no Kiss Goodbye???

[Zeen]

Sorry, can't help you with that I'm afraid... I'm new to this forum. But do you really need to? Do you think it would be a good idea to submit a real photo? Although I suppose we're all curious to a certain degree how others on the forum look, it's not necessary for these conversations if you don't really want to.

[mini696]

"Could be anything from the info provided. If there's been a gap since last date, he could just be shy and wondering if it's still on. Did he seem just as interested in you otherwise?"

I agree with this.

Why didn't you kiss him? Maybe he's thinking the same thing. You know he is shy, yet you still expect HIM to make the move?

****in womens lib, want to be treated "equal", yet still expect the man to make a move.

Mick

[whaywardj]

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Originally Posted by clynn

how do i post a picture???
and how do I view others?

Click the Gallery button at the top of the forums page. (You'll have to logon again for that area.) It shoudl be self-evident once you're there. Some posters have photos at other sites. You can check the public profiles to see who might. (Click the screen name.)

[clynn]

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Originally Posted by mini696

Why didn't you kiss him? Maybe he's thinking the same thing. You know he is shy, yet you still expect HIM to make the move?
****in womens lib, want to be treated "equal", yet still expect the man to make a move.
Mick

Ooops, Yeah, I guess I could make the move. Shy and awkward, I guess. I am not too good at making moves, this I will admit to, for sure.

"And there weren't any other signals that he was not as interested? How long have you dated, and when you say you've been physical (I don't mean to dig into your privacy here), was that just a snog or something more?"

No other signals, no, not at all. It was an excellent night actually. Lots of chatter between us, teasing and good conversation. Yes, regarding physical relations, its been more than snogging, yes indeed.

"How would you describe him?"

Cute. Smart. Extremely hard working, responsible, diligent. Close to his family. Funny, likes to enjoy himself socially. Reliable. His job is rather high pressure and busy. He is just about to leave on a holiday and will be going travelling for several weeks. On the side he enjoys playing the guitar and artistic pursuits. We're both quite busy and so the dating has been spotty at best.

In fact, we are (maybe-good chance) working on a show together in the fall and this could mean we'll be spending a lot more time together, working on a project. Could be a good way to really get to know each other better, coudl be a disaster, ha ha!

Then the neurotic in me thinks, gee, is that his way of floating me into friendship.......

[mini696]

I have a rule with my GF.

No matter what happens, no matter how annoyed, or jealous, or pissed off either of us are with each other. We have promised (well she asked and I promised) to kiss her goodbye and hello, each and every time we are together.

Ask him to make the same deal with you.

Mick

It's just a kiss...nothing to get your undies in a bundle over.

[eloise]

i beg to differ - my undies are in a big bundle because of a kiss!!

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Originally Posted by eloise

i beg to differ - my undies are in a big bundle because of a kiss!!

they shouldnt be.

[clynn]

thanks.

this is what i was wondering. If it was something that was a big deal to me, but not such a big deal to him. And that knowing that it means whatever it does to each of us is important. Aaaah, communication, communication.

Actually I'm pretty sure I've kinda ticked him off / frustrated a bit cuz of a couple things:

1. he is makign plans to go travelling. So am I. not together, these are plans we both were making before we started dating. however, there is a chance we could hook up on our trip if things work out. he is planning / scheduling his trip (the planner that he is). Me, I fly by the seat of my pants. This, of course, I think he finds a bit frustrating, especially in terms of us maybe or maybe not meeting. Of course, a lot of this is speculation as he hasn't articulated a lot of it, but I'm pickign up on it now (finally, sometimes takes a while for the penny to drop).

2. My reluctance to talk about more 'serious' things with regards to relationships (we are, after all, still new).....ie: He talking about how living with someone could make our lives easier, sharing chores, cooking, etc. I suggested he could always get a cleaning lady? Ouch. That perhaps was a shut-down.

[icecreamISgood]

I'd be concerned b/c the same thing happened to me with a guy I was dating for about 5 months. He started being less 'touchy' and then started to not kiss me at the end of the night, or at all.. when I confronted him about it, he said he wanted to just be friends with me.

[Zeen]

How can a kiss not be a big deal? That's the sign of affection you're looking for. The reminder and "confirmation" that it's more to it than just a friendship. Now , he could just have been shy, or perhaps intimidated by your remarks? Which he shouldn't be if he had a sense of humour and self-irony. If he really likes you, this shouldn't matter.

Nonetheless, going back to hugging after having been more intimate is usually quite telling of someone's intentions or rather lack of it... Does he still know what you think of him? If this carries on, ask him. Honestly, if he's somehow made his mind up, you may as well know now rather than waste your precious time. The longer you wait, just wondering...the harder it gets if and when they tell you they only want friendship. And we don't want you to get hurt.

I think most guys would like to kiss the girl they fancy, if they don't they're either doubtful, shy or just playing games. Find out which...

If there is more signs that lead to him not wanting you, then you should have your undies in a bundle. That's actually what I meant by the first post.
How is it going now?

[clynn]

No, there isn't really anything else Just the uncertainty of something that is new, you know. Like a baby in the first trimester, sensitive. Ha !

Ummm, now? Well, actually, he's gone off out of town, he'll be gone until the end of the summer. That's sort of the thing. We didn't really clear up whether we were or weren't gonna meet up while he is away because I haven't been able to sort out my schedule, etc (my head for instance). And also cause i didn't really think it was a big deal if we met up or not, but in hindsight I realize that he may have been itnerested in that and trying to tell me that.

As well, his trip has been coordinated in such a fashion that I could make meeting up with him possible, though I would be adjusting my plans somewhat. Of course, he already has adjusted his as well. I think I'm learning he does these things but doesn't point them out, and I'm just supposed to recognize his intention and then appreciate his effort. (I kind of like that he doesn't grandstand it, but it does make the communication / understanding more difficut).

Of course this is all just a hypothesis.

Another hypothesis: Could be he planned the entire trip just so that he would miss me just barely making it more comfortable for us NOT to hook up. And maybe he's gonna meet up with a girl on the trip instead!

ha ha! see how my mind twists these things up. Gross.

Ai-yay-ai !!!!!

Thanks, everyone!

[Tone]

/patpat clynn

[clynn]

ha ha! pat pat???