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27-07-05, 01:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Zeen hunky-dory.  ....ok....????????
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27-07-05, 03:33 PM
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| | | Yes, it would be nice to have someone closer again. That I could actually see on a regular basis, not just when I can afford flights. Some of my friends look at me with an ugly stare when mentioning the 9-year age gap. "That's NOT allowed", they say..."Shame on you!". While some others try and convince me it isn't so bad.
So I'm sat here feeling like I would be a sleazy old guy trying to take advantage of her because she's so much younger if I was to go out with her. Not a good feeling feeling guilty about trying to opening up to someone. But maybe she would be good for me, and vice versa. I know a few people around me would find the idea despicable, seeing someone who was 11 when I was 20. Hmmm..guilt, guilt...
She's so sweet, and affectionate. She just sent me a morning mail, and is and has been so generous, thoughtful and considerate with me... It's almost as if it's too easy. I'd hate to break her heart or see her hurt though... but not sure what I want. Every time I think of the two of us in a joyful happy way, I always get stopped by a strong feeling of guilt for being too old. Though I have to say, I'm much more like a 25-year old. Kinda feel like one in a way, And everyone thinks I am as well.
But it doesn't change the fact that I AM 9 years older. Just wondering if I'm off limits here. Maybe I should stick to someone closer to my age...  | |
27-07-05, 10:28 PM
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| | | Why let your friends live your life for you?
You're not 20, and she's not 11... you're 31 and she's 22 - I don't see a whole lot wrong with that, especially since you know you're not just some scumbag guy lookin for a young chick to get with. | |
28-07-05, 12:33 AM
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| | | no big deal. not at all. | |
28-07-05, 08:58 AM
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| | | Hmm...can't shake the bad feeling I've got...
Long distance again, plus I think no matter what, I will feel guilty... I just can't help it. Have tried to think that I can get used to it, to convince myself that it's ok. But something inside me won't let me...
Besides...not fair to her to go out methinks, as I'm not really in love with her...I think. Well, we never got enough time to get there before. Just know that I do like her more than a friend. But can't shake the thought of the last girl out of my head. Even though I know it' s not happening there, she's still the one... I'm afraid I'll hurt this new girl, as I'm just gonna subconsciously compare her to the last one, and just not be happy because it's not the one I really want.
I know this all probably sounds quite shallow and immature, but I can't help feeling like this. I'd love to do all the romantic stuff with new girl, but I think I might just be projecting the feelings for girl1 to girl2, and that wouldn't be right. As I'm not really sure I'd feel comfortable with us going out like officially. Which just sounds bad. Perhaps it's just too early. But if I reject girl2 now, I will lose her too... I hate being dishonest with people. Just leads to hurt...
From experience, it's not very good to go directly from one emotional attachment to another, so maybe I should just stay off it. I think I might have to tell her that I can't see her....sigh... She's gonna be so disappointed... and I will probably be too...
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28-07-05, 07:11 PM
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| | | Sorry man. You sound like a loser to me. Perhaps not generally, but with chicks. All that sentimental shit is for girls. Be a man, get on with it. I bet you haven't really banged a girl for ages. One piece of advice though - if you can't get laid after a week or two, she doesn't dig you. Get the message? I have been with 8 chicks this year already. It's just to go for it, man! Don't be such a pussy. Girls don't like emotional guys, so wise up. Don't give a shit about what they say or do, then they'll beg to sleep with ya.I know this for a fact. And us guys don't fall "in love", we wanna ****. Simple as that. Dump'em both, they don't sound like fun girls. | |
28-07-05, 07:15 PM
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Originally Posted by xxstallionxx Sorry man. You sound like a loser to me. Perhaps not generally, but with chicks. All that sentimental shit is for girls. Be a man, get on with it. I bet you haven't really banged a girl for ages. One piece of advice though - if you can't get laid after a week or two, she doesn't dig you. Get the message? I have been with 8 chicks this year already. It's just to go for it, man! Don't be such a pussy. Girls don't like emotional guys, so wise up. Don't give a shit about what they say or do, then they'll beg to sleep with ya.I know this for a fact. And us guys don't fall "in love", we wanna ****. Simple as that. Dump'em both, they don't sound like fun girls.
don't listen to him  too much clichés in one post
"And us guys don't fall "in love", we wanna ****."
Ehm then I'm a girl? or wtf are you trying to say? | |
28-07-05, 07:50 PM
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| | | It's true, and you know it. When a guy wants a chick, he always wants to do her. Just falling "in love"? That's a ****ing lie, and every guy knows it. Hot babe = sex in us guys heads, and that's the truth girls. Some guys just trying to disguise it, and they get nowhere.
And this guy def should listen if he wanna get anywhere. Just be a hard, tough, real man. Skip all the bull, get to the point. That's what they want. | |
28-07-05, 07:55 PM
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| | | So what are you saying? I'm a loser for having feelings?????!!! I have to say I feel sorry for you. You're the one who's missing out on a lot of things.
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28-07-05, 08:01 PM
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| | | Nah, loser was perhaps a bit strong. But you're definitely acting like a girl. | |
28-07-05, 10:16 PM
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| | | Oh for crying out loud then just forget about her... it's not worth it if you can't yourself get over the age barrier - then find someone your own age and stop sweatin this girl that doesn't even live near you.. or get over yourself and realize the age difference doesn't matter... stop ridin the fence, you're just repeating yourself and gettin no where. | |
28-07-05, 10:26 PM
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| | | Yep, I definitely need to sort it out... | |
28-07-05, 11:38 PM
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| | | Babes don't wanna do you the way you handle things. Don't be so ****in' soppy. I mean it. And I'm only trying to help you along here. Ditch them biatches. Find a fine chick who'll do ya, but you gotta be real rough with them. Chicks like that. | |
28-07-05, 11:41 PM
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31-07-05, 03:54 AM
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| | | Hm, I wanna stay friends with the girl who eventually turned me down. She still appreciates me A HELLUVALOT!!! Nothing could be more obvious. But not as my gf. She has some issues to sort out and doesn't want to waste my time. So I guess I haven't managed to get her out of my head and heart (cliché, I know), even though I have someone else interested now. New situation for me. I usually manage to keep relationships and affections apart from each other. I know the facts, she only wants friendship. I should let go...but what if she changes her mind down the road, and I'm occupied...
Now she told me this in a letter I got about a week ago. Would it be rude to wait a while to reply saying I'm ok with being friends? If I'm a good friend, I shouldn't really let her wait around for an answer to that, should I?
Zeen, always unable to see clearly into his own mess...lol
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