she is a great girl, but why am i not into it?

[klip]

This has me puzzled, in the past 3 years i have had about 4 serious relationships ( serious as in we did actually like each other allot, we didnt want just sex or something else ) and something would always mess things up ( hey it wasnt meant to be ) but things with my current g/f ........are different...


its strange, i really like her..so so much, so far we have been going out for 6 months and still we are really happy...and the thing is that i KNOW she is a great girl for me, she puts up with my crap ( hey we all have our moments ) and her family loves me, she loves me, she is funny, etc, etc but here is the weird thing...for some odd reason, even though she is 10X better than my previous relationships

im not AS atracted to my current g/f as i was, say, my ex.....like i do love her allot im really happy to be with her......but something feels missing...i dont feel like i know i should i just dont understand why im like this? im not cheating on her, i have no other girl im "Talking to" ( i dont do these 2 things anyway ) so nothing is in my way technically....i just want to talk to some people here, maybe i can root something out cuz i just cant explain these actions

[Ellynn]

It could be because you aren't completely over your ex. What happened with that situation? I know you said things got messed up with past ex's, but what happened with the last one? Or actually I should say.....the one you were attracted to more?

Or it could be possibly your really happy but you don't have your heart quite in it because you feel like something is gonna mess up?

[Airborne]

Yea Ellyn is right, it is more than likely you are not quite over your ex, was it a painful break up or something? Just if that's so then that may well be your answer. It may well be that you still have feelings for your ex, have a think about that one. There are also probably some little things about your ex which you liked more, though your ex may not have been as great if you look at the big picture, it is often the little things which we base relationships on.

[Late_vamp]

i agree with the previous posts , BUT...

some girls just turn you on more than others , i used to have the same thing with my ex , i loved her and all , but this girl i dated before just really pushed my buttons . guess its just a matter of attraction , or have you been spending too much time together ?

[klip]

ah sorry guys, for some reason it wouldnt let me post untill now, here il copy+paste what i was trying to type way earlier, just after Ellynn posted, but yeah there is an ex in the picture, and as for spending to much time together, not at all i see her once or twice a week, sometimes even 0 times a week if weather is bad,etc she lives a tad far from me but its worth it

[klip]

hmm how odd it gives me an error when i try to copy+paste my lil speech, il try to split it into 2 posts

[klip]

haha yeah funny you should ask, well this one ex....
the first girl i ever said "i love you" to...the first girl i was
ever intimate with......she is still "around" like i still talk to
her and stuff...but recently i put her on my block list on AOL bec
ause i cant speak with her

( i told her we cant speak but she insists on IM ing me because she hates
not talking to me or something, she still loves me she says, but thats b.s
i know she is just playing games with my heart, i could go into details on
this if you want, but no point really it just shows that she just wants to
play with me, hah! love my foot... ) , it brings up to many memories.....
its hard to lose your first love.

[klip]

but that was 3 years ago when i lost her, and she is still around today,
she just wont leave my mind, its horrible she still holds such a large
place in my heart, but this is a straight forward topic, the point is, i MUST forget

[klip]

about my ex, and move on, or else i will be stuck in grief for ever, and the girl
im with right now is truly a great girl, i just hate not feeling for her, like i

[klip]

did for that one ex it just sucks b/c ,other than looks,
my new g/f is 1000x times better in every other category

[klip]

geeez sorry about the posts guys, only way it would let me do it....but yeah thats wat i was trying to post earlier

[Ellynn]

Alright....well......you said yourself your ex is not someone you feel that is worth going back with. But you sound like you are definately attracted to her more physically then mentally.

Honestly I would rather have someone that had the better personality and treated me with respect rather then someone who was hot and played mind games constantly. Thats just me though...

Yeah its best you cut her(your ex) out of your life.....seems like that is what is complicating things. IF you find yourself still not as into your current gf as you thought you should be....then maybe it would be best to end things. But I say give it some time first to decide(without the ex in the pic). Then make your decision. But I would defniately rule out your ex. Try someone new then....(if things dont work out with you and your current gf). Eventually you are bound to find someone who has qualities that don't make you feel like somethings missing.

[Tone]

[Ellynn]

Tone, whats up with the blank reply?

[Tone]

It's not blank ;[

Don't you see the message?!