he hangs out in most of the same places as me, but he acts he doesn't like me. He also gets angry and upset when I mention going out with guys or walks out the room when I'm playing with my friend Andre. He has a girlfriend, but she's an evil ***** from that makes him cry. The question is why is acting this why? I thought he wanted to my friend.

updraft · #2 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 12:52 PM

It would help me to understand why you ended things with him in the first place. You left out alot of details there....also, how old are you?

Usoup12 · #3 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 01:05 PM

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It would help me to understand why you ended things with him in the first place. You left out alot of details there....also, how old are you?

The reason why is that I told that I liked him and said he said that he's having a hard time with getting over his ex-girlfriend and that maybe when he's ready and in the next two days, he's going out with this other girl. Also, my friend who has class said that he was talking shit about me about how I was annoying and stuff like that and then denied ever saying it. Also, I'm ninteen. Never been in a serious relationship.

mini696 · #4 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 01:32 PM

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I used to have a crush on one of friends about a year ago, but it's ended very badly and felt that he lead me on.

Did you get together? Or were you only friends?

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Before I lefted I told him that I never wanted to speak to him again and acted like he didn't care.

Thats all is was... An act. Of course he cared.

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I moved back six months afterward and didn't speak to him. After a week and a half, he approached me and asked why I didn't talk to him. I brushed him off and went on my way.

How did he know you were back?

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It's very akward because I had no attention of being friends with him again and somehow with the combinition of being mutal friends with my friend and him really wanting to be my friend and now he's acting like this and is getting weirder and weirder towards me.

Its probably getting wierd because you havent told him you DONT want to see him anymore. He thinks you do, and wonders why you wont talk to him. Is your mutual friend talking to both of you? Have you said anything to this person that could be interpreted wrongly if relayed to your ex-friend?

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I've decided to be his friend again, because he really wanted to be friends and there's no point of hating him.

No point in hating, but why be his friend because he wants it?

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Now, he won't say hello to me anymore and acts all uncomfortable and depressed around me.But he stares at me constanly and always find a reason to come up to my room.

He got you back, now he's getting revenge on the hurt you gave him. Either that or its about the thrill of the chase for him.

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Eventhough it was summerbreak, he almost comes over everyday and almost everyone I hang out or talk to now, he hangs out with, too. And he hangs out in most of the same places as me, but he acts he doesn't like me.

This guy sounds obsessive, and depressing. He's tagging onto your friends in a vain hope that by being near you he'll win you over. He is using his sadness to make you feel guilty.

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He also gets angry and upset when I mention going out with guys or walks out the room when I'm playing with my friend Andre.

Jealous. He wants you. Its obvious.

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He has a girlfriend, but she's an evil ***** from that makes him cry.

Well if they aren't happy why are they together?? Because he is a downer, and hangs onto people who either like him or use him. His GF is a user, you are a liker. Problem is he gets the two mixed up. I may need to explain that if I can later.

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The question is why is acting this why? I thought he wanted to my friend.

He does, but he has a depressive personality. He think by making you feel sorry for him you'll like him. By being mean when he feels like you hurt him, he trys to make you feel guilty, and take pity on him. By not talking he trys to make you come to him.

Mick
PS I could be WAAAY of track here. Maybe he is JUST A PRICK!!

mini696 · #5 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 01:36 PM

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The reason why is that I told that I liked him and said he said that he's having a hard time with getting over his ex-girlfriend and that maybe when he's ready and in the next two days, he's going out with this other girl. Also, my friend who has class said that he was talking shit about me about how I was annoying and stuff like that and then denied ever saying it. Also, I'm ninteen. Never been in a serious relationship.

Wow, after typing (me) all of the crap above, I think you'll find this guy is a JERK. He didn't want to go out with you and used a cop-out excuse like "I'm having a hard time getting over my GF". What a load of crap, the best way to get over someone is to find someone else.

Forget about his guy. He's an ass.

Mick

Usoup12 · #6 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 03:00 PM

Actually,he is a very sweet person, but he doen't like to hurt anyone's feelings. I do still have some feelings for him, but I've dated and gone out with other guys. He's been very depressed lately. I thought that he was annoying when he came over a lot, but when I haven't seen him in about a week, I started to miss him. Also, the both of acted like we didn't like being around each other, but we end up using excuses to see each other. He a very indescive person and so am I.

