Known a girl for a while..Now how do i get her to go out with me?

[thisonekid]

Long story short:

Facts: We are both 16, used to go to the same school, are good friends.

Known a girl for 3 years, didnt realy hang out with her till 10th grade in highschool. Then when the 10th grade was over, she went to this ATC (Advanced Technology Center) for 11th and 12th grade while i stayed at the same highschool. Now that the junior year started, she invited me to a Halo Lan Party, which had around 10 people, well i came there, and hung out with everybody, and realized how attracted i am to this girl. Then couple times i just hung out in her room, and had a friend to friend conversation, while other were playing Halo. Well now that the party is over, i called texted her asking if she wanted to hang out sometime, and she said sure.

Since then i havent called her or anything.

She is always eager to hang out, but i am not sure if she wants dating someone.

Well now how do i ask her out? should i just like call her, and say, hey umm want to go out with me this friday? or like would it be better if i just etxt her with that message?

I just dont know what to do, and i am just crazy about this girl. I need ways that would interest her in me, as a boyfriend, and not as a friend...How would i do this...

[TAVS]

You're moving too fast kid. Go out as friends a few more times and go from there. You can flirt but dont bring up dating quite yet....go with the flow and dont force it.

[Frasbee]

She invited you to a ****in' Halo lan?!

Jesus christ what's stoppin' you?!

[thisonekid]

lol dont know what to ****in talk to her about? should i just like ask her to the movies or something?

[Frasbee]

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Originally Posted by thisonekid

lol dont know what to ****in talk to her about? should i just like ask her to the movies or something?

Nah dude.

I'm assumin' she likes games.

Just hang out with her more.

Just don't wait too long to ask her out, else she'll just start to see you as nothin' but a friend.

That's a hole that's almost impossible for a guy to get out of.

[gHEXjt]

Here's what you do: whip it out, take her hand, and tell her that you're going to take her on a little exploration. If she doesn't slap you, then you're in.

Just kidding about that man. You don't really need to come up with anything to talk about with her. If you guys get along really well and are into each other, that will just come naturally. There shouldn't really be any awkward silence. And just do whatever you want with her. If there's a movie you both want to see, then go see it. Go out to dinner, but don't pay for it all yourself, that will give you away. Just hang out a few times, even if you just watch tv together. That way you are just getting to know each other better and are getting a good feel for one another. Then if you still want to start a relationship with her, tell her how you feel, or just plant one on her. Your choice. Or hey, maybe she'll take that step first, which will make things easy for you. Bottom line is, just take it slow, and don't sweat what to talk about or any of that garbage. Just be you and see what happens. Good luck

[thisonekid]

hmm Dont give myself away huh, well wouldnt me inviting her to a movie give it away anyway?

[gHEXjt]

Maybe, but its not like your coming right out and saying, "Would you be my girlfriend?" You just want to send subtle hints for awhile, and if everything seems to be going good, then tell her how you feel, or like I said before, just plant one on her, your choice. Just give it a few "dates," or hang-outs, whatever you want to call it.

[Tone]

I agree with TAVS... just hang out, show her you like her, but don't tell her until you get a better read on her. Little things like body language, lots of smiling, maybe touching her arm while you talk, etc. Just ask her if she wants to go see a movie, don't make it seem like a big deal.

Go with the flow, and pay close attention to her reactions to your flirting. When the time comes you feel you know she's really digging you, try taking it a step further. Most important thing is to just be yourself, talk about whatever. Find out what she's interested in, ask her more about herself, girls love talking about themselves, but more important than that - they love when guys LISTEN, like - really listen and not just nod and smile while thinkin about what you would like to do to her ;p

[Lloyd95]

What's "halo lan?"

[shh!]

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Originally Posted by Tone

Find out what she's interested in, ask her more about herself, girls love talking about themselves...

I laughed when I read this, because it has always been my understanding that GUYS like talking about themselves!

Lloyd - I think Halo Lan might be some sort of video game party, but I am only guessing...

[Tone]

Well, in reality people in general, both male and female love talking about themselves... I said girls there just tryin to apply it to his situation.

But I agree, that people, both male and female, love to talk about themselves. (:

And yeah, back when I was in college I was invited to a LAN... and I just didn't get it. I told them "Isn't this what you have the internet for?"

[Frasbee]

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Originally Posted by shh!

Lloyd - I think Halo Lan might be some sort of video game party, but I am only guessing...

Yep!

It's a popular gathering of geeks.

Unfortunately due to the ability to play games on-line it's dying out fast.

[thisonekid]

yeah its like a bunch of xboxs hooked up together, so that everyone can play against each other at the same time...

well anyway thanks for the suggestions, and as suggested by many, i will take it slow, hang out couple times, then go from there...