what should i do - Love Forum

teddysnuggles · #1 (**permalink**) 03-09-03, 09:51 AM

what should i do to regain my lover. we started talking to each other back in april and started seeing eadch other shortly thereafter. 2 weeks ago someone told her husband about us seeing each other. he had been abusive to her in the past and also to her 2 boys. she always told me that she loved me forever and for always but now she will not call or email me or talk to me.

what can i do to try and regain her love?

she threatened to leave him several times after we started seeing each other but now says she can't due to her children.
i could provide for them better that they are being provided for now and i dearly love her and miss her so much that it make me feel like a worthless, no good for nothing person, and like a piece of trash since she will not talk to me anymore.

i need to know what to do to get her back.

Illusional · #2 (**permalink**) 04-09-03, 05:01 PM

this is a tough situation because to her, you're still second. she did devote her love to her husband first...remember that. plus she has two children with him already. well...you said he's abusive and she probably did fall out of love with him. i think that you're in a tight situation because she might be looking to you as a rebound. you're a nicer guy than her husband and this is what she has been missing. besides the fact that she has children, that is her first priority and you're still second to them. personally if i were you, i'd just wait it out to see what happens because the decisions all lay in her hands. raverboy

teddysnuggles · #3 (**permalink**) 06-09-03, 01:35 AM

folks i need some more replies so i will have several to look at to make my decision on this matter. let me hear from some more of you. thank you.

Illusional · #4 (**permalink**) 06-09-03, 02:51 PM

wow i guess my advise wasn't good enough... *heads back to the refridge to grab another beer* raverboy

Innova · #5 (**permalink**) 07-09-03, 05:22 AM

ROFL illusional.

Its true, all you can do is wait for now. The decision is really in her hands, do not force the situation, because taht could allow hell to brake loose. If you really want to talk with her, let her know sincerely. However you must tread softly in any situation. Tis true, this is a very tuff situation.

teddysnuggles · #6 (**permalink**) 10-09-03, 04:29 AM

ILLUSIONAL:

I DON'T DRINK LIKE YOU DO. YOUR ADVICE STINKS JUST LIKE YOUR CHARACTER PROBABLY IS. SOUNDS AS THOUGH YOU ARE AS CRAZY AS A BAT. YOU DON'T HAVE SENSE ENOUGH TO GIVE ANY ONE ANY ADVICE.

teddysnuggles · #7 (**permalink**) 10-09-03, 04:32 AM

IF THE PEOPLE THAT READS THIS WOULD REPLY THEN MORE ADVICE WOULD BE GIVEN. THE ONES THAT HAVE REPLIED ARE MOSTLY GOOD EXCEPT ILLUSIONAL LAST ONE.

jane · #8 (**permalink**) 15-09-03, 09:54 AM

I have to tell you that I am in your situation. SOrt of ...
I jsut started a new job and I am really attracted to a co worker. He is amazing, not to mention sexy as hell. I have no idea waht to say except, with something like this ... it just has to take time. She is problably confused or afraid that he will find out about the two of you. Have you had any contact with her recently? It could be that the husband has an idea of what is goin on and she is trying to make it seem like there is nothing or she has no idea what to do and she is afraid of losing her kids.
I would try and contact her and see if ther is a way to meet with her and talk about it. You may have to wait until she is ready.

Ladies' fan · #9 (**permalink**) 15-09-03, 10:57 AM

The WORST thing a man can do, in addition to supplicating to women, is to become fixated on one woman. Men who really know what they are doing with women call this "one-itis".

It turns them off in a big way and in any case they are NEVER worth it.

Ditch her and move on. You will find a woman who is better and without baggage. She's not worth it...the one word that should be in your mind is "NEXT!"

Good luck,

Ladies' fan.