Usoup12 · #7 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 03:06 PM

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Did you get together? Or were you only friends?

Thats all is was... An act. Of course he cared.

How did he know you were back?

Its probably getting wierd because you havent told him you DONT want to see him anymore. He thinks you do, and wonders why you wont talk to him. Is your mutual friend talking to both of you? Have you said anything to this person that could be interpreted wrongly if relayed to your ex-friend?

No point in hating, but why be his friend because he wants it?

He got you back, now he's getting revenge on the hurt you gave him. Either that or its about the thrill of the chase for him.

This guy sounds obsessive, and depressing. He's tagging onto your friends in a vain hope that by being near you he'll win you over. He is using his sadness to make you feel guilty.

Jealous. He wants you. Its obvious.

Well if they aren't happy why are they together?? Because he is a downer, and hangs onto people who either like him or use him. His GF is a user, you are a liker. Problem is he gets the two mixed up. I may need to explain that if I can later.

He does, but he has a depressive personality. He think by making you feel sorry for him you'll like him. By being mean when he feels like you hurt him, he trys to make you feel guilty, and take pity on him. By not talking he trys to make you come to him.

Mick
PS I could be WAAAY of track here. Maybe he is JUST A PRICK!!

I weren't together, just friends. Also, I've had two fights about this with him. When I talked to him and acted like being his friend, he'll be all normal. Also, he never got upset before when he mentioned guys. Now, he gets a major attitude. Also, why does him care who go out with?

misombra · #8 (**permalink**) 18-07-05, 03:07 PM

he doesn't want to hurt your feelings so he won't tell you to your face. he's not interested in you. go out and find somebody who is. leave this boy alone.

updraft · #9 (**permalink**) 19-07-05, 06:15 AM

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Wow, after typing (me) all of the crap above, I think you'll find this guy is a JERK. He didn't want to go out with you and used a cop-out excuse like "I'm having a hard time getting over my GF". What a load of crap, the best way to get over someone is to find someone else.

Forget about his guy. He's an ass.

Mick

Mick, I take back what I said about you...I guess I read one bad thoughtless posting and judged you solely on it....sorry. ITA with what you said, this guy is a jerk and is she allows him to play with her head then she enables the jerk. Period.

-L

mini696 · #10 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 07:07 AM

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Mick, I take back what I said about you...I guess I read one bad thoughtless posting and judged you solely on it....sorry.

Never a problem... I'm sure there was more than one post that would make you think I'm a prick.

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...she allows him to play with her head...

I agree with this.

She needs to take the control. Play with his head if you must be around him. But take control of the situation.

Mick

Usoup12 · #11 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 07:25 AM

Mini696,He's not the type of person to do mean stuff, just out of spite. He's a very nice person.I agree with what you, first said because that's basically him. There's no other explainaton, but why he does kept doing it after when I said I was a friend now? Also, could explain the user and the liker, please? I'm interested in that.

mini696 · #12 (**permalink**) 20-07-05, 08:37 AM

A User (Player?) will;
1. ...wait for you to call them.
2. ...they use you to give them something to do. The reason you have to call them is they cant be bothered to make up something to do, and because they are users they have more people on their string to replace you.
3. ...take all the affection you can give, but only every now and again give back a hint of affection, to keep you stringing along.
4. ...and every now and again, they will make it look like they really want you, because this is hardly ever done by them, you take it as a sign of affection, and fall for them again.
5. ...push you away when you want them.
6. ...beg for you when you dont show interest.

A Liker (nice guy?) will;
1. ...make you feel like they want to be around you, a liker will try VERY HARD to make it known you are a desirable person.
2. ...phone you.
3. ...reply to your messages ASAP
4. ...not flirt with you just to see if you will bite, and give them an ego boost.
5. ...their actions are genuine.

Mick

Usoup12 · #13 (**permalink**) 21-07-05, 09:28 AM

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The reason why is that I told that I liked him and said he said that he's having a hard time with getting over his ex-girlfriend and that maybe when he's ready and in the next two days, he's going out with this other girl. Also, my friend who has class said that he was talking shit about me about how I was annoying and stuff like that and then denied ever saying it. Also, I'm ninteen. Never been in a serious relationship.

He told me that six months ago, before he started acting like this